he thinks i need to lose weight, how much is too much?

Question

I've been dating this guy for 2 months,
I'm 160cm, 53-54kgs.
Wouldnt call myself fat, but Im no stick figure.
I think I've got wide hips and my legs arent that toned and slim.
He's told me before that he would never go out witb someone "big".

Well, He isnt VERY pushy about my size, but he does tell me to work out more and eat less and etc. Since we started dating, i've been doing sit ups every night and I've been trying to watch my diet... which was fine. I enjoyed it in a way, because I felt that I was doing it for myself.

Then just the other day,
He said "I think u've put on some weight on your butt area. Honey, don't let yourself go too much ok?"...

Maybe its PMS, but I didnt feel too good about him saying that. Am I being dramatic cuz he might just being caring? Or should I start thinking "He should like me the way I am" and think he's an idiot for asking too much?

lol u guys are champs.
thanks!

Answer 1

You are perfect.......tell him to mind his own business, he is controling you....this is selfish as he is thinking about what he wants....

Tell him to get his act together or you are leaving....

Answer 2

tell him how you feel and say to him what you have been doing and that you are enjoying and expect to lose some weight soon but feels bad about what he is saying and that you expect some encouragement and not criticism. but really if you think you are okay then so be it but if you think you are a little too big for yourself then lose some but do it for yourself and your health not for anybody else. KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!!

Answer 3

yeah it sounds rude, it would definitely be different if he said it couild affect your health or something in that way. And by the way, situps arent going to raise your heart rate enough to lose weight, jogging and/or running is the key. Or bike riding, and elliptical machines. But if you do it, do it for yourself because you want to be healthy.

Answer 4

look, no one can tell you how your meant to look.
it is your body and with him putting u down ur going to end up going over board. If you are happy with your weight then GOOD FOR YOU, if he has a problem with it then he has a problem with you and i just dont think that is right.

he doesnt want to date fat chicks well u dnt sound fat to me so he has nothing to worry about.

Be happy with yourself and if he says anything again just tlel him how negative he sounds and how upsetting it is and give him the silent treatment.

Answer 5

If he can't accept you for who and what you are, and is already trying to change you, perhaps he is not the one for you.

If you want to lose weight for yourself, cool, go for it. If you are happy with yourself and healthy, stay that way.

If he makes a rude comment like that again, tell him to go bugger himself. And yes it was very rude!

Answer 6

you are as u are dear...as long as u think working out would be better for ur health its good...
bt changing urself for a guy who thinks ur putting on weight despite u working out every night...well its bad..why shud u change urself??that guy acts like a jerk...
ur butiful th way u are...cheer up gurl im sure u will find some1 better coz u deserve som1 better

Answer 7

**** Him! You should never have to lose weight to stay with the one you love. If you want to lose weight, go for it and good luck. But if you are losing the weight because someone else wants you to, leave their ***.

Answer 8

Looks like he is more interest on the outside than the inside.
why don't u tell him " honey ur underware is so stinking."

Answer 9

Go to your doctor or a nutritionist and ask them. If they tell you that you're healthy then tell him to back off.

Answer 10

He sounds like a jerk.