does he have a conscience
2007-07-25 04:21:08 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he sounds deceitful.
2007-07-25 04:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ Pamela ♫ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should first ask yourself that if the person told you when he started dated him that he had a newborn would you continue dating him? I can defintely understand why someone may not tell someone they have a newborn when they date. FIrst of all they don't know if the dating relationship is going to last, they haven't proven themselves to where you would want to be with them and people can be very judgemental. There is alot of things people may think the instant they find out someone has a newborn baby. Is this person divoced because then this would change everything if he is not. If not divorced then you should not be dating him. Otherwise people may question why his relationship didn't work, why is he leaving his newborn baby rather then working out the marriage and sooo many other questions would come into factor. I don't know how close you are to the person that you are dating but I do think in every relationship that it only works if there is open communication and honesty. I think that if he couldn't tell you after 10 months of dating him that maybe there is other things that need to be worked out in your relationship. I think it would be understandable after dating someone for awhile if they would share this kind of information. 10 months seems like a long time but at the same time how close are you two? I would definitely sit down with him and have a discussion. You don't have to be rude or say things you may regret. Remember he is the same person you have cared for even before you found out this information. Stress your concerns. After talking with him then you will get a broader picture and see what needs to be improved in your relationship. That definitely would be a good idea for the both of you to share things that you both have not shared yet. Good Luck!!
2007-07-25 04:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by lovelyandcarefree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't be hurt, he's probably afraid that you might not like the fact that he had a baby with an ex. I'm a singlefather and some women don't want anything to with you as soon as they find out that you have kids. You are right to feel upset about it but he might scared of losing you over the fact that he has a kid.
2007-07-25 04:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because in addition to being involved with someone either while he was dating you or shortly before, he might very well see your relationship as an escape from his responsibilities, and you don't want to be involved with anyone like that.
It's important that he demonstrate his obligations to his child - paying child support, spending quality time with the child. Otherwise, you've got a deadbeat on your hands and you don't want anyone like that.
2007-07-25 04:26:04 · answer #4 · answered by YAH IS GOD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely hurt, actually I would probably dump him! Having a child on the way is a big deal and he should have been completely upfront and honest with you. If he cant be honest about things like that, how can you trust him? You really have to rethink this relationship :-(
2007-07-25 04:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why isn't he with the mother? A real man would focus on the new baby than going out and finding a new woman...
I suggest you stay away from this guy. If he can dismiss his responsibilities with a new baby that easily, he'll drop you without blinking when you're not convenient anymore.
2007-07-25 04:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by dayoh257 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how olds the newborn?? are you talking he had a kid with a girl while he's been dating you?? Then yes I'd be hurt and would break-up with him.
However, if the girl was pregnant before you started dating and he didn't tell you he had a kid on the way then I'd be hurt but would probably just ask him why he didn't tell you.
2007-07-25 04:28:25 · answer #7 · answered by Steven's Mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would be hurt. After 2 months, he wouldn't be obligated to tell me, but if he is with you for as long as 10 months, he should have told you sooner. That's almost a year!!! He should have been upfront with you.
2007-07-25 04:24:01 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-07-25 04:27:14 · answer #9 · answered by ♥♥ character ♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally would say he is a lying cheater...Run, but there could be a reason he didn't tell you. Maybe he didn't know about the baby. Maybe he had to wait for a dna test to see if it was his, just ask him for the truth, if he seems secritive or like he is lying then end it now before the lying and secrets get worse
2007-07-25 04:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by Ken's Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer to question number one: uuuhhh yeah.
Answer to question number two: uuuuuuh no.
Never hide the fact that you have a child from anyone - what does that say about you and your relationship with your child and you as a parent for that matter. Lose that guy.
2007-07-25 04:28:57 · answer #11 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋