Im 13 and might have sex,im CONFUSED,should i?HELP!?

Question

ive been w/ my bf for awhile,and we both are very attracted to each other,and feel like were in love. im 13,and hes 14,and we both are very mature,and responsible.He told me that we should try to progress are relationship,and i think/know now that he wants to have sex.He said we can def. wait,and he told me we dont have to,ut im starting to think that i want to.I think im mature,and old enough,i know the consequences,and i think we could be safe on that part.

i know im really young to have sex,but i feel like i wana,i think im ready,but i feel its too early,i know some ppl will say its WRONG and i shouldnt,but im confused,cuz i want to,but i think its wrong..

help,im confused..!!

ok, i know its wrong for me to do that so early,but in a way for me its right,confusing yea i know.

should i like,give him oral or something,cuz i wana prgress in that way,but yea

and my bf isnt pressuring me,i kinda want to do this

Answer 1

Compromise! Open communication and complete understanding. Put up a daily schedule, who is doing what and for how long? Then switch!

Answer 2

wait until you're older and you've been with him awhile. . . . and if you don't want to wait . . . do oral, at least you are gettin/giving pleasure and you aren't goin to get babies from it, unless it leads to sex . . . which . . . just make sure it doesn't. and if you still want to have sex, maybe you should practice first. first, practice by putting an object way too big in your vagina, then stick it up so far that it feels as if it's inside your stomach . . . because . . . it can go there, now . . . this entire act should last no more than 5 seconds (and that's giving the guy a little more credit). when you have come to the conclusion that you like excruciating pain and the possibilities of STDS, practice going into a store and purchasing condoms and see how it feels. then, practice getting scared every month just because you think you can get pregnant . . . and when you stress about it . . . your period holds off . . . so who knows? you could be pregnant. practice going back to the place you got the condoms, and now purchase a pregnancy test for $12 . . . and then be ready to have one of the worst feelings of your life . . . and then imagine a possibility of having The worst feeling of your life. and then practice having the "one of the worst feelings" every month until you have the "worst" feeling . . . because even though you hate to have "one of the worst feelings" . . . you are now a nymphomaniac. o . . . and then just for precaution . . . practice how you will tell your parents that you are still in middle school, and are expecting a child . . . you would introduce the father . . . but he's gone. good luck with that.

Answer 3

When you're older (lets say, 20? 25?) and you get married to a wonderful man, how would you feel if you found out he had slept with other people when he was 13? 14?

Besides all of this nonsense..

What if you get pregnant? Do you know condoms can fail? Did you know you can get pregnant before, during, and after your period? Or even BEFORE he has an orgasm, with something called pre-ejaculate?

Are you ready to be a mom? How woudl you pay for diapers? Can you change a baby? Have you even held a baby?

Do you feel nervous yet?! I do, and I'm only 21!

Unless you can handle the consequences, don't do it.

Remember you'll have to live with whatever you do. :(


NO sex until you can:

1. Are comfortable and mature enough to discuss sex and it's consequences with your partner.
2. Are willing to accept you MAY get pregnant, and mature enough to have a plan if you do.
3. Are conscious that aside from birth, there are other consequences like STD's that may be deadly and stay with you FOREVER, like herpes or HIV. These can also be transmitted by other sexual activities.

You're going to do whatever you want anyway, but make sure you're atleast educated, so you can make the right decision. Goodluck..

Answer 4

it's not wrong per se, but you might want to wait. yes, maybe you're both mature for your age so you think you can handle it, but the fact is you're still 13 and 14 - you have a lifetime to experience sex, and being in love. it's good that you're thinking about it beforehand. but i'd say wait until you're 100% sure down the line, don't do it too early just b/c you think you might be ready, only to find out afterwards you weren't - it's not something you can get back or pretend didn't happen. and also there are many psychological things that go on when you have sex - think about this: what if you do it and you two break up? how heart broken would you be? odds are being 13 and 14 you're not going to stay together forever so save yourself some possible heartache and confusion and give it some time. you'll thank yourself later.

Answer 5

I think it's too young. 13 is pretty young to me and even if you act mature for your age I don't think your mentally mature right now to actually decide if this type of thing and the consequences you could face are what you actually want. Losing your virginity isn't the greatest thing in the world like many make it out to be, don't get me wrong it's nice, but it's better when done for the right reasons and when all your heart is behind your emotions and your mind is free of negative thoughts or doubts, which you must be having doubts or second thoughts if you wrote this. Look, first of all a month isn't that long of a time to get to know someone and second of all if promising he'll get laid if you date for at least a month wasn't that smart because now you don't really know if he actually loves you or if the only reason he's still with you is to get some. I say save your virginity for a different time and at a point in time in which everything just seems to be so right about giving it up, not just over a promise. Many girls actually regret losing their virginity when and how they did and so do some guys, don't be one of them. If this guy can stay in a relationship with you for over a couple of months without pressuring you and by being respectful of you then if you feel he's the right person and it's the right time then I'd say go for it. But in all honesty I think it's to early of a time for you and I'm not trying to put you down, only trying to help you avoid a painful lesson in life that could be avoided. Give yourself a little more time, I think your hormones might be acting up, maybe puberty? Good luck though, be careful whatever your choice is.

Answer 6

Well, given the fact that you are asking this question shows that your are NOT ready if your "confused" & "think you want to". Note, thinking that you want to is not you really deciding. IT'S YOUR HORMONES that are leading you towards that direction to have sex. I know you might not want to hear what I'm going to say, but I am going to tell you anyway in hopes that I can make a a difference in your life.

MY ADVICE IS: Do not have sex yet. You should wait until you are older (at least 18 years old) & more mature, better yet wait until you get married to have sex, it's better that way. While you think at the age of 13 that you are "mature & responsible enough" YOU ARE NOT. At 13, aren't you just a freshman in High School? fresh out of Junior High, right? what will happen if you get pregnant? or catch an STD? don't say you won't because YOU DON'T KNOW THAT FOR SURE. You have got to protect yourself. If it means waiting till your older & wiser, then do that. I'm pretty sure that's what your parents would want for you. At the age of 13, you should be more focused on school & your school work rather than sex at an early age. Wait until you get to college to have sex & make sure that it's with a guy who is long term, a special guy, a guy who respects you & hopes to make you his wife when the time is right (hope your still with you BF when that time) comes).

Answer 7

No answer anyone can give will be a good one. At your age it's a slippery slope. Sounds like you've already made up your mind. Also sounds like your boyfriend has a good idea, by saying "It doesn't have to happen anytime soon." But, if you two decide to do it, BE SURE TO USE CONDOMS for protection against STD's, as well as pregnancy. And, if you try it, and your boyfriend refuses to use condoms, or says he'll stop and pull out before he comes, DON'T TRUST HIM!
You can still get pregnant or STD's even if he doesn't ejaculate inside you. And, at 13, you aren't ready to have a child OR a disease.
I just hope you're as mature as you think you are.
This might sound crazy, but you should seriously consider speaking with your folks about it first, that is assuming they are the kind of parents you can go to with your deepest problems.

Answer 8

I have a 14 year old daughter, and believe it or not, I was once 14. The emotions you are feeling are very real and very strong, but you need to stop and think! Having intercourse right now is not right. I don't mean morally, I mean emotionally for you. Everything about your body, hormones and brain are changing right now, and you need to let it continue without having sex. I believe you when you say that you and your boyfriend think it's love and are very close, but you are not mature enough, and a relationship is tough enough without throwing sex into it!
Do you have someone older that you trust that you can talk to? If you don't, then maybe a doctor? Please let yourself enjoy the boyfriend/girlfriend thing, and don't hurry into anything more involved then kissing. You have lots of time to do that in the future. Enjoy this relationship without sex.

I can only hope that my daughter can let me know when she's thinking about having sex. I hope I can see the signs...

Answer 9

I really think you should wait....14 is def too young to start something like that. It's a big step and if something should happen could you really handle that big of a responsibility and would this b/f of yours really stay around? Or if that did happen would you be able to get an abortion. You might just be thinking this cause your scared to lose this bf of yours if you don't have sex with him. The longer you wait the better it is. If he can't respect it then he CLEARLY doesn't respect you. You shouldn't do something on impulse. It's something that needs to really be thought about...and how long is awhile? Best Adivice Is To Wait!

Answer 10

Hey, Sweetie. I know you're confused, but if you're confused it probably means you're not ready.

I'm glad that you feel you may be too young, because you are. Think about it this way: You're thirteen. You have all your life ahead of you. You can't even legally get married for five years, and you won't be able to drink for eight years! And you're going to ruin your virginity in one instant, on a fourteen year old boy. You're not even in high school yet, and you could get pregnant!

It's not even the consequences, it's just the actions. Are you ready for the full responsibility of a child at thirteen? Are you ready to have STDs? Are you ready for a bad reputation? Are you ready to disappoint your parents? I know you're not, and you should wait.

I'm not trying to be mean, and I'm not trying to be cruel, but it's a big world out there and you can't try to swallow it all at once just because you want to. What you need to do is say "WHY do I want to? Am I going to really jump the gun just because?" You probably are just having hormone swings, you're still in puberty! It's not time for you to have sex. You're trying to be mature, but the truth is that being mature isn't having sex and being safe, being mature is thinking it through and waiting. If you take your mind OFF sex, you'll find that it's not pestering your mind. You're putting it in there.

It's wonderful that your boyfriend isn't pressuring you, because most guys do pressure you. There isn't much more to it: He's willing to wait. GREAT. You've got yourself a keeper. I personally think that if you have sex when you're thirteen (say it and it sounds so shocking!) you're taking away from the beauty that is marriage. Save yourself for your wedding night, and I think you'll feel so much better.

Who knows, you might end up marrying this great guy! And what if you don't? He is just a teenage boyfriend, most likely. You guys are young, you don't know what type of people you like and don't like and how it really could affect you. What if you don't marry this guy? (a giant possibility, you're a teen) You look through your yearbook when you're thirty, with kids, and what do you think? "That's the guy I lost my virginity to." that's all you'll remember.

But if you wait, and you put it in the back of your mind, and you get on with life, you'll think "He was a nice guy." And you want to respect him, don't you? You want good and happy memories of your teen years.

Sex is really polluting, I think. I honestly wouldn't know, I'm a virgin and proud of it, but really, what will you benefit from sleeping with this guy? What will actually happen that could be that great? Nothing.

Wait, please, think about it. He's willing to wait, you're confused, you both have massive amounts of hormones, and I'm sure you're both mature. Good luck, I hope you make the right decision.

God bless.

Answer 11

No, no, no. Your hormones are doing the feeling right now. Your heart beats fast, you get all dreamy. This is a natural reaction from your brain and puberty doesn't help the situation. Wait, wait, and wait. I made such a big mistake, i had those same feelings. Today, years later, I would be so embarrassed if I ever saw this guy again. But, girl, I was sooo in LOVVVE!! ha ha.! just wait it out, it will get better. When you are about 19 or 20, you will begin to be a little more selective with me, choosing them for not only their abilities with providing for you or taking you out, and other qualities, instead of crush, puppy love. WAIT IT OUT GIRL!@! if you are confused, you are definitely not ready