Been about a week. My friend now is thinking her daughter may have come onto her boyfriend. She may take him back. I feel bad for her daughter. She did not file a report. I tried to explain to her, he is a growen 33 year old man and her daughter is a child. Children don't aske for it. I don't know if I can stay her friend if she takes him back. What should I say or Do?? He has been rasing this girl since she was 5 years old. Does not have a father. My friend has three other children, but he youngest his his daughter. I do'nt know why she can't see whats going on. She still is going to eat and movies with him. with all the other kids except the daughter that told. I feel that is wrong. Can i report the abuse?? My friend thinks her daughter wanted to be touched, because her daughter is boy crazy. I told her thats what 13year olds do. Crazy for a boy, not a growen father figuer. She is confused right now. how long till she wakes up??
2007-07-25 11:09:31 · 19 answers · asked by anawoman3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I will report it today. thanks for all your help.
2007-07-25 11:42:56 · update #1
I would report what you know to the police. Your friend is wearing blinders and putting her own desperate need ahead of her childs welfare. She is pathetic. Please at least report what you know then say bye to your pathetic friend.
2007-07-25 11:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should report it if the mother wont. Try and be there for the daughter but keep a close eye on things if you have to. Regarding staying friendly with the mother, i don't see how i could. She is very cruel and irresponsible to be doing such a thing to her daughter. It is obvious though that she has already chosen this man over her child based on the fact that she is still seeing him. I really think that you should intervene. If you don't want to report it then tell another family member of theirs and let them intervene. This child obvious needs a voice to speak for her. Please don't help to ruin her life by turning a blind eye.
All the best
2007-07-25 18:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
report her now. Don't wait you should have as soon as you heard. Don't tell your friend you are going to do it cause she will have her daughter change her story. It is going to mess the girl up in future. Who cares if your friend gets mad at you. You will be doing the right thing!!
She is not a good mother if she is doing this to the child. And turning all the kids against her shame on her for doing it shame on you for waiting on calling someone for the girl and having to ask if you should on here how old are you anyway?
I have done plenty of foster care there is enough messed up kids in the world from men and woman like them.....Not fair to the child.....
2007-07-25 18:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some females never grow out of the boy crazy stage. It seems your "grown up" friend is that way. Soudsn like she's willing to sacrafice her family for this guy.
You have to report it. you don't have to be a fmily member to do it.
you're right, no kid ever deserves to be molested. Even if she were walking around topless, he should have never touched her.
He's probably been doing it since she was a little girl.
Be prepared to lose her friendship.
2007-07-25 20:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by Jdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely wants reporting. No doubt in my mind this guy, if not already, is showing signs of being a Child sex offender. Even if it doesn't bother your friend (Which I find quite disturbing) other peoples children need protecting from this predator.
If this isn't reported he will continue abusing children.
I think your friend may be suffering a form of shock that is surfacing as denial.
2007-07-25 18:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by segunitb1 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wait, he was CAUGHT doing it and she thinks the daughter came onto him? Even so, the daughter is UNDERAGE!!! OMG! It doesn't matter if the daughter came onto him or not he's an adult. That's not right at all. Talk to her about it and if she doesn't budge than stop being her friend because that's ridiculous!
2007-07-25 18:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Randy C 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please please report her - I know she's your friend, but at the moment, your friend needs your help - if she ever truly realises what she's done to her daughter by letting this man into her life, she will thank you for not letting her do it again.
She's doing her poor daughter a huge disservice here - whether she came onto the guy or not (unlikely) doesn't she think he should resist when women come onto him? Let alone 13 year old children! Please please save those children, you have a responsibility to them, since you know about this, not to let them go through it again.
2007-07-25 18:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely report it! Her daughter may have "came on to him" but that doesn't justify why he did what he did. He's supposed to be the adult. I am disgusted! Who cares if your friend will be upset with you for reporting it. If she's not looking out for her daughter's safety then you should! Please help her daughter!! I beg you!
2007-07-25 18:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can report the abuse and please do so to protect the child. Even if the child did ask for the contact, it's still a crime and the guy needs to do time.
2007-07-25 18:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by DelK 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Please report it! If he's been raising her since she was 5 I'd bet my life savings this wasn't the first time he touched her.She's lucky to have a friend who cares so much. Since she did nothing about it you may be her daughter's saving grace.God Bless you:)
2007-07-26 12:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋