toddler potty mouth help now please!!!?

Question

MY TODLER USE A BAD THEN PUT A PACIFIER IN HER MOUTH SO I DON'T MAKE HER REPEAT WHAT SHE SAID
I WANT TO MAKE HER TROW AWAY A TOY EVERY TIME SHE SWARES AND CLEAN HER MOUTH WITH SOAP HOW DO I DO THIS?

Answer 1

Where is she learning these bad words?

Next time she uses one, simply say "No. We don't say that. That is a bad word." Then put her in time out for 1 minute per year of age (3 years old = 3 minutes).

Don't give her lots of attention or act shocked, or laugh when she uses bad words. That'll make her do it more.

Answer 2

I don't agree with using soap...it has chemicals in it that shouldn't be put in the mouth child or adult. You can use a little bit of vinegar...that works really well and is more natural than soap!
As far as pacifiers, in general I think they should be taken away fairly early...I just recently took away my son's he is 9mo. and they just went away one day. This way he didn't have a time to get attached to them.
I think that throwing a toy away could be a useful technique to use but should only be used for a child that is old enough to understand what is going on...I don't think that a toddler has this capability. The understanding of cause and effect doesn't start till around age 4 to 5.
I would tell her we don't say that word (and make sure that you or other role models are not saying that word(s)) and try the vineager.

Answer 3

Reinforcing a bad behavior with a toddler is never a good thing. Sadly, punishing to a toddler is still reinforcing the bad deed even if it isn't positive reinforcement, or so I have learn with my little girl. The only time I do not punish is when she says a potty word because that is something I REALLY DO NOT WANT HER DOING...granted I do not want her to do the other bad stuff too. Basically, I ignore her...if she says the S word, I scream at her in my head but pay no mind to her. When my daughter realizes that some things she does gets a rize out of me (regardless good or bad) she will not stop. Every parent has to learn what works best for their kids...soap in the mouth for a toddler is not acceptable to me, they are just too young! And you can throw away the toys but I do not think the child will unerstand why and they will only get very upset at you...along with that you are just throwing your hard earned money in the toilet. Try time-outs, in a corner for however many minutes the child is in age (that is their attention span) 1 for a 1 yr old 2 for a 2yr old 3 for a 3yr old and so on. Do not put them in time out in their rooms becaus ethat is supposed to be their safe/play room. A corner in the living room on a small stool is best.

Also, toddlers do a lot of mimicing to learn...aparently you or someone your toddler is around alot uses this language and if you really want to nip it in the butt then you need to fix the source not the baby!!!

Answer 4

Do not throw away her toys or wash her mouth out with soap -that is cruel and a young child will not understand the reasoning behind it. If she swears take the pacifier out of her mouth (do not make her repeat the word, that just reinforces the behavior), get down on her level and tell her, firmly, that we do not use that word, ever. If she continues to do it give her a short time out, and explain, once the punishment is done why she was in time out.


Also, don't swear around your children. It doesn't matter what discipline you use if she hears those words everyday from you.

Answer 5

i think if you feel it will work to take toys away that you should store them somewhere and everytime she does something good bring a toy back out as a reward. I don't think that taking toys away is mean because it does teach them not to do wrong. She knows what she is doing is wrong because otherwise she wouldn't be shoving a pacifier in her mouth. Maybe you should take the pacifier away....my daughter hasn't used one since she was 6 months. I wouldn't use the soap...she is a little young for that. I would probably just tap her mouth and say, "NO, you do not say that!".

Answer 6

She's a bit young to be washing her mouth out with soap. If she's a toddler young enough to have a pacifier, she probably doesn't even understand the significance of the word she is saying.

If you want her to stop cussing, then don't use cuss words around her and make sure nobody else does, either. Toddlers repeat what they hear.

Answer 7

Okay..the worst thing to do with a toddler is to play games with them. If you make a big production about what she's saying, she'll keep saying it, regardless of the punishment.

This is what we did: When my son would say a bad word, we would ignore it. But the trick is to ignore HIM too. We didn't look at him, didn't talk to him. If he was sitting with me or near me and said a bad word, I would just say "You can't sit with mommy when you say those words" and made him stay away from me.

It took about two weeks and the swearing has disappeared. LITTLE KIDS WANT A REACTION. They don't care what the reaction is. You have to be careful about punishments and consequences. Yes, children need them. But if she has to throw away a toy and get her mouth washed out with soap for saying a bad word, you're going to have REAL problems when she starts to do other things.

I agree with the poster that said the punishment has to fit the crime. No, little kids shouldn't say bad words. But you do need to remember that they don't really understand what they're saying.

Answer 8

It would be a little harsh to throw away the toys . Warn them the next time they sware you will take their toy away. If they don't sware for a week-month give them back their toy. If they sware after the toy is given back tell them they won't get the toy back this time and hide it well or throw it out.

Answer 9

You do neither as cruel a thing to a toddler as throw away a toy or wash our their mouths with soap- you put them in a few minute 'time out'. You also make more of an effort to ensure your language, and the language of those around your child, is appropriate for them.

Answer 10

Using soap in the mouth is considered child abuse. Getting rid of a toy isn't going to work. Children learn from those around them. I suggest the child's parents stop using foul language and stop exposing the child to movies/television/games that use such language.

Answer 11

Take her pacifier away when she swears. Physically take her to her toy box. If she doesn't pick up a toy to throw away, then take one for her and let her watch you throw it away. Then get a bar of soap, make her stick out her tongue and wipe the soap on her mouth. If she won't stick her tongue out, i think she is old enough to receive a swat on the butt or thigh. If she still doesn't respond. Put her in a time out or corner with no toys or pacifier and keep an eye on her. Use correctional discipline if she tries to move or talk during her time out.