2007-07-25 08:23:25 · 20 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's the nicest thing I've heard all day.
My domestic partner is 76 and I'm 50.
2007-07-25 08:28:07 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I guess it depends on the couple, but usually just old fashioned conservative people say that because they think the couple should be married before living together. Of course there are really young people who live together who shouldn't because they don't know how to take the responsibility of their own bills and home or a real relationship seriously.
2007-07-25 15:26:34 · answer #2 · answered by jenni 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
f***buddies is the very lowest level of "buddies" that you can have...and the insatiable NEED to be able to "ditch" the relationship and dropkick the other person in the crotch because your selfish azz cannot stand the heat...is exactly why shacking up is to be avoided in the first place..
you assume NONE of the real responsibility because there is NO guarantee that either person will actually fulfill what they say..
but to some extent...THESE are the people that SHOULD do this...because it means their selfishness will NOT get in the way of those who WANT to marry for all the right reasons and are willing to be selfless and sacrificing towards their spouses and children...
it is NOT about being prejudgemental or small minded...it ISN'T even a quesiton of who is throwing the stones first...as if Christians don't get enough CRAP thrown on them from other parties just for what they believe....from those who could give a *hit(which is what they do..they give it to us)
This is bigger than any of that...it REALLY has to do with the respect or lack thereof that they have for people in general...
their mentality sounds like this...him:you look hot and I am going to screw you and in fact we'll live together (her): and until you piss me off..how about free sex without diseases...no strings attached..(him):.hey yeah that sounds great..(her):ok here is your list of chores..(him);cool here's yours and let's see how things go...(her):but..you know...no promises...if you piss me off..i hope you have somewhere to be that same night...because i don't owe you anything...(both in unison): exactly!
2007-07-25 17:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by juanes addicion 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it is not just "playing house."
Listen, I don't mean to lecture, but at the same time, I don't think you realize how judgmental your question really is. I have known several couples who live together as boyfriend and girlfriend, and many of them have excellent relationships. In fact, sometimes they are just not ready to take that next step due to a past experience. I used to work with a woman who lived with a boyfriend with whom she had a little boy with, and she loved him very much, but she was cheated on by her first husband, and was not ready to get married again. I am not going to claim to understand her reasoning, but I am not going to judge her, either.
And for those of you social conservative, ultra religious, types who think that cohabitation is something that just started happening within the last century, I would like to encourage you to read up on your history. Back in the 1700s and 1800s, many couples would live together simply because they lived too far out in the boonies to get in touch with a preacher or judge who could marry them. Also, back in Shakespeare's time, many couples would live together for a period of time before getting married.
With this having been said, I'll grant you that statistics are sometimes not kind to people who "live together." They are less likely to stay together (depending on what study you read). However, that is no reason to disparage them.
And once again, I don't mean to be preachy or to lecture, but this needed to be said.
2007-07-25 15:50:32 · answer #4 · answered by I'm Still Here 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
absolutely. if they really truly cared for each other they would have gotten married. Marriage is honorable and should never be entered into lightly. but just to live together because it is convenient...come on. for those of us who chosen to be married and not just live with someone, you really come to an understanding of the mutual emotional dependence on each other and the joy of becoming one together. there is nothing else in the world like marriage, and there is something mystical that happens when two people truly marry each other. it is honorable, so much so that every culture that has ever existed accepts marriage.
2007-07-25 15:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by karakittle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I personally do not approve of cohabitation because I know that God wants a man and a woman to get married before living together. Where I come from, mature adults also live together without being married and that lifestyle is called "shacking up."
2007-07-25 15:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, some of you people are incredibly small minded. Can I just ask how two people, living in a committed relationship, taking responsibility for themselves and each other, raising children, and going about their lives, is wrong? And as for all the people who talk about what God would want, I believe the saying goes "Let he who is without sin, cast the first stone".
2007-07-25 15:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Mum to Superkids Baby on board♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no, my bf and I (newly engaged) have lived together for the past 2 years and I can say with out a doubt we are ready to be married and I attribute to the fact that there will be no surprises. we know how to co-exist, plan our finances together and build a life together. it may not be right for everyone but it has been beneficial to me
2007-07-25 15:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes if the relationship is that serious then thry should take the next step of marriage before living together b/c then what's the point.
2007-07-26 17:11:06 · answer #9 · answered by ASHLEIGH P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, i think a couple living together without real commitment is simply scared of the future
i know, i used to be there myself but i got real and accepted my honey's invitation to marriage.
no longer scared of the future
2007-07-25 16:34:29 · answer #10 · answered by Frog-Leggs 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋