to make long story short, my ex husband cheated on me when I was pregnant with our last baby and as a result he have me an std.herpes (he aparently did not protect himself.)...We are not together anymore. I have not had any outbreaks since I was pregant about (2 years ago) and in the future if I find someone I would like to be with I am afraid that he will feel disgusted by the fact that I have an STD......what do you think?
2007-07-18 08:08:26 · 25 answers · asked by sweetashoney 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ STDs
Hey I am sorry that happened to you. I got herpes in a similar situation and have had it for 8 years now. It's funny that so many people here said they wouldn't be with you cause herpes realy isn't a big deal and once you can explain that to your partner it normally won't get in the way of your relationship. Most people are ignorant towards it but once you educate them they're cool about it. People talk alot, and especially online, but when confronted by someone they like on the subject they are singing a different song. I bet atleast 3 of the people who said no have herpes and don't even know yet and more if you are counting type 1. If it get's rough you can always try http://www.positivesingles.com/ http://www.afterh.com/ or others. Don't be afraid to post a pic it really helps. H-Power!!
2007-07-18 19:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 11:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-07-08 23:55:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have Herpes and am dating a man who does not have it. If a guy is a good guy and sees a relationship as long term, he will probably be willing to take the risk. Herpes isn't the end of the world.
Since you are still vulnerable, you may not want to put yourself out there to be rejected yet. You may want to start on some Herpes dating sites such as:
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http://www.mpwh.net/?CA37565
It is a good way to meet people who are in a similar situation as you. Even if it is just for friendship and support, it is a good way to feel good being in your own skin.
2007-07-18 08:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by Agape 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
oh wow some of these people are super mean---I have herpes---and my hubby doesn't---I had it before I met him and I told him he wasn't scared, nor frightened because he saw how honest I was about it--and how I explaned how the medication works--and when my last outbreak was--I was depressed when I got herpes---I felt ugly---unclean---and unwanted---but as time passed on I learned to accept it and live with it. You will find someone to be with you herpes or not.
“Love is always patient and kind. It is never jealous. Love is never boastful or conceited. It is never rude or selfish. It does not take offense and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people's sins, but delights in the truth. It is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes.”
I hope that helps you.
many hugs and blessings
-big mama
2007-07-18 10:57:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
IF IN THE FUTURE YOU DECIDE TO GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH SOMEONE, IF BOTH OF YOU ARE SERIOUS ABOUT BEING WITH EACH OTHERAND HE TRUELY CARES FOR YOU AS YOU DO FOR HIM, THEN HE WOULD STAND BY YOUR SIDE THROUGH ANYTHING. I KNOW THIS FROM EXPERIENCE OK. I FOUND OUT IN JANUARY THAT I HAD GENITAL WARTS ( I GOT FROM MY EX BOYFRIEND). IN FEBRUARY I MET SOMEONE REALLY SPECIAL AND FOUND OUT HE HAS HERPES. I TOLD HIM THAT I HAD WARTS. WE ACCEPTED IT BECAUSE WE WANTED TO BE WITH EACH OTHER. WE TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER . WHEN BEING SEXUALLY ACTIVE MAKE SURE YOU USE CONDOMS CAUSE YOU DONT WANT THE OTHER PERSON TO CATCH WHAT YOU HAVE. WHEN YOU HAVE AN OUTBREAK YOU SHOULDN'T BE INTIMATE EVEN IF USING PROTECTION. YOU SHOULD LOOK UP THIS INFORMATION ON LINE OR ASK YOUR DOCTOR. KEEP HOPE ALIVE AND HAVE FAITH. EVERYTHING WILL BE OK. YOU WILL FIND THAT SPECIAL SOMEONE THAT WILL CARE FOR YOU NO MATTER WHAT. I DID, I'M EXTREMELY HAPPY. IF I WAS A GUY, I WOULD GET WITH YOU.
2007-07-18 09:51:23 · answer #7 · answered by scooby5_us 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would not worry about it too much. . .I got HPV(warts in my case), I met guys and when I felt things were progressing towards sex I told them and they accepted it. . .unfortunately I messed with the wrong guy and he gave me herpes. You definately need to continue to worry about your health because with an STD, you are more likely to be infected with other STDs more than ever. After I got herpes I tried to play the role and slept with men without telling them. It eventually ate away at me and I told my partners. One of them I told I had STDs he asked if they were incurable I said no he said he wished I told him before but he understood why I wouldnt. He never asked details and I have slept with him since(that was a red light. . .had to cut him off). The other blew up at me and we didnt speak for about 2 months, but he called me and we ended up being together exclusively. Sorry for the life story but I have had experience with incurable STDs for close to 7 years now and although I think I have been lucky, I havent had anyone reject me. Your best bet is picking people that you are truly digging and build up a sense of trust. When it comes time where you feel things are becoming sexual let them know. You should date till you feel you can become intimate, being intimate is more than having sex, it is trusting someone to have a piece of you. My biggest piece of advice is that you should remember who you are despite herpes, it's only a hinderance, it doesnt define you. . .stay confident. If you believe you are worth it, so will everyone else!!!!
2007-07-18 21:31:27 · answer #8 · answered by mzfiar 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
If he is a good person and the right man for you, he will get over it. I have a friend who has herpes and she was recently married. I know that when the relationship started getting serious she was very nervous about telling him, but he stayed with her.
2007-07-18 08:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by kat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Herpes is tough because in traditional medicine there's said to be no cure. Not everyone agrees on that however, so you could look into alternatives for curing it and then you wouldn't even have to worry about this.
To answer your question though, it would depend on the circumstances. I wouldn't have casual sex with someone with herpes as there's no point, but if I was dating someone with it, assuming they were upfront about it (which you have to be!) there's always a possibility I guess...
Thats a tough one...
2007-07-18 08:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by Caitie123 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋