2007-07-25 09:13:06 · 29 answers · asked by Donna C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I actually preferred my daughter's boyfriend and their friends at our house rather than somewhere else. At least then I knew that she was safe.
I also took it as a compliment that they would enjoy hanging out in our home.
As long as your daughter is doing well in school, getting her homework done, and overall a responsible young lady, I don't understand what the problem is?
You can always create "visiting hours" when you allow her to have guests over, if your goal is to have more time alone with her.
2007-07-25 09:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I had a teenage daughter, I would want her Friends at my house every night. That way I could set the rules, I would know where she was and who she was with. And for the most part what she was doing.
2007-07-25 09:24:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at least you know where your daughter is . did you set a time limit or curfew? and dont you wonder why your house ??it just maybe some kind of compliment . and if you are feeding them they will come back . i do not mean this is a mean way but my daughter had a boyfriend and his best friend was over also. after a little investigation i found out that the best friend really had no where to go and the only meal of the day was the one i offered !! maybe these kids have no where else to go and the parents tossed them out too !!
2007-07-25 09:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by jgilbertdo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you didn't say whether you approve of your daughters boyfriend or not but as far as his friends being over every night you need to tell them when they are all together and say look i dint mind if you guys come over but its got to cut down like say two nights a week and not back to back tell them what days they can come over and that's it its your house and if your daughter or her boyfriend cant respect that then tell your daughter if she doesn't comply with the rules than her boyfriend will not be allowed over anymore if he cant keep his friends away at least 5 days out of the week then she will suffer the consequences for it period and don't turn soft because you may think you will be the bad person stand your ground and protect your privacy.
2007-07-25 09:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by pittbluebarrier 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
set a limit and rules and sit your daughter down and other kids if apply, and share these rules with them. Then post the rules on the fridge door and most importantly.....STICK TO THEM AND FOLLOW THREW. Oh, and when these rules are broken then make a concequence and let them know the concequence.....example......
RULES:
Friends hang out from 4pm - 7pm
Have your friends pick up their own mess and follow my house rules.
CONCEQUENCES:
If friends are hanging out longer than time aloted then the hours WILL change. ( then you decide how much you want to take away).
If your friends do not pick up their mess, then you will be responsible for picking up their mess.
If your friends do not respect my house rules, then I will remind them of my house rules and if they continue to disrespect my house rules, then they will not be allowed in my home.
This may sound hard and pety but it works. I have a home full of teens and with practice this works for me. OH and most important be consistent with the rules and concequences.
2007-07-25 09:21:16 · answer #5 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't. It's your house? Explain to your daughter that her boyfriend can come over but that its it. Just say your house is not the teenage hang out.
2007-07-25 09:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by i_b_winkn_at_u 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to fight fire with fire. I'll bet they are always eating your food so keep the fridge stocked with rancid moldy food just for when they come over. Hide the snacks and keep the cupboards bare. No sodas, no snacks, nothing to munch on. Or lock the cupboards so they can't get in. Seriously, cut off the food supply. Maybe disable the TV. They hate to be bored and hungry.
2007-07-25 09:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the mom, talk to your daughter if it bothers you. Maybe you and she could work something out so that they are not over every night, but yet if she feels you are "wronging" her, it is your house and you set the rules.
2007-07-25 09:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jess Jess 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to get the hell out. Your daughter's boyfried shouldn't even be at your house without his friends she is too young to have boys over well unless she is 18 but otherwise have bounderies
2007-07-25 09:17:10 · answer #9 · answered by <<LIZARD>> 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to go home. Tell your daughter one night or two a week (depends how often you can or want to deal with it) that he or they can come over and that's it. Don't budge on this rule or you've wasted all your time.
2007-07-25 09:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋