.....Ok I met this person through my friend (he is her dad) I am 27 and he is 45.We right from the get go had tons of stuff in common ,plus we were physically attracted to eachother. I already knew that he was going through a divorce and the b**** had stuff on him (not bad stuff he did) He is a really good man...keep in mind.Well it didnt take us long to develope strong feelings for eachother......after a few months he told me about some major depression issues and bipolar issues he was facing due to his wife and certain things she put him through...name calling , belittling etc.Well he started to get really quiet and I asked him if there was still a chance for them to work it out. He said no way that would never happen he has no feelings for her whatsoever .He was a little worried I wouldnt stick by him,he left!! I didnt hear from him for a week and all of a sudden he leaves a message saying I lwhen I said I love you I meant it and he was crying.=( I dont know what to think any tips
2007-07-25 11:11:02 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Red flags all over the place. The age difference is one huge factor. Aside from the age, he's divorcing. When there's a divorce, there are two sides to the story, you'll only get one and most of the time it's so biased it's distorted. The other issues is that he's telling you he has mental problems. Regardless of his reasons, sounds to me like he's blaming his wife for "bi-polar" disorder and major depression. The fact that you didn't hear from him for a week and then he calls up crying is another issue. This is something you should seriously step back from. Let him work things out for a while before you jump in. When you get to know all the little things about him, and they're satisfactory, move forward. Until then, give it time to breathe!
2007-07-25 11:22:59 · answer #1 · answered by Lori E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not commit to him until he is for sure divorced, men say lots of stuff when going through a divorce, even tell untruths about their wives, u can't believe everything u hear. best to take a good hard look at the man's past before getting too involved.sounds as if he may have some mental illness going on and maybe u need to tread slowly and not get your hopes up about him just yet, wait and see first what happens with the divorce.
2007-07-25 11:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get his head on straight that's the first thing that should be done. He's not the first nor the last to go through a divorce, yes it hurts but one need to take it upon themselves to get this mess behind them. I know was married for 30 years, you talk about crap coming down the pipe,... just my thoughts on this matter.
2007-07-25 11:16:58 · answer #3 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes on the rebound, I think you should give each other space and if it is meant to be eventually it will all work out. I think You can do better that's a big difference.
2007-07-25 11:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Los 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a huge difference
might be too big
even for love
2007-07-25 11:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always follow your heart!
2007-07-25 11:16:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love him back? you should call him back and sicuss what happend
2007-07-25 11:14:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋