My husband is an E-3 in the army, and he is having an affaitr with a second lietinant that is in the air force, he recently sent me home from ftbragg with $6 in my pocket and his son to take care of on my own and thats it. the problem is, i have been contacting his command and they arent doing ANYTHING about it, because he is a con artist and they believe everything he says. i know that im entitled to the BAH, but i dont have money for a lawyer, and i dotn know what to do!! is there anyone out there that can help me, or that knows somone that is in a high position in the military?? please help!
2007-07-25 06:45:00 · 23 answers · asked by vanessa h 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Absolutely... if you make one phone call to the Judge Advocate General's Office on the Ft Bragg Army Post... I guaran-damn-tee you your husband will be HAPPY to send you some support money for you and your son. Not only that, but he is committing an Infraction of The Uniform Code Of Military Justice by committing adultery with an Air Force Lt, and abandoning his financial responsibility to his wife and child. You definitely have the upper hand... and if he does one thing to harm you because of your course of action... he will be in the Ft Bragg Brigg, instead of neglecting his obligations.
2007-07-25 06:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by J Andy A 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-10 07:15:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the chain of command is deliberately looking the other way, call the Post Inspector General (IG).
You are not entitled to the BAH per sae. You are entitled to support. If you were to get divorced the military can set up an automatic allotment for child support.
You will need a divorce lawyer, JAG / Legal can only suggest lawyers to see.
I assume he has quarters. So call the MPs they will pick him up and let you stay in the housing while his unit figures out the rest.
2007-07-25 08:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by chanvgap 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Contact the commander of the base, not his commander, and explain the situation. I would also immediately call the base legal office and speak to a lawyer there. Do that quickly as they will only speak with one of you if divorce is part of the equation. Next, you need to call the internal affairs division and report the affair. He is breaking military law and that will certainly get things moving. Finally, contact family support. You and your son are military dependents and they can help you with things like contacting the right folks, emergency funds, etc. I wish you hadn't left the base...in al rights you could have had him removed from the house. I would also call local authorities and file a complaint of abandonment for your son. You are going to need a lawyer..look for civilian legal aide offices in case the military lawyers can not provide the assistance you need.
Just so you know, you are not entitled to his BAH, but all of the money he gets will be taken into consideration when child and spousal support are determined by the courts. File legal seperation papers as quickly as you can..this will alert the military pay and any support to you will be taken directly from his pay check. Your son will retain he military health benefits and privelages as long as his father remains in the service. You will more than likely loose your'r benefits if you choose to divorce (but will keep them while seperated). Move now,..the faster you move the less time he will have to interfere.
2007-07-25 07:16:29 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It shouldn't matter what branch it is, what he's doing is WRONG and he will pay for it huge in the end. Go above his Chain Of Command to the base Chain Of Command. I know on my base if something like that happens and it gets to the Command Master Chief of the base, he kicks some a** too make sure the person is getting taken care of the way they should no matter who knows who. Also talk to the base JAG. You can get free legal advice from them and a lawyer. Good luck with everything and when he gets caught they will both be in serious trouble
2007-07-25 18:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow!!!
You need to again contact his Chain of Command .. if they again tell you there is nothing they can do you need to contact the IG's office on Ft.Bragg, I know for a fact they can help you.
I have stated before I have 2 friends who went through this and I walked step by step with them to Jag,Ig, and social work services.
He is suppose to give you BAH, and provide you with enough money for food clothing ect if he is the sole provider...
You will need to get a job , him paying you alimony I dont see it unless you have been married 10 plus yrs, child support yes he must pay you...
I am so sorry your going through this.. as far as the adultry the Army says unless you have pics or video there is no proof even with pics or video one can fight it saying it is not them, also the Army says if one or both parties admit to adultry it is up to the CO to decide what the punishment is..
If you have proof and really push the issue with his (if they dont do anything go to her Chain of Command)chain of command they may do something
All in all find an off base lawyer who can help you , if filing for divorce you can make your husband pay your lawyer fees.
I am not a Lawyer YET , but I have been there done that with my closest friends so I can only tell you what legal has past on to them , what happen to both of them is what made me decide being a family Lawyer is what I really want to do.
You could also go to the state for assistance , there is no shame in getting help if you really need it!!!
Good Luck to you and I am very sorry for your pain , now is the time you need to be strong for yourself and your son , remember children are very smart and pick up all of our emotions.
God Bless.
ANG Soldier and Armywife 10 1/2 yrs
Go to the site I posted below they may have someone that can help you right now.
2007-07-25 11:46:14 · answer #6 · answered by Justice35 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are entitled to something but if your husband continues to have onpost housing then you won't receive BAH. He DOES have to support your son and you in some monetary way. You need to contact his 1stSGT or his Commander.If they don't want to help you then you need to contact JAG and see who you would go to next.
IF Divorce is coming, then you will need to hire a civilian who is fimilar with Military Law, not all civilian Lawyers understand military law. JAG will not be able to represent either of you in this type of civilian matter. The are only there for advice and to help soldiers in military matters.
NO matter what your husbands says or does he has to support you someway to include his son.
Check out this websource:
http://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/home.aspx
They are great with help.
Now for another thing, if you have proof of this relationship that might help but also be warned that bringing this up might get him discharged from the military or pay being taken from him. Which means that if he doesnt get a job after getting out of the miltiary there is no way for you to get money from him. Depending on who his commander is, depends on the punishment. Some commanders won't report it any higher than themselves. But according to UCMJ it is adulterly.
http://www.bragg.army.mil/18ABN/
Good luck
2007-07-25 08:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by ckamk1995 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you need to do is simply call a JAG officer in the military. To do that all you need to do is get the information for his post which is Fort. Bragg. Ask to speak to a JAG officer explain your problem and see what happens from there. Most commanders hate to see when a male soldiers acts in an irresponsible manner. Also a JAG officer is a military lawyer. Let me know if you have more questions.
2007-07-25 07:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by CHRISP 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your a military spouse right do you have the id card jag services are also provided to the spouses contact jag over it jag is the military lawyer and from my understanding you dont pay for it.
it sounds like you have a real jerk on your hands but i havent herd the other side of the story either i wish you luck he can get in serious trouble for cheating on you and be kicked out and so can the other woman you just need to know who to talk too if the chain isnt doing much for you within the unit aim for the unit commander and keep going if no one there helps you there is alwayse someone higher up to talk too
2007-07-25 09:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do all of the thing's that have been explained to you. Then Call your U.S. Congressman and Senator, ask their staff to contact the senate or Congressional liaison officer at the pentagon. Once a politician get's involved The Army will get off it's backside. If child support is awarded it will be 30% before taxes. If the truth come's out that he is screwing around with an Airforce LT. She wont be one long. She will be given the option of resigning or a less than honorable Discharge. Could even get to him also.
2007-07-25 07:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by roaddrvr43 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋