My cousin wants to be married in France because her sister was married in Barbado's problem is I don't want to do it nor does any of the wedding party we have told her this that we can't afford it .she has also told us she expects us to help pay for their honeymoon.My Aunt is already calling us yelling that we have almost 6 month to save up for this.Ilove my cousin but she has threatened not to talk to any of us again and will disown us.even her sister has said she can't pay for it.When she got married she declined gifts and paid for our gowns,has any one else been asked to one of these weddings?
2007-07-25 09:50:34 · 12 answers · asked by annabella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just heard from my cousin she,s not going to France for the wedding it seems her fiance'sfamily also decided that they could not afford to go to France for a wedding.They are going to look for some place on the Cape and have changed the wedding date it will be next June instead Thanks to all of you who took the tiome to answer my question
2007-07-26 08:42:05 · update #1
Tell her thank you for asking me to be moh but I have to decline.And since the bridesmaids feel the same including her sister maybe she'll change her mind.And I have been in a lot of weddings and never was asked to pay for the honeymoon.I think she's been watching that show on Style About destination weddings .My brother and his wife got married on Martha's Vineyard and since not everyone could go they had a party at my Grandmother's house she has a big house and a big backyard .everyone made something to eat and it was great .They did not look for gifts they just wanted to have everyone enjoy themselves.Good luck she sounds spoiled and I bet her Mom had a lot to do with it
2007-07-25 12:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by shawns bonnie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you can not afford it ontop of helping paying for it.
It sounds like no matter how gently you tell her, she is going to be upset. You need to just let her and the rest of the bridal party who can not do it also needs to voice it.
I had and re having a destinational wedding (renewl) and I understand some people just can't go. France is way out of a lot of people's limit and she can not disown people just because they can not afford over $3,000 + trip on top of their bills, school, kids and trying to take off work.
They can get married in France and have a "at home ceremony" for those who could not attend. That can be something for the family at home can throw together (family togetherness). some people do that. It comes out cheaper and much better in the end as no matter what, someone is still involved. They can be involved, but shouldn't be expected to travel to France AND pay for honeymoon (that is their responsibility, not yours).
2007-07-25 11:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The bride sounds horribly selfish and gimme gimme.
First, you do NOT have to help them pay for their honeymoon.
Second, if you cannot afford to be in the wedding party that is a destination wedding its time to step down. Perhaps Bridezilla will rethink things if her whole wedding party drops out due to not being able to afford the destination wedding.
Third, the Aunt can stick her opinions where the sun don't shine.
Hopefully Bridezilla has a change of attitude or else she'll find herself sans wedding party.
2007-07-25 10:16:22 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin sounds like a spoiled rotten little b****. You are in NO way required to put anything towards a honeymoon. If they can't afford it, tell them to stay home. If she is threatening to disown you, who cares. That doesn't sound like someone I would want to be associated with anyway. Your aunt and cousin sound absolutely ridiculous. They both need to get a life. It's her wedding. She can't expect anyone (especially her cousin) to pay for anything. Tell her to f off. She's being rude and controlling. Some people just amaze me.
2007-07-25 10:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
1. You are not responsible to pay for the honeymoon.
2. Your are 6 months out. If you can't afford going to France with them, tell them so as soon as possible.
Simply say: Due to financial reasons, I'll be unable to attend your wedding. I really would like to be able to go to France for your wedding, but I really can;t afford it. I'm honored by your request, but travelling overseas is impossible for me at this time. I would like to be dismissed as a MOH because I will not be able to attend. I'm sorry.
She's asking for too much.
If she wants to marry in France, let her go... ALONE with her man.
Paris is such an expensive, crowded and dirty place. I've been there and I will never come back.
2007-07-25 09:57:49 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Her behavior is over the top! You aren't responsible for her honeymoon or anything else! I am planning a destination wedding, and we chose to not have a bridal party, as we don't feel comfortable asking that of people. We are also paying for the airfare and hotel accomodations for our guests...a trypical wedding gift should be no more than $200...what she's asking from you is much closser to $2000! They have alot of nerve...I say let her do you the favor of not talking to you.
2007-07-25 10:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by melouofs 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell her that you can't afford to go...and do it now since there is still time. But also offer to help her with anything she needs with the planning...throw her a shower and bachelorette party and maybe even an engagement party or whatever. Just do whatever you can to show her that you are committed, but you just flat out can't afford to go to france. its ridiculous of her to demand everyone goes... and why does she want you guys to pay for their honeymoon?? who does this girl think she is?!?!
2007-07-25 10:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Dangerous Person 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't she just go to France as her Honeymoon and have her wedding where EVERYONE will be able to attend?
Tell her you can't afford it, maybe once she realizes that NO ONE can afford it, she'll change her tune
2007-07-26 00:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
get out now. I think it would actually be beneficial for you to not speak to her again. Plus if you band together with all of the bridesmaids and decline as a united front due to cost maybe she'll get the hint. Money grubbing bridezilla.
2007-07-25 12:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by JM 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Decline. Keep on declining, especially if people are calling and yelling at you. Does not sound like any fun at all.
If cousin or aunt want to pay for your round-trip plane ticket and your hotel room, then you can reconsider your decision. But until they are willing to pay, keep on declining.
Good luck to you.
2007-07-25 10:27:37 · answer #10 · answered by Suz123 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋