Theres a girl I see around in class (college), she's so beautiful. I know I'm not nearly as attractive as she is. I've never talked to her, what should I do? I'm kind of a nerdy guy. Smart, but no washboard abs or big muscles. She'd probably never go for me. What should I do?
2007-07-25 02:21:53 · 32 answers · asked by sspence966 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get some self-esteem and find someone that is no good for you
2007-07-25 02:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dude, Become her friend.. maybe she's into smart guys, you don't know that. You can find out by getting a conversation going...
you say you two have a class together, here's a line you can use on her, just get the courage to go up to her and ask her, "Excuse me, do you know what the professor was talking about last time about (subject in question)" So what if you know the answer or not, its just a way to break the ice. IF she gives you an answer, compare it with yours and tell her what you thought about that and then ask her what her name is, then introduce yourself, then ask her what major she is, then get the conversation rolling...
IF she doesn't know the answer to your question, then tell her, "its ok... thanks anyway, hey so what's your major?" then ask her for her name, you tell her your name, then ask her if she commutes, then you tell her whether you do the same, blah blah blah, you know what I mean, a little chit here, a little chat there, and soon, you'll be getting to know her.
When you see that she is comfortable around you and you feel comfortable around her, ask her out to lunch and study with her... if she rejects you, so what? just move on and get to know another girl, BUT if she does oblige, hey, you're all good to go and maybe you can start a relationship with her.
Hope this Helps bro, remember there are plenty of women out there! don't be shy, Good Luck!
2007-07-25 02:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by VortexHunter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go up and talk to her. You never know. Not everyone out there wants Mr. Perfect. Lord knows I prefer brains over brawn any day. The first thing I notice about a man is posture. I love a man who can carry a conversation with me. Looks fade, intelligence only improves. I wish you the best. You may not end up dating but you might make a great friend.
2007-07-25 02:34:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi nerd! hope you are nerdin in a gr8 way! keep it up!
now comin to yr part of attraction-beautiful-never-go-4-me aspect of life.
hold your breath! girls still prefer muscular man(dont read arnold type-thats a complete turn off) with a pinch of looks topped up with those nerdiness you are talkin about!
so exactly speakin i am not sure if she will go 4 u!
but there is always a silver lining behind those clouds. i have seen some of the most beautiful girls walking down the aisle with not so impressive guy in comparison(read lots of greycells sans looks n abs n watever u talk abt that hunky material)!
if she really cares about the traits and qualities skin deep...n you are really that gem of person..hey nerd SHE WILL GO 4 U!
(CAUTION- but it depends upon the maturity level of that gal!)
so keep guessin n workin in right direction!
best of luck nerd romeo!
2007-07-25 02:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by aerohoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some balls and ask her anyways, all she can do is say no and who cares. At least you can know that you tried. Don't go threw life being to scared to try because you will never know what you missed out on. If your insecure about yourself go to the gym and get some protein and creotine eat that and try to eat well and start lifting and In 3 months of training I garentee you will have a lot more self asteem...good luck
2007-07-25 02:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for a girl thats more in your league so you can actually get somewhere with her. Such as talking is the first step. You are intimidated by this college girl so it would be hard to speak your mind, being so nervous and all! But, never think you are any less of a person that anyone else! We are all created the same way... and we all have to make a living. So, its up to you what you will do. Its your life, make the best of it and do what makes you happy!
2007-07-25 02:25:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You may never know if she starts to like you because you're kind, have a sense of humor, or something that those muscle guys don't have. But, I think you should try to talk to her when her friends or other guys are not around.
2007-07-25 03:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by la j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, how about you do some research and see if one of your friends is her friend.
If not then just find a good moment to talk to this girl, get to know her.
Sit next to her in class and ask if you could borrow some notes or something. If you really want to get this girl just win her heart.
2007-07-25 02:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by The Coug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mel Brooks, a pretty nerdy looking guy, married Ann Bancroft, a beautiful woman. What did she see in him? "He makes me laugh." she once told a reporter.
Its not all about looking like Fabio; its about being true to yourself. She's only out of your league if you think she is. Go for it. The worse she can do is say no.
2007-07-25 02:29:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna be my last answer today so read carefully. Thin king a girl is out of your league puts her out of your league. Approach her talk to her as a human being and not a goddess. Casually her invite for a coffee and exchange numbers. If she likes you your in. if she says she wants to be friends chalk it up as a loss and move on.
2007-07-25 02:27:02 · answer #10 · answered by jon d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you've already made up your mind about what her taste and attitude is before you even speak to her? You're not only selling yourself short, but you're making a pre judgment on her, and that's not fair. Grow some cojones and talk to her. If she says no, it's not the end of the world.
2007-07-25 02:26:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋