Why?
2007-07-25 04:48:38 · 21 answers · asked by Challah back Girl... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say the dumpee, because even though it may hurt to be broken up with. The dumpee can usually get past it and even learn and grow from the experience and work on themselves and make changes so when they meet someone new they can walk into that relationship with a new outlook on what past behaviours to avoid.
As the dumper you only get the satisfaction that, you dumped somone so you may think you are all big and bad for a few days. But then here come the doubts about was it the right thing to do, do you still love that person, are they dating someone new. And I think its usually the dumper that has more regrets and tries to find more ways to get back with the dumpee because of the dumper's mistake of breaking up with them.
2007-07-25 04:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DUMPER! For sure. First of all, you have more control over the situation. My dad always said that the person who cares the least in a relationship has the most control. Second, as the dumper, you usually know why you are dumping that person. I was dumped once. I hated it. I didn't like feeling like a disposable object to the guy I was dating...I didn't like wondering. So after that experience I was always the dumper. The only thing I did differently was I didn't leave the dumpee hanging...I told them exactly why I didn't feel it would work out.
2007-07-25 04:58:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lex82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather get dumped! It really sucks being the dumper! That and I feel that I could always take the news better than a women and just move on.
2007-07-25 04:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by drakekse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm easily uncertain, seeming i've got been in the two positions in the previous. inspite of the undeniable fact that the heartbreak I won from being the dumpee became into between the worst emotions i've got ever felt in the previous in my total life. And so hence i could could desire to assert i could somewhat be the dumper - the undesirable feeling i could get from it, does not final as long as being dumped could have given me. wish you're nicely.
2016-10-09 08:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither one if I could help it. Relationships are not to be taken lightheartedly. When I enter a relationship, it is with the thought that it will be a lasting one. However, if it really doesn't work out, I would rather be the dumper.
2007-07-25 04:52:25 · answer #5 · answered by JADE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
niether of the too coz i dont wanna dump anyone and dont wanna be dumped too.
i am in a relationship and we love each other very much so neither of the too not the dumper nor the dumpee
2007-07-25 04:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by catrina a 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not really about who'd rather. Unless there is amazing communication, the person who decides to end the relationship is at an emotional advantage since he or she does the emotional preparation before breaking the news. The one being left not only has to adjust to the loss but also has to go through all the soul searching about what went wrong and the feeling stupid for not seeing it coming.
2007-07-25 05:15:01 · answer #7 · answered by Net Rider 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before marriage my fiancee used to ask me if i would ever leave her? i always told her that she can leave me if she ever felt like and that i would not stop her but i would never leave her or ask her to leave me. It was my 1st and only romantic relation with a girl and had hoped to leave with her throughout my life.
She dumped me after 6 mths of our marriage. I was her second dumpee.
Animation movies teach us some important life lessons. in Lilo & Stitch there is a dialouge. something like "family means no one is left behind".
We live in a world were patience and endurance have become rare virtues but i for one would be very selective in choosing a partner and would not dump someone after committing with her.
2007-07-25 05:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by protege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been both and neither are fun, however there's less long-term pain for the person doing the breaking-up because they are the one who feels the relationship isn't working...typically the person being broken up with (dumping is never kewl, I don't do it nor use that term) is the one whose heart is going to ache for a while as they often didn't desire the situation to end.
2007-07-25 04:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather be the dumpee because I hate hurting peoples fealings and if they hurt mine then I will et over it but I would feal way to bad to hurt someone like that. Now if I had to because he was abusing me or something like that then I would be ok dumping his ***.
2007-07-25 04:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋