I am 18 and dont really like kids. I would never have a baby of my own, just not me. Everyone seems to think there is something wrong with me cuz I dont want kids. It just shows how messed up the world is. I cant stand babys and little kids and no one understands that kids are not for everyone. But I blame it on media, constantly telling people how things should be. We have this image now that we have to fit into or its just weird. I am sorry I dont fit into the getting married and raising kids image that everyone believes is what ur supposed to do, but thats not me and never will be. So why do people assume something is wrong with me, when I say I would much rather be alone????? That is just how I live so stop telling me how to live.
2007-07-25 10:07:40 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You can start by not expressing your feelings about children, expect to the people to who it matters, like your spouse or partner. You don't have to have kids.
Remember though, you are young and your thoughts will change. When i was 18 i hated kids, i never wanted kids and i even wanted a hysterectomy so i wouldn't get periods because i didn't want kids so badly. Now i'm 23 and i want a child more than anything in the whole wide world.
And you can't get an IUD until you have a child already. Especially not if you are as young as you are.
2007-07-25 10:12:30 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I use to think the same way...So I do in fact know how your feeling. I had nieces and nephews that were almost as old as I was, I couldn't stand it when they came and visited. Then by the time I moved out and away from home, I grew up. I changed...I found the love of my life and YES I got married and had two absolutely Wonderful kids in which I ADORE........I think you need your space and I can certainly understand where you are coming from on how everyone expects people to raise their kids a certain way. It's true and only getting harder. My youngest is now your age, she'd love to get married and have kids.....Maybe, just maybe she has enjoyed her life enough to want to experience the same thing I did? Ohhh and you never know you might meet that Prince Charming who may change your very mind, it happened to me........There is NOTHING wrong with you, actually I see a young woman who has a good head on her shoulders, your Actually thinking things through, unlike many today......
2007-07-25 10:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mona Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's more that the sound of "I never want a child" is very harsh to most people. Most people find children delightful and wonderful.
I do think it's inappropriate to post such a thing in this area. My mother could not stand children when she was a teenager... now she has 13 children. She never would have thought this 25 years ago.
So your feelings may change as you grow older. And they may stay the same. I find -- I don't know if this is true in your case -- that most people who don't want children really don't want them because they (the parents) would have to give up "too much for some kid".... so really these people have a lot of growing up to do.
I will say that your feelings towards children are greatly changed (for the better) when you have your own.
Good luck in life.
2007-07-25 10:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by l1tlelady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with u as a matter a fact I was just like u maybe even worse I could not stand kids especially babies crying. Thats why I wouldn't even want to go to the clinic because of all the kids there running around like it was some sort of circus and the mothers would not do nothing but sit there talking to other moms. When my brother brought his 3 kids just to visit I coouldn't stand it everytime they would wine about the smallest things I would litteraly want to throw them around but ever since I came out pregnant & I now have my own son u see that it's so much different Ur gonna love someone looking up to u and u would not want someone like u or like I was before around them. So the best of luck for u:)
2007-07-25 10:32:43 · answer #4 · answered by babycakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with you...many people feel exactly the same way.
I did too, when I was eighteen. Right down to the disliking kids and everything. Now I'm 31 and I've had six kids, love them to death. Not saying that YOU are going to change, but there is always the possibility. And even if you don't change, that's perfectly okay...the world needs people like you to make up for the megabreeders like me lol.
By the way, I never did change my mind on the whole marriage thing...although I'm still with my partner of 12 years, the father to all my kids. Just don't go in for the whole marriage thing, it's not my cup of tea at all.
2007-07-25 11:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by KooriGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a cousin that felt exactly the same way at your age. 25 years later she has two kids and 2 or 3 grand kids and wouldn't trade em for anything. The person you are at 18 has very little to do with the person you will be in 10 years. If you had told me 20 years ago I'd be married with three kids and living in New Jersey today I'd have told you that you were insane since at that time I was single and living in Alabama. Never say never, life has one wicked sense of humor.
2007-07-25 10:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by wolfatrest2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are just ignorant and want to believe that everyone is like them, when we're all really different and unique.
If you truly feel you don't want to be married, and you truly feel you don't ever want to have kids, why are you upset about what they think? You have to consent to either of those things! It's not like they can MAKE you get married and have babies.
Just ignore it.
On the other hand, I'm sure you'll say I'm "one of them", but you're only 18. You're going to feel pretty stupid if you're 23, meet the love of your life, and want to do nothing but celebrate and procreate.
Why not just agree that the future is unpredictable when it comes to those things? It'll get everyone off your back, and you won't feel like a complete *** if for some odd reason you DO change your mind in the next 80 years you have to live!
2007-07-25 10:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by m0o p!e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you! At 18 years old, Even 23 years old i didn't want kids or to get married either. Everyone thought that i was not normal, but who are they to tell me whats normal for me! Same goes for you. Don't let anyone tell you whats normal for you because they don't know! Only you do! Besides maybe some day down the road you may change your mind.
2007-07-25 10:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by snowangel_848 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I think you're pretty normal for an 18 year old. You shouldn't want a kid now. You have a lot of things to do and live through at this point.
Even if you never want kids, that's fine. Not everyone wants to be a parent. There are plenty out there that SHOULDN'T be parents.
It's good to know yourself. Don't let other peoples' expectations bug you so much and be true to yourself.
2007-07-25 10:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by christine_ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 18 and don't really know for sure in a couple of decades whether you want kids or not, but for argument's sake, let's say you stick by what you're saying now. You know it's out of the norm, people are going to think you're strange for not wanting kids or marriage.
You don't have to defend your choice, just say, "You're entitled to your opinion and so am I." Gonna have to grow some thicker skin, because your family, friends, coworker, even the stranger on the street is going to wonder.
Soon enough, you will just end up ignoring their opinions, it won't bother you, I'm glad you're being honest, not many your age can figure that out.
2007-07-26 03:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋