2007-07-25 02:39:25 · 28 answers · asked by Smee 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Well yea, you kind of weed them out till you find the right one.
2007-07-25 02:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by sassinya 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
What's YOUR reason for dating?
Here are some random thoughts of mine.
If you go out on a date with someone, and you kiss, but you have no interest in marriage (no - I'm not saying that's some kind of horrible "sin"), but if he eventually marries some one else, doesn't that mean you are kissing someone else's husband?
If by "dating", you mean hanging out with someone you especially like, but next month you "especially like" some one else, what does that say about your "dating" habits?
The Bible never says anything about dating specifically, because marriages back then were arranged by the parents. But if you DO date, remember to keep it morally pure. Otherwise, you might be forcing the guy into an act of adultery in his heart (building up lust or sexual desires in the other person that you can not morally or righteously fulfill), or worse, YOU may end up committing adultery in your OWN heart. Or far worse, you might actually commit adultery and end up pregnant!
One last comment, people say that dating many people prepares us for marriage. That's not true. Dating many people prepares us for divorce. We learn how to break up as painlessly as possible, and we learn that commitment to another person doesn't matter.
There's a good book you might want to read for yourself called "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" about an alternative to "dating" - it's called "courting".
Whatever you decide, keep God in the picture.
2007-07-25 02:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by no1home2day 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your Mom--also I date my husband all the time--the dating doesn't end when the wedding ceremony begins.
I also agree with Pastor Art--if you aren't interviewing for a husband there is NO REASON to date--this interview process should include meeting his family and friends. That should be what your "dating" consists of--in the presence of others who can hold both of you accountable and keep you safe.
How many young women have been "date" raped? Do not leave yourself alone in the presence of anyone whom you do not know very, very well.
2007-07-25 03:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jordan A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you date in order to get to know someone, and to get to know yourself, so that you can get to know what kind of person would be good for you to marry.
But I would not treat a date as if it were an interview for a job; instead, relax & have fun and get to know each other, and see if you might make a good couple one day.
If you are just a teenager, don't worry about dating. You are too young to worry about that stuff. Hang out with your friends and have fun. Get to know yourself first.
2007-07-25 02:56:55 · answer #4 · answered by Randy G 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age. Dating when you're young is more about developing social skills. The nice boy who takes you to the skating rink or a theme park when you're a teenager is unlikely to be a potential husband. It's possible, but don't get too serious too fast. When you're young, sometimes playing the field is better than going steady. And before everyone jumps on me, playing the field as a teen does not have to mean having multiple sex partners or something. I never had sex with any of my dates.
2007-07-25 02:46:50 · answer #5 · answered by Julia Sugarbaker 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I recently came to the conclusion that I don't really want to ever get married. At this point in my life marriage is the last thing on my mind, but I date anyway. Is that wrong? Of course not.
For some reason the Christian community has this strange obsession with marriage. I can't tell you how many times I get pestered by relatives about being single...and I'm only in my 20's! If they try to use the "God's will" language at me I throw it right back asking how they know God's will isn't for me to stay single. It was for Paul. That usually shuts them up.
2007-07-25 02:43:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 2⤋
For some people yes, that is the purpose of dating.
To others dating is just a way of meeting people.
2007-07-25 02:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've found that you date to find out what you want to marry for. Good hygene, manners and a sense of humor have made it to the top of my list of necessary traits in a mate.
I also date to have fun and network. There are many reasons to date, since it's a social function.
2007-07-25 02:43:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Exactly! TRUE! and i salute your mom for saying that.
Why? Let me throw back a different question. Why do you date?
Throw out the dumb answer "to have fun." Love is not for fun. Your mom is so concern with it, because i believe that she believes that what you do for today would affect your tomorrow.
You don't get into dating and more so a commitment unless you are ready for marriage ^^,
We don't fool around. No wonder many lives were wrecked because they fool around in dating and love.
2007-07-25 02:45:37 · answer #9 · answered by edsivajr 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The purpose of dating is to find your soul mate in this world. Someone that makes you feel complete. Then you will know that is the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
Good Luck out there and me careful of the impostures.
2007-07-25 02:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by happyheathy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you need to date to learn. When you've learnt enough about making relationships work then you will be ready to get married. It's part of the learning process that prepares you for marriage.
2007-07-25 02:43:12 · answer #11 · answered by private 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋