My Maid of Honor wants a different color dress than bridesmaids?

Question

I'm OK with this, just confused about how it works.

I have my MOH and two BM's.
I was going to just pick a color and length (sage and tealength) and let them all pick the dress they liked best.
But if the MOH's dress is a different color (she wants chocolate brown) should all the dresses be exactly the same and just have hers be brown?

My colors are sage and brown with orange/ rust flowers.

Just for the record my MOH and I were looking at a magazine together and saw this look and mentioned she liked to me- but I know she would ABSOLUTELY wear the same color if I asked her to with no complaints, so no more bagging on her please =)

Answer 1

The only way it would work is if the dresses were all the same style & she had a brown one in the same style. Otherwise, all sage in what ever style they want. It could work with different styles and hers brown, but with only 2 BMs it might look like the MOH missed the memo about sage dresses. You'd have to have more BMs to make it work. Another way to make hers stand out is make it the opposite of the BMs. Ex: BMs have sage dresses w/brown sash & MOH has brown dress w/sage sash. Good luck!

Answer 2

If chocolate brown and sage are your colors, I don't see the harm in your MOH having the brown dress and the BM's having the green. But don't necessarily let your MOH just pick your colors for you! You could do the sage dresses with maybe the chocolate brown sash around waist and the chocolate brown dress with the sage sash or no sashes at all. But if YOU would rather have the dresses all be the same color, most bridal dress shops have the same color dresses in all different styles. You could always have both dresses be tea length but maybe the MOH dress have spaghetti straps while the BM dress has halter. You get the idea.

Answer 3

It is really up to you. I have seen it all different ways. For my wedding my MOH had a different color and a different style dress from my BM, although the styles were similar.

I was just in my MOH wedding and we had the same color dresses but the MOH was a different style. Friends of mine have had the same style dress but MOH was a different color.

I think it will look nice with the MOH in chocolate and the BM in sage. I'm sure everyone will be beautiful, especially you!

Answer 4

If sage and chocolate are your colors, then it might be really nice, especially if you can also have your flowers to contain both (green hydranga etc...). Having an accent of sage on your MOH's dress and chocolate on the others would also help co-ordinate.
If your colors don't contain chocolate, or brown however, it is your choice, your wedding and you would be justified in saying no. If that's the case, suggest she wear a brown dress for the rehearsal dinner instead...

Answer 5

I have a similar problem with the fact that my 3 bridesmaids are tall and thin and my MOH isn't and there isn't a dress in the same color that looks good on her (so she may end up in my other wedding color). Because she is the MOH, wearing a different color or dress it is similar to having her have a different bouquet. It will just make her stand out as your MOH.

Answer 6

you maid of honor probably doesnt care about the color of the dress as much as she wants to be easily distinquished as the MOH and not just another bridesmaid. My sister, who is going to be my MOH in June, has already hinted around that she wants to be different too. Maybe you could suggest to your MOH that instead of a different color dress maybe a different style or something would be better instead. Such as the sage dresses be longer and hers a tea length. But if your colors are sage and brown than having them the same style and different colors would look fine.

Answer 7

I think the MOH should stand out, if you are going for sage n chocolate brown in your wedding then yes, or maybe whatever colors you are choosing, if you are going for a accent color, make her dress the accent color. But never let her choose red, because that is a color that the eye is drawn to, and you need to be the center of attention, since it is your day.

Answer 8

Is brown part of your wedding theme? If so, then I think the MOH is ok wearing that color. As for the BM's dresses, you can stick w/ the sage dresses, but unite them together w/ brown ribbons tied around their waists. The MOH should wear a sage ribbon.
If that doesn't feel right to you, try BM's dresses in a lighter shade than the MOH's, then unite them w/ sage colored ribbons around the waist. Try both combos to see if you like one better than the other.

Answer 9

I have seen weddings where the bride gave instructions that all dresses were to be black and fall between a certain length and it sounds like a good idea. However my opinion is that since you only have 2 bridesmaids that if the maid of honor is going to wear a different dress than the other 2 should have the same dress on. Just my opinion - it's your wedding though go with whatever you think will look best. Go to the store and have them line up so you can see what it will really look like. Congratulations!

Answer 10

Good Lord, I feel for you. This is why I'm not having a MOH or BMs. Your MOH sounds like she has a superiority complex - forgive me if that sounds rude, but really the focus should be on you. If she wanted a different cut, then I would understand, but color? Geesh. I'm with others on here - a champagne or latte brown would be very pretty if you concede - but ultimately it's your day; she shouldn't even be dictating.

I really do hope you have a lovely wedding, though :o)