How should the stepmother of the groom be seated at the wedding ceremony?

Question

Should she be seated as a mother or on another row?

Answer 1

She should be seated with her husband.
Whether you want them on a different row is up to you.
But I put all my parents on the front rows on both sides.
Parents are parents. The "step" part was merely a technicality.

Answer 2

If you are having the mothers seated during a special song, then his father should walk his wife down and seat her together. If his mother is still alive, somone else maybe a favorite uncle or usher, should seat his mother first, then his father and step mother. The mother of the bride is seated last.

Now whether the mom, father and stepmother of the groom all sit in the same row is up to you. If they all get along, then that would work, if not separate rows will work too. It all depends on how you want it and how close you are to them.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Did she actually participate in raising the groom? Typically, the non-custodial parent group (usually the father and stepmother) sits behind the parent group that the groom grew up living with (usually the mother and stepfather). But, if they all get along, there is nothing wrong with seating them all on the first row.

How are the invitations listed? Is the stepmom listed on the invitation as a parent?

Answer 4

If they are close then you should seat her as a mother, but never make her appear as important the actual mother or it could offend a lot of people. I know that my stepmother and I are very close and she is going to be seated at the front row a couple seats from my mother.

Answer 5

I just wanted to say that this is actually a really good question and I've enjoyed reading some of the responses. I've never even thought of this! I'm sure if/when my boyfriend and I get married I'll be looking back on this for your best answer because his parents are divorced: his father cheated and is now re-married, his mother has a boyfriend of about 2 years, and the two don't exactly get along all that great from what I've been able to gather over the past year and a half...
Have a star! And good luck!

Answer 6

you didn't say is the grooms mother still around. well if she is the step mom should be seated on the first or second row behind the mother that is if the dad is in the wedding and not sitting with the step mom..mothers should be first and usually the dad don't care where he sits. that's what i have seen happen several times step mom sits behind moms row. if mom ain't there then put step mom on front row. good luck it will work out...o and in photos let the father and mother take pictures with the couple....then if you want mom steps down and the step mom gets in the pictures if needed....since my second wife helped raise my kids and loves them they wante pictures with her also just think every thing through and it will work.

Answer 7

I would think in the same row that the father of the groom is sitting. It would look a little weird if the parents (now divorced) are sitting together and the new spouses are seated elsewhere.

Answer 8

She should be seated with the father of the groom. If he'll be in the front row, make sure there is room for her there as well. It's not necessary to have her escorted in as you would your own mom or his mom. And she doesnt have to have a corsage either. (Although, if you're close to her, you certainly CAN do both of those things!)

Answer 9

If his mother is deceased, she should be seated as his mother.

If his mother is living, then his mother should sit in the first seat of the row (aisle), his father in the second and his stepmother in the third seat. If they are listed in the invitations, it would be,

(Ms. or Mrs.) Mary Doe
and
Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

or

Ms. Mary Smith
and
Mr and Mrs. John Doe.

or

Mary (Doe or Smith)
and
John and Jill Doe

Answer 10

Seat her as a mother if she is A. involved in the wedding and B. if the groom wants her to be involved in the wedding.