2007-07-14 21:16:41 · 31 answers · asked by Yoyo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yes. My parents are divorced and my Dad paid for the wedding reception, my mum bought my dress and accessories and made the invitations and favours. My parents really wanted to help plan and pay for some of the wedding and be involved as much as pos. My hubby's Dad is very traditional so didn't want to pay for anything as he says it should be the family of the bride that pay. We didn't want my parents to pay for everything though so we paid for the honeymoon, cake, suits and all the extras.
2007-07-14 21:29:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Way back when, the bride was 17 years old and leaving her parents' home for the first time. She was married in the family church, and afterwords given a going away party that also served as a chance for her parents social circle to meet the groom. After the "wedding journey", when the bride when to live with her new husband near his own parents home, his parents gave another reception for their own social circle to meet the bride. These two parties have evolved into our modern "wedding reception" and "house warming" parties.
Since brides are no longer necessarily dependent teenagers, but may be career women with homes of their own, it can be tricky to have a wedding that reflects the modern realities while honoring the traditions.
The expenses of a wedding may be met by anyone who cares to volunteer to do so. The rights and priviliges of HOSTING the wedding and reception are not for sale -- that Aunt Lydia may be contributing the most money does allow her to "out vote" the host and hostess -- and this should be made clear to those who offer to help financially.
If no one volunteers to serves as host, then the couple to be must serve as their own hosts -- a difficult undertaking for a large wedding. Likewise, with costs, if no one volunteers to contribute then the couple must entertain guests from thier own funds. Etiquette has no provision for using the occasion of a wedding to shake down friends or relatives for money, for assistance in addressing invitation, for bridal showers, etc.
2007-07-15 00:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter gets married tomorrow (oops! now today) and we are footing the bill. They did pay for cars, flowers, photographer etc. We are paying the full reception, drinks and loads of other things. We have 2 daughters and had provided for this. However, not everyone is fortunate to be able to do this and in this day and age I think often the couple pay for the wedding reception themselves. The grooms' mum is on her own but stil gave them a lovely wedding gift. This is nowhere near the amount we have paid but she probably sacrificed more to get them this and probably at the end of the day has done more for them than we have. Think of us tomorrow!!!
2007-07-15 12:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine have not offered to help even though they know we are saving like crazy to pay for it.
It has made me feel hurt especially as they could easily afford to pay some of the amount, they just said that parents no longer pay for there childrens weddings anymore.
They do however expect the invitations to be sent from them!
I was exspecting my in laws to be to get on my nerves not my own!
2007-07-18 21:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by Reb1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother bought my wedding dress for me as my wedding gift, we are having a very small and informal registry office wedding and so my gown is a cocktail dress, it was not very expensive. We have paid the rest of the wedding ourselves, a lot of couples prefer to do that, I do not think it is fair to expect your parents to pay, a lot of parents can't afford to do that.
2007-07-15 22:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were married 33 years ago. I was the oldest of four, and my hubby the youngest of four and an orphan. My parents paid £10 over the bar at the pub for the reception!! The rest of it we paid ourselves.
When my younger sister married 13 years later, my parents paid the whole bill for her do - - - £3,000. Her marriage went **** up about 9 years later. Ours is still strong .
2007-07-14 21:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by bluebadger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It was our wedding and we wanted the satisfaction of being able to say we paid for it ourselves.
I think that has made it more special for me as I made a lot of the items for the wedding myself to help save the pennies.
Our parents wanted to help us but understood that we wanted to do it by ourselves.
2007-07-16 21:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by Bubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. We were adults when we got married (what a concept!), independent, educated, and working - so we paid for our wedding ourselves, hosting about 200 people to the cost of around 25K. Yes, it took a LOT of saving and sacrifice, but it's what we wanted to do and was totally worth it!
2007-07-14 22:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We sneaked off and got married in the local Register Office one Monday morning - reckoned everyone would be at work or doing their washing!!
Parents and a few friends knew about our plans and 10 people turned up to throw confetti, then we all went to a steak bar for lunch. For which my father paid, and my Mum's next door neighbour turned up with a cake she'd made.
Don't regret a thing about it - 48 years ago next month.
2007-07-14 21:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Veronica Alicia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Mine didn't help with my first wedding and they aren't helping with this wedding either. My first husband and I didn't ask our parents to help because we were in our early 20's and already living together. This time I'm in my 40's and my fiance is in his 30's, it's his first marriage, but we are still paying for everything ourselves.
2007-07-14 23:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋