been dating for 7 months Mellisa's daddy left me once he found out that I was pregnant and my new bf just asked me to move in with him and I said yes he is talking about kids and how he wants us to have our own kids and not just him having a step child.We went to the doctor and they said if I had sex 1 more time I would be pregnant do you think I should?
2007-07-25 07:45:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
do you think I should have another child with him?Ik he is turstworthy man and sweet I just don't know if I should and if it would be ok with my little baby Mellisa.
2007-07-25 07:47:26 · update #1
If he loves you so much that he is willing to make you the mother of his child, he should also make you his WIFE. Try marriage before the next baby. If you don't want to marry him; you definitely don't want him as your child's father.
2007-07-29 13:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I volunteer at a womens health center; I give pregnancy tests and talk to clients about sex, pregnancy, and STDs. May I be frank?
Please do not consider having children with a man unless he is married to you. Yes, marriage is "just a piece of paper". But it represents trust, security, commitment, and fidelity. This may be most trustworthy, caring, reliable, dependable (use your own adjective!) man you will ever meet. Then again, he may not. Seven months is not a very long time.
You already have one child that does not have a father participating in her life. This boyfriend may be jealous or resentful of the child you shared with a former boyfriend; he may want "proof" that you love him by having a child with him. The fact that you are expressing doubts to us, through Yahoo Answers, means you feel pressured. If you have a child with this man, and your relationship does not work out, you will then have two children who may not have fathers in their lives.
It is not wrong, or pushy, to ask for marriage. After all, he is asking for something that takes far more time, energy, and money than marriage--children. Children often become the losers when adults struggle with issues such as you and your boyfriend are having.
Please consider this decision carefully. You won't be affecting just your and your boyfriend's lives--you will be affected Mellisa's life and the life of your future children.
2007-07-25 08:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by july 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well mellisas 1 so I would wait till u were married or until mellisa was a bit older cause with 2 babies crying it could cause relationship problems just think about the child and how its life would be with no father
2007-07-25 08:23:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE the name Melissa...that’s too cute! Now, stop thinking about what’s in your best interest and focus on hers! If you want more kids, get married first. Establish a life with someone don’t just pump out kids with random studs! You will just end up with multiple kids by multiple baby daddies.
2007-07-25 08:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's too early to be thinking of a baby after just 7 months, He may well be good with your daughter but that is no reason to have one with him.......
as for your doctor saying "if you have sex just 1 more time you will get pregnant" that is mad how could a doctor know that???? it's not the amount of times you do it that makes you PG........
seems to me yu know very little yourself about getting pregnant if you believe a doc that states something so stupid
2007-07-25 07:54:16 · answer #5 · answered by Fluffy Cheryl♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No commitment, no babies. Marriage first or you may be playing Scene 2 of the same Melissa's Daddy show.
2007-07-30 05:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so this isn't even an answer to your question - just wanted to say that you picked a great name ha ha, my name is also Mellisa with that spelling...
Congrets on your baby, and follow your heart. life is a great jurney so learn form your mistakes and dont have regrets.
2007-07-25 13:36:10 · answer #7 · answered by * Life is Beautiful * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until you know for sure that you are willing to spend the rest of you life with him. If you can see him in you & your daughters life in the future and want to make a life with him go for it.
In the end you want whats best for you & your children. Don't do it untill your 110% sure.
Good Luck :)
2007-07-25 08:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Gbug79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After only 7 months helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll no. Not trying to be mean just honest. I wouldn't be too quick to move in or have a baby with him. Just give it more time.....if its suppose to happen then it will.
2007-07-25 07:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by ga_lynn84 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
there's no way the dr said if you have sex one more time you'll be pregnant. do not have another baby until you get married. you know what its like to be a single mom to one, do you want to run the risk of being a single mom to two? with two different daddies?
i wouldn't marry a man who treated my first daughter like she's not the same as the one we have together. i understand men feel the need to pass on their genes, but him refering to her as "just a step-child" is wrong and i guarantee you will have problems.
2007-07-25 07:53:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 1⤋