I have a 3 years relationship. I love my boyfriend, but he is not the kind of person i would like to spent the rest of my life. i always wanted to marry a educated person. i like the boys who think and plan their future. My byfriend doesn't like school,and he doesn't care about future. He doesn't care about his looking.Also he always has a mess in his bathroom and debroom.
2007-07-25 05:18:42 · 22 answers · asked by maar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Bye Bye Boyfriend.
Read your answser..............you already know what to do.
Good luck.
2007-07-25 05:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by portjeff143 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that you deserve to be happy.
For you, you seem to want an educated, goal minded person to walk the road of life with. That's perfectly okay. 3 years right? You probably gave him time to shape up but he's still the way he is. Marriage is a choice you make in life. Its a lifelong choice. Its a very important one. Do what you know is best. It'll take a lot, but you need to deal with this. 3 years is a long time, so I'm sure it'll hurt if you choose to leave, but remember you're not married to him and if he loves you he'll let you go if he wants whats best for you.
2007-07-25 12:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by gregster439 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With such a personality conflict...what's there to love?
it's a sure bet that eventually you will get the general picture and start planning for your own future; a future which doesn't include your unambitious boyfriend.
He's just excess baggage. Cut him loose before his personality becomes an acceptable part of your psyche. Or,
better put, birds of a feather flock together-meaning, if you stay around a person too long their personality will begin to rub off on you and you'll find yourself without directions, jobless,
dropped out of school, lacking ambitions and unwilling to plan for the future also.
Get out and save yourself before he drags you down with him.
And don't even dream about thinking that you, alone, possess the power to change him because no one can cause him to change unless he truly want to do so himself.
Bear in mind that these are merely advice and/or suggestions.
Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what to do with the rest of your life or about the boyfriend that you love but don't like.
Best of luck to you and yours.
2007-07-25 12:50:50 · answer #3 · answered by sylvester m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should marry someone who shares the same morals as you.
If education is important to you, then marry someone with an education. If you plan on having children, this is something I'll fight about. You say college for the kids, he says no. You'll clash.
Also, if your boyfriend does not live up to your standard of cleanliness or personal hygiene, get rid of him. That's something that will cause you two to clash.
It sounds like you find a lot of things disheartening about your boyfriend. Get rid of him. He's not for you.
This does not make you a bad person. Go out and find someone that shares your views.
2007-07-25 12:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that. I was in a relationship with a guy for four years where I cared about him deeply because of the time we'd spent together, but I no longer liked him as a person. It was a weird situation to be in, but I eventually realized that I couldn't do it any longer. Don't stay in a relationship like this. Getting out of it is the best thing you can do for both of you.
2007-07-25 12:58:51 · answer #5 · answered by tink 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If those things bother you now, they'll bother you 100 times more if you marry him. Break up with him and find the kind of guy you want. Don't settle just because he's convenient and you've been together for so long. You'll end up miserable.
2007-07-25 12:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by claireag 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no crime in being single. I know it may seem scary, but it sounds like you need to get to know yourself before becoming half of a couple.
Its easy to latch onto the idea of someone in hopes that maybe if you find that type of person, you will instantly become like them. So instead of searching for an educated person, educate yourself.
2007-07-25 12:34:17 · answer #7 · answered by germaine_87313 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why waste your time? Liking someones personality is important for the long term. His personality will not change and you should not expect him to change either. You may love him or think you love him, but in the long run you will only be unhappy.
2007-07-25 12:27:03 · answer #8 · answered by Kona Cutie 33 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has qualities that you don't like for the long term, then break it off. Find someone that has the same or similar ambitions as you. There is no point sticking around if you know you don't want to be with him forever.
2007-07-25 12:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you dont love him then..personality is a big part of loving someone if you dont like his personality then you like his physical and that is called infatuation which is not love. Leave him now b4 you are further attached and then feel guilty about leaving his lazy butt.
Just keep him as a friend.
2007-07-25 14:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyBright 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because this is important to you, it will always be a problem. You will find someone you love and their personality in one. I did, it just took awhile. Best of luck to you.
2007-07-25 12:31:01 · answer #11 · answered by lisadaisy165 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋