Who should wear the PANTS in the relationship and WHY?

Answer 1

Saying someone "wears the pants" implies that someone is subservient. Naturally a good relationship is not one in which two people are fighting for supremacy, so one party should have a final word. I think the best situation is when husband and wife have their own niches. I don't think either of us "wear the pants" in my marriage. However we each have things we have the final word on. Regarding major purchases - my husband would have the final word (although no decision would be made against my will) Regarding the kids - I would have the final word (no decision would be made against my husbands will either)


p.s. to the previous answer - actually in chess the game is over when the king is killed or their is no way of escape. As a player the king is very limited though. The queen is the most versitile player.

Answer 2

Well, it depends. I say if both partners are working full time jobs, neither of them should wear the pants, because they have a modern relationship. They should compromise on any decision that comes up that they have different opinions about.

In my relationship, my husband wears the pants. I'm a traditional housewife. I don't work for a living, but instead keep the house and look after our son. I prefer to be the type of woman who is "barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen", and that's what works for us.

If the woman is working and the man is taking the place of the "traditional housewife", then she should wear the pants.

But really, it should be decided by the couple before marriage.

Answer 3

No one should actually 'wear the pants' as you put it. A relationship is a 50/50 commitment. You should be able to discuss any matters at hand. Both should contribute to everything that goes along with a relationship, whether it be anything from cooking, laundry, to paying the bills. But both should be involved in all important decision makings. Communication, trust, openness, and honesty are some of the most important qualities of a relationship. There are times when you butt heads because each of you think you are right, but it is those times when you need to sit down and discuss the situation and come to a mutual agreement. No one should have to 'rule' anyone else unless the other party is so completely out of control and immature that they should go back home to mommy and daddy.

Answer 4

Keep your pants on...

Nobody has to be the "boss" in a relationship, though it is traditional for the man to take a lead in where to go, what to do and where to walk. The man should lead the lady, open doors, pull out chairs, etc.

If the man pays for the evening or afternoon, of course he is the "coordinator" of the date. For a relationship, both parties must work at serving and adoring one another. Once this is lost, once a party refuses to attend to the needs of the partner, the passion is slowly leaking.

Both parties really need to try to keep the other happy, respected and to feel needed by the other. You can both wear "pants", but tell the other party how good they look in them!

Answer 5

I say 50/50. I so would hate to be with a yes dear, type of guy. I mean its cool to get your way sometimes. But if the dude has no real, ideas or plans or anything of his own, that really gets old. Sometimes its nice to have some of the ideas challenged so you can both look at it from another angel. Instead of this my word is law bs. Because who says one person is better than another in a relationship. And racking up points like that is all wrong in my view. A relationship should be a partnership, not who can assert the most control.

Answer 6

Why should anyone "wear the pants?" Its a mutual relationship that shouldn't be a battle over control of one another. Instead it should be that you know how you are, your morals, your dislikes and likes, and when he crosses the line and something bothers you about what he is doing then you should be able to talk to him about it, hear his point on why he does it that way and try to comprimise (on most things, obviously not all). And it should work the other way around.

I know as far as me, I'm set in my ways on many things, there's somethings I do different then alot of people. You try to change that, then we probably have a bit of a problem that needs to be discussed. And if you hell at me on something unless it was just totally screwed up that I did, then I'm not going to listen or really care, but if you talk to me and show me your sincerity and then I'll make my explanation and if your right your right and I'll try to work on it better. I expect the same in return.

Answer 7

Easy question... the WoMAN of course... who else?? A woman is more responsible than a man will ever be.. I mean who takes care of paying all the bills... I mean he might be the one actually paying them, but I mean who keeps track of everything that is going on... bills, kids, house. If not the woman. If we wouldn't be wearing the pants then really there would be nobody wearing them at all. Men are LAZY. and to wear the pants you have to be responsible and know what you are doing. Look at it this way. .. In a chess game.. the QUEEN is the most powerful piece on the board. ... You win by killing the Queen not the King... Meaning Queen will Always be more powerful than the king

Answer 8

I think that both people should equally be able to express themselves and no one should end up feeling misused. On top of that I think that men should wear the pants as in being the one who appears to have more strength and whose decisions stand out more because its in their nature. When women wear the pants they end up feeling more masculine like a brother to their man and that is no good for anyone.

Answer 9

I read all the replies. Some are nuts, wicked, funny and smart.
Seriously speaking, it should be 50/50.

But it also depends on the other partner. I've known people who lack leadership skills, and people who control the relationship in a bad way. In this case, the other partner who knows how to "drive" the relationship towards a good road should take control provided that the other partner will allow it.

Answer 10

Both people should wear the pants. I don't believe that there should be a more dominant personality in a relationship. Everything should be 50/50 and each person should have equal say in the decisions that affect the entire relationship.