My ex and I are still very close and we talk everyday.we've been broken up 7 months now.And we still have strong feelings for eachother.but now he told me that he's seeing this girl.First he didn't want to tell me the name of the girl,after a while I got it out of him.She has the same name as me....and it's really bugging me alot....should I tell him or just let it go?
2007-07-25 09:18:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just let it go, you are no longer with him, it is hard when you are still friends with your ex, and when he tells you he is going with another girl, and her name is the same as yours, don't you find it odd, that her name is the same as yours, that, I would ask him about!!!!
But other than that, I would let it go, and let him start a new chapter of his life with her! If things are still ment to be between the two of you, then it will happen, but right now it seems like he is moving on even though her name is the same as yours!!!!
I think it is time to find a man of your own with a different name than your ex, and spread your wings and grow!!! The more you talk to your ex, the more he is preventing you from growing and finding new relationships!
2007-07-25 09:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. It is bugging you that your ex is dating someone who has the same name you do? Your problem is not that he's dating again, just that the girl has the same name?
You are okay that he's dating, you're just not okay with her name?
Sorry if I keep repeating this, but do you see how ridiculous it sounds?
If you are bothered that he is dating, obviously, you are not as over him as you think, and perhaps you should take a break from him so you can move on. If you are truly close "friends" and friends only, it shouldn't bother you one bit that he's dating. That's the simple truth. You should be happy he's found someone and is moving on.
I have guy friends I am close with who I dated at one time and I am nothing less than absolutely 100% THRILLED for them when they find someone they are interested in. I want them to be happy, just as I want all of my friends to be happy.
Now, for the name thing.
Really? That bothers you?
Unless you have a name as unusual as mine, which is extremely rare, I'm guessing your name is common enough that this person isn't the first one you've heard of with your name, so it's not all that strange that he'd meet someone with the same name. Heck, I know from personal experience that I've dated several guys who had the same name, so I'm sure guys encounter this, too.
So, if we go back to being happy that your friend who you are close with but whom you happened to date awhile ago is dating someone ... and that is wonderful ... and that this someone happens to have the same name as you ... then, I really can't understand why you are bothered.
If you really feel the need to mention it for irony's sake, I hope you do so ironically, and don't make him feel all weird about it.
2007-07-25 09:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better let it go.
I can see that you still want him and maybe love him.
But If he's seeing someone else than the message would be pretty clear. He's trying to move on with his life. And you should too.
Date someone else, meet other guys, make friendships.
Maybe with time, you two will get back together, or not. It just depends on him now.
Tell him how you feel and see how he reacts. Most possibly he won't feel the same way and if so, it's his loss.
But my first would be for you to start seeing other people.
2007-07-25 09:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by yumi_yune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With so much emotion and attachment towards him, of course you're feeling bothered.
But you have to look at it from his point of view, with other factors (you know his reaction probably better than anyone else) Think about what he could do/say about that. It is his girlfriend and if she has the same name it's coincidence, and not really his fault. I think you should let it go or lightly mention it, but don't make it a "deal" let alone a big deal. What is he supposed to do about how you're feeling? It's not really his fault.
2007-07-25 09:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to just let it go...
If you still like him that much you might have to remove yourself from him a little. Otherwise you are going to get hurt a lot.
Don't worry, if you are a sweet lady (I'm sure you are) he won't ever be able to replace you.
Hang in there.
2007-07-25 10:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by The It Girl ∆☻乐 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she's jus that the rebound girl if u guys still have strong feelings for each other and ur havin problems letting go but tell him it's not good to hold things inside
2007-07-25 09:22:09 · answer #6 · answered by shariah l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact remains, if we can't be lovers, we can't be friends. You are fooling yourself if you think you can be friends with your ex, he has moved on so should you. He is keeping you as a just in case, all else fails. Let go!
2007-07-25 09:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let it go because odviously he has.. he moved on to another chick so you should go out have a good time and mingle. find some one that can get him off your mind.. dont sweat him because if yall really had a lot of feelings for eachother he would have thought about how you felt if he moved on to another girl...---sexy red
2007-07-25 09:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by maxamarra s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to just let it go, and break off contact, at least for awhile. Since you said you still have feelings for each other, it's just not fair.
2007-07-25 09:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Valerie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him "you must be not over me yet if you found a girl with the same name!" let this to bother him instead of bugging you.
don't act jealous, and he will soon realise that you are a real one for him and she was just a replacement. be confident and deal with your jealousy, and he'll be back soon.
2007-07-25 09:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋