My boyfriend hates to shop with me, doesnt like to go clubbing or out to eat. He also doesnt share the same movie interests or hobbies, but I love him to death for who he is. I also have a gay guy friend who loves everything I do and we go out about twice a week and have fun. My boyfriend hates this and says its wrong for me to have a straight boyfriend and a gay one. Am I wrong here?
2007-07-25 05:39:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is nothing wrong with having a friend who is willing to spend time with you, enjoying what you like to do, regardless of his sexual preference. It is really no different than having a female friend joining you who is straight, exactly what would sexual preference have to do with enjoying life? At least he is willing to be seen with you, and do things. Your boyfriend could learn a few things from this gay individual!
2007-07-25 05:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by helper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing nothing wrong. Obviously your boyfriend is a little insecure about you being around another guy, so invite your boyfriend to come out with u and ur gay friend. If he refuses, that is his loss... a platonic relationship with a gay man is just like any other friendship and ur boyfriend may need to hang out with yall to feel more comfortable with you hanging out with a male.
If he doesn't want to do the same things yall want to do... maybe reach a compromise.. but if he refuses... it is his loss. In relationships ppl must meet in the middle on some things or it will never work. You also must be allowed your own time and be able to do the things u enjoy or u will be completely miserable, which, in turn will destroy ur relationship. Best of luck!
2007-07-25 05:50:09 · answer #2 · answered by Erica M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no! Having a gay friend is really hip, and is totally fun to be with! Makes ya feel like "Will and Grace",doesn't it?(minus the whole exes thing)...
just resassure your guy that you love him, not the friend, and mention that your friend will never attempt to flirt with you or him(some homo-phobics think that gay's are out to get with them-not the case!)
Your guy sounds like he's hobophobic, as are a lot of guys. If you and your friend have been friends forever, then just mention that he's not going anywhere,and that he(you boo) doesn't have to hang out with him.Also mention that you only hang out with the friend because you still want to explore your interest,the ones that he obviously doesn't enjoy. Hell, maybe you can get your boo to include himself in these activities by saying this.
2007-07-25 05:50:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mama JK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have a gay friend and you have a boyfriend. A friend is a friend, your boyfriend just may be a little homophobic. Ignore him because he isn't doing anything to make it better, wish I had a gay boyfriend. Much love.
2007-07-25 05:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by nina_ross692000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if hes just a friend then there is no issue b/c you wont get hurt by him with just being friends now your boyfriend needs to open up his mind and make it a bit bigger b/c there is nothing at all wrong with having a gay friend nothing wrong. so you go girl and dont stop being his friend just b/c of a boyfrind you have now and probaly wont be with in the next 2-3 years
2007-07-25 05:43:48 · answer #5 · answered by TTC #2 Baby Dust MEEE! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with having a gay friend which by the way you are describing things that is what it is.
Getting in a relationship with a gay friend is not right for both of you. Think about it, plans to get married are out of the question unless he turns straight again, which yeah might not happen.
From experience, please don't get yourself involved in a relationship with a gay guy.
2007-07-25 06:01:59 · answer #6 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No you are not wrong. You have a boyfriend and a friend that is a male. Why is he jealous? Your friend is gay. If he can't handle it, drop you boyfriend and stick with you good friend. Boyfriends can be replaced, good friends can't.!!!!!!! If you don't have anything in common w/your boyfreind, then get rid of him. He sounds possesive. Sometimes I don't understand men...and I am 49!
2007-07-25 05:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by kellistines 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your friend is gay it isn't like there is going to be a problem and my gay guy friends picks out some of the best shoes and clothes for me , i do not think their is anything wrong with that
2007-07-25 05:48:48 · answer #8 · answered by rachel m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it when you say boyfriend you mean male friend?
I the straight guy has a problem with the gay dude, he's obviously some kind of small minded bigot!
2007-07-25 05:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just like having a 'girl' friend Guess the bo needs to step up and start doing more with you if he doesn't like the gay friend situation
2007-07-25 05:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by 0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋