I come from a very "traditional" family that looks down at this, and all the conservatives always say that this is bad because it increases the chances of the relationship not working out....but is this really true? Is it really a bad thing to move out with your girlfriend/boyfriend?
2007-07-25 11:22:53 · 21 answers · asked by Randolph 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Randy, you're going to have to answer that one for yourself. What are your religious or ethical beliefs about marriage and relationships? It needs to be a personal decision, based, not on what your family thinks, but what you know to be right.
2007-07-25 11:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by shine_radiantstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving in too quickly, before you actually know someone that well, can be disasterous. Don't just move in together to save on the rent. There is a slightly higher chance that, if you should marry, the the marriage won't work out. The reason why the divorce rate for cohabitators is slightly higher, about 5-10%, is probably because non-cohabitators are more likely to be conservative or religious and therefore less likely to divorce.
2007-07-25 18:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by Cybele 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so. See...I see your family's point of view and the only part of it that I would agree with is that living together could increase your chances of becoming pregnant. Being that you will be sharing the same bed with this person. And of coarse if you guys truly weren't ready to live together then you messed up a good thing for no reason. Other than that I feel it lets you know if you CAN live with this person for the rest of your life. Times change. My only advice is to really look at your situation and decide whether you want this person in your face all the time, sharing responsibilities, getting used to habits and learning to CONSTANTLY compromise!!!! It is not a walk in the park. It takes work. Just listen to your gut. Deep down you know what you want and what feels right. Good Luck sweetie!!
2007-07-25 18:32:16 · answer #3 · answered by handvict81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on you and what you want. I would never move in with a boyfriend because it can increases the chance of things happening and I would like to wait to be married before moving in with some guy. But thats me so its really on how you and your friend feels.
2007-07-25 18:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are so tricky today! With more than half of all marriages ending up in divorce -- and many of those are traditional, religious people getting divorced -- then it's a real toss up. I think younger people have a better chance of marrying after living together than those over 40. Men over 40 seem to think they don't have to commit to anything.
2007-07-25 18:27:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sassie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally see no problem with moving in together before marriage - I actually think that it's usually a smart thing to do. Usually you're serious enough to know that you want to be together before you move in, and moving in before marriage allows you to experience how living with someone and being around them all the time is without actually committing to something that you can't get out of. It's much easier to stop living together if you see that it's not working out before you're married - if you're already married and you move in together and realize you can't live together peacefully, it's much harder to do something about it.
Living together will force you to learn about all your significant other's weird habits like leaving hair in the drain, etc, and it will make you decide if you can deal with them and continue living together and get married or if it's too much for you.
My sister, who's getting married next month, has been living with her fiance since January, when he proposed. I think that living together as an engaged couple has helped them get acustomed to being around each other all the time, and the transition to a married couple will be much easier because of it.
2007-07-25 18:32:21 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, some families and religions will advise against it, I think it's best to live with someone before you get married. Yes, it will increase the chance of your relationship not working out, but wouldn't you rather know if you're compatible living with someone before you get married to them?
2007-07-25 18:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not true that a relationship is less likely to succeed if the couple moves in together prior to being married. my Family is huge and if the couples within it are any example; the opposite is true, the couples who lived together before are still together and the ones who didn't aren't.
2007-07-25 18:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is bad when you just met the person or it isnt a strong relationship! Like if you have been together for a long time then it might be a good idea.
2007-07-25 18:28:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two people that get along while dating don't have to get along while living together, living together is a whole other thing! You should really try it before marrying with someone or else you'll end up getting divorced.
2007-07-25 18:32:11 · answer #10 · answered by Redswill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋