2007-07-25 03:09:46 · 24 answers · asked by forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi sweetie. I am 24 years old and have been with my 41 year old partner for 4 years. My dad didn't agree with the age gap but he has finally accepted us because we are very happy and live together. I wouldn't change him for the World. he is kind, supportive, doesn't try to change my opinions and accepts that I feel a bit young for children. He understands that I won't be ready for things he might be and because he loves me, he is prepared to wait. Whatever you decide has to be your decision and your's only. Why not get to know this person properly by having a few casual dates to start with eg cinema, go for drink or meal and make sure you have something in common. You will know if it feels right but if you decide it won't work atleast you will have tried. Good luck to you. x
2007-07-25 04:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily an issue. The real test is the maturity levels of the individuals, not the age difference. Are you both at the same level of maturity? If not, there will be problems. If so, you can keep growing together. Significant age differences can be abnormal but do not have to be. They happen for all sorts of reasons. They can be very beneficial or harmful… depending on the individuals. If the youngest is a very mature person, it can work. And the older person can mentor and teach the younger a lot of things… and not just about sex. Although learning how to make love is an acquired skill. Learning how to be a good partner is also an acquired skill set. And the younger can often teach the older person things, including how to have a zest for life that one starts to loose as an older person and gets a little jaded by life and it’s travails.
Also women reach their "sexual maturity" at about 35. So this may be a plus in this relationship. It depends on where he is.
2007-07-25 10:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It 's how you get along with each other that matters,I had a bigger age gap than yours ,never been loved so much by anyone,we worried about the age gap at first ,but went for it, together for 18 years until he died.
Good luck.
2007-07-25 10:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Linda L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Parents and society may disapprove but it doesn't matter as long as your relationship is based on something besides sex. There has to be an emotional connection between you two. I've had relationships with large-ish age gaps (my 15 to his 24) and it worked out until my parents found out. With you being almost 30, you should be fine. You've had enough life experience to realize what's right for you.
2007-07-25 15:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by part_cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is 12 between my other half and me and its never really been an issue.Yeah 20 is a big gap but if your both happy then who cares what others think,your happiness is all that matters.
2007-07-25 10:46:18 · answer #5 · answered by Donna C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No... in the beginning it won't seem to matter as much. But in time you or he may be more conscious of the age difference the more time you spend together and the more you get to know one another.
I am 27 and I have been dating a man who is 46 for 6 months now... and I'm beginning to notice "old men tendencies"... lol
However it's different for everyone.
2007-07-25 10:33:04 · answer #6 · answered by Shantae S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly it is a huge age gap, but not the largest. if you two both love each other the gap wont matter. If it still worries you about the age gap try telling him, if he understands and you know yourself that he really does. try for him and for you if not well thats your choice by the way i'm only 13 so this probably isnt that good but hay i can try.
2007-07-25 10:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It won't matter in the beginning and anyone can have intimate relations with an older man and leave it at that. It's the common interests, views on religion, politics, maybe even music and movies that's going to throw you.
If you're looking for something without any strings and for a short time, then yes, go for it.
2007-07-25 10:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age gap only matters if the persons involved are affected negatively.
2007-07-25 10:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it matter to you and your partner? Those are the only people who count. My friend was 20 when she started going out with a 40 year old.
2007-07-25 10:16:00 · answer #10 · answered by magic_porridge_pot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋