We really don't know this family at all. They just moved to town a couple of months ago. My daughter spent the night there earlier this week. They live in a brand new house, that is very nice. They have a daughter that is my daughters age and then two little boys under three. They would be going to a lake resort about two hours from our house. I am not sure if I should even consider this or not. My daughter is a good kid and is very smart, but she likes to flirt and be in the in group. I am worried about not having enough supervision and her getting into trouble with boys. What do you think??
2007-07-25 11:39:05 · 17 answers · asked by Angie W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You dont know these people so its a no brainer. You say no.
You dont know anything about them.
2007-07-25 11:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to let go sometime, Mom. Give her a breather. Get to know the family a little more so that you will all feel more comfortable. That's how you get to know people. They are the new kids on the block so give them a chance. Make sure your daughter knows that she can contact you if anything (and let her know anything -- even if she's just scared or whatever) goes wrong and make sure she knows that you'll pick her up no matter what.
Get the phone number of where she'll be for emergencies only. You don't want to make her feel like you have to check in every day. Thirteen is right around the corner after 12 so you better start the trust and independence now. That's how young people learn. It'll make her appreciate her family even more when she comes home.
2007-07-25 18:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, my daughter is 12 and if I did not know the family too well, and not know how these parents are with their own kids, I would not allow it- she could kick and scream in a raging fit but no- sorry, with the pedophiles out there, and twisted world we live in now days? who is to say the father can be trusted?
not to pass judgement, they can be wonderful people but until you get to know them more, I just wouldn't risk it. Simply explain to the mother that you really do not know them and maybe next year would be a better idea if they go again etc..
It is not about the boys that would worry me, it would be what about the parents, kids and supervision? Trust comes first.
2007-07-25 18:58:54 · answer #3 · answered by brandy2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you let them take your daughter to an amusement park for the weekend?
Your question is a tough one becuase only you can answer it.
I would say if its for just a couple of days and you don't see any reason that you don't trust the family.....then let her go, but make sure that she calls you every night before she goes to bed.
If you REALLY don't want her to go because you are afraid something bad will happen then don't let her go, but if its just that she is 12..........then you should let her go......she is growing up. 12 is still a kid, but this is when kids start to learn who they are and knowing that parents trust them is what helps kids stay in line.
good luck with this decision.
Also, make sure to get the address and phone number of where they will be staying.
2007-07-25 19:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should get together with the parents of your daughter's friend, discuss rules, and so on. Get all the necessary info from them, and even ask if it would okay to visit your daughter during the time she is away. Unless you prefer to know them better before you allow your daughter to go on this vacation. Perhaps wait until next year after getting to know the parents better.
Does your daughter have a cell phone that you could keep in touch with her? If so, this might also relieve your fears.
If it were me, I'd go with my gut feeling whether I let my daughter go or not.
2007-07-25 19:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by pattimaris1675@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do this! Like somebody said. You gave it away before. You don't know them. I too am a young mother of a six week old and have a seven year old step-daughter and my hubbie and I don't let my step-daughter go on trips if we don't know the family well. I'd say you talk with the family and explain your reason. If the argue and say "Oh it's a nice place", say "I'm sorry, but maybe after we get to know you more."
2007-07-25 18:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first sentence you wrote gave it away...."We really don't know this family at all."
I wouldn't trust anybody with my daughter unless it was a relative especially if it was on a vacation and she would be alone. You don't know if the father is a rapist or something, What is their background. You've only met them, and you may think that they are nice but it's not good to take that kind of risk that may put your daughter in danger. But it depends on your judgement as a parent and if you think that is right.
Good luck!
2007-07-25 18:45:57 · answer #7 · answered by Thank you Baltimore 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
little boys under 3 shouldn't be a problem, you might want to check with the mother and ask about what type of lake this area is, and what they allow their daughter to do and not do....it might be a good break from your daughter and allow her to have some free time away from you and come back refreshed and willing to help you in your lives as well
2007-07-25 19:26:06 · answer #8 · answered by Stymie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your situation, I don't think I'd let my daughter go. It would have to be a family we really trusted, and had known a while for that to even be an option. So many things could go wrong....I can't even name them all. It may be totally fine, but there's just no way to know.
2007-07-25 18:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Dj 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you have this conversation with the other kids parents. They won't be mad at you for wanting to protect your daughter. Hopefully they can ease your fears. If it's only two hours, then maybe you can pop in unannouced to check on your daughter sometime she is gone.
2007-07-25 18:45:31 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I MAT NOT HAVE A DAUGHTER AS OLD AS YOURS BUT AS A CONCERN MOTHER I WOULD HOLD OFF ON THE TRIP. UNTIL YOU GET TO KNOW THESE PEOPLE MORE. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT MIGHT HAPPEN AND SHE WILL BE SO FAR AWAY. HAVE YOU SEEN THEM WITH THEIR CHILDREN? ARE THEY NICE? DO THEY KEEP AN EYE ON THEM? WHAT IF THEY LEAVE YOUR CHILD ALONE FOR A MOMENT? IT ONLY TAKES THAT ONE MOMENT TO LOOSE HER. I JUST MEAN, THINK REALLY HARD ABOUT THIS, IT'S LIKE SAYING YOU ARE GIVING THEM YOUR LIFE FOR S SHORT PERIOD? DO YOU TRUST THEM ENOUGH WITH YOUR LIFE?
2007-07-25 18:48:16 · answer #11 · answered by TURTLE LOVER 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋