verbally abusive and it seems like we fight more than we get along. I want to date other people but I dont want him completely out of my life but he refuses to be friends. I cant seem to let him go even though Im sure its best for me. What do I do?
2007-07-25 08:04:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know relationship is over and your still with him why? Most people would have ended it by now if they were in your shoes. Sure you still have feelings for him but, I don't think you deserve being verbally abused. So you should end it now. Even if it's hard you're right, it is the best thing for you and also him.
In life we have to make to make hard decisions. I don't think he'll end it because from what I've seen most guys in this kind of situation would avoid the other, so your going to have to try to be the better person.
2007-07-25 08:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you don't want to be with him and you don't want anyone else to have him!
If he is hurting you verbally, then that's a sign that you need to get out, if you still want to be friends with him then do so, but let it be over the phone or give it a big break for a while.
I know once you been in a relationship for a while you get comfortable with how things are, and don't want to move on towards something, but I think you deserve a man that wont hurt you, in any type of way.
Take Care
2007-07-25 15:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to remain friends with an guy who is verbally abusive to you? Obviously what you have with him now isn't enough for him to want to be loving and kind, so there is nothing that will change that when you are broken up. I know it's hard, but leave this guy and don't try to be friends with him. It won't help you in any way to keep this guy in your life.
2007-07-25 15:09:59 · answer #3 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let him go. its easy to ignore all the bad in a person when you first meet them. But if you know that its not going to work out then you shouldn't stay and waste his time or yours. I say tell him that its not working and you are breaking up with him. Give him no false hope and tell him that you wanted to part on good terms but he can't seem to agree with you on that either.
Don't let him walk all over you. If you deserve better than go for it.
2007-07-25 15:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by The thinker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you have to do, and to be honest, anybody can give you the greatest advice in the world, but you already know it and have your mind set. And you won't listen. I know I sound bitter, but I've seen this from friends of mine who were women and their relationships and not a one of them would ever listen.
But the best thing is to cut your ties and go different ways, your not happy and there's nothing in the world thats going to change that.
2007-07-25 15:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by kdl2584 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hw old are you?you sound young. but anyway, you need to open your eyes and see what hes doing,if you like to be treated this way sure stay.but if you have honor in yourself respect then you need to get away from this guy,jerk really. just because you have been together a year dosent make it any better,and if you continue this it only get worse and i do mean this cause i seen it happen plenty of times.he needs to grow up.im sure hes either cheating on you and hes just not ready for a relationship if he wants to argue. you need to meet someone new who treat you better then this guy.
2007-07-25 15:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by Megan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the nearest domestic violence shelter and talk to some of the people there!! verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse very easily and you can see the results of that in the case of O.J., the Grant case, and many others!!
2007-07-25 15:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your cake and eat it too?
sounds unfair. you either call it quits or you go for the finish line.
get some counseling.
they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
it sounds like you two have become comfortable able with each other and are taking it for granite.
good luck
2007-07-25 15:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by Georgia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its that bad then you should just let him go, or else you will end up getting hurt in the long run. yes, it will be hard, but you wont have to put up with his crazyness anymore! hope this helps!
*erin*
2007-07-25 15:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force yourself to let go of him. There are enough men in the universe my dear.
2007-07-25 15:17:31 · answer #10 · answered by pretty1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋