When speaking with someone you are possibly interested in do you find your self being slow and steady (not divulging too much info at one time ) or straight to the point..... HI my name is , my bra size is ( just kidding ) in other words do you tell "all" rather quickly? What is the benefit of either position?
2007-07-25 03:33:09 · 18 answers · asked by Sunshine's Pic Is on 360 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I find myself to fast and to the point sometimes for my own good. I guess overall I am tired of the dating process often and want to see what is truly on the inside and deeper about a lady. I want to show her who I am and what I am looking for also. Sometimes maybe to fast in that approach.
2007-07-25 07:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm... Depends on the person.
Some people you need to take things slow and steady with.
Others, you know are straight to the point people, and can handle you being up front with everything.
I think the benefit (depending on how you are comming across with each option) depends on the goal in mind.
Straight to the point (with applicable body part sizes) says - Hey You! Come here. Take me to bed or lose me for ever! lol.
Straight to the point with live view points, perceptions, ideas and beliefs say - Hey, this is me, who l am, take me or leave it alone.
Slow and steady - l think looks for something more lasting, while testing the waters. Of course, some people could us it if they aren't really looking for anything serious, but overtime could find themselves quite attracted to the person who came in slow and 'under their radar'.
I think it all depends on what your end goal is and the person you are talking with!
2007-07-25 10:59:56 · answer #2 · answered by Rif Tahoe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends sometimes, if you feel comfortable speaking about things, then do so.
On the other hand, if you're not sure, just take it slow and easy, things sometimes work out and sometimes not.
In either situation, just need to be comfortable, and probably would be best to start out as friends and see where it leads.
Respecting one another and not pushing the issue is usually the best answer that I would give.
Sometimes when I talk with others, I can be skeptical or just clown with them and talk with them about anything and everything.
Something to remember, in life you can be the one to either do things or the one that will look back later on in life and ask yourself:
Why didn't I do it?
2007-07-25 10:48:01 · answer #3 · answered by james 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always get to the point at first lay it on the table I always say dont tell to much just enough wouldnt want to give the wrong impression and as far as being interested in some one sorry Ive been married for 35 years lol
2007-07-25 10:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by pugs5678 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight to the point. I wasted too much time on people who turned out not to like me the way I was. I learned to just tell it like it is from the beginning. It either works or it doesn't, but at least you know right away.
2007-07-25 10:39:29 · answer #5 · answered by Unknown.... 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You go slow with the info. Leave some wondering to his mind. He doesn't want to hear everything about you in one night. Let him have a piece at a time. If you do, then he will already know everything about you and you will begin to repeat yourself by telling him everything over again bc you will soon run out of things to talk about. Let him ask if he wants to know. Leave some things to the imagination.
2007-07-25 10:38:29 · answer #6 · answered by Angelic Valentine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow and steady but then there are some thing that need to be straight to the point but mostly slow and steady
2007-07-25 10:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO, if you're looking for a serious relationship then slower is probably better. if you want to get into a relationship fast then get straight to the point. but the faster you get in, the shorter the relationship will be because of such high intensity
2007-07-25 10:38:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find myself going into conversation too quickly. I tell myself not to and I do it anyways all the time. When I do that I think it scares the person away because I was too forward.
2007-07-25 10:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age too much information overloads the circuits; a small steady stream is better for the digestion. You wear a bra???!!!!!!
2007-07-25 10:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋