She told me this and I thoughts its very wrong and I was wondering if anyone of you have some advice I could give to her so it could be persuasive enough to change their mind of such a ridiculous "honor". It comes from her culture and she is muslim. Her dad literally said: "If you date/marry a christian guy, or have sex before marriage, I'll kill you. What advice should I give to her?? She said really loves her parents!
2007-07-14 20:47:00 · 15 answers · asked by hollicrombie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There is no advie that you can give her---just your support. And with a father like that, she will need it!
And I cannot believe all the answerers who are condoning a father telling his daughter that he will kill her. Cutural or not, murdering your child over religion/beliefs...just wrong. Really shows how fundamentalism can take someone's priorities (their own kids) and twist them so that their lives are forfeit.
By the way, our Christian Bible also advises parents to kill disobedient children. "Stone them to death".
Wow---just blown away by how many people think this is "okay".
Anyway, just support your friend, be there for her, and do what you can to comfort her. That's all you can do right now.
2007-07-14 21:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by Calliope 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to read this If You really are a Christian. --------------------------------------... Should a Christian date or marry an unbeliever? No, a Christian should not date or marry an unbeliever: "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 Or what harmony has Christ with Belial, or what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?" (2 Cor. 6:14-15). Unfortunately, some Christians hope that they can convert the person he/she is dating or marrying. They often think that their spirituality is strong enough and that they can witness to, or motivate the other person to convert through their patience and love. Why do they think this? Three reasons: They love the person and are emotionally blinded, they are naive, and they do not know God's word. This may sound harsh, but something as serious as marrying an unbeliever needs to be dealt with properly and to-the-point. We are not to compromise the will of God and endanger our spiritual well being. All we need to do is look in the Old Testament to see why God says not to marry unbelievers. This is what God said to the Israelites. “When the Lord your God shall bring you into the land where you are entering to possess it, and shall clear away many nations before you, the Hittites and the Girgashites and the Amorites and the Canaanites and the Perizzites and the Hivites and the Jebusites, seven nations greater and stronger than you, 2 and when the Lord your God shall deliver them before you, and you shall defeat them, then you shall utterly destroy them. You shall make no covenant with them and show no favor to them. 3 “Furthermore, you shall not intermarry with them; you shall not give your daughters to their sons, nor shall you take their daughters for your sons. 4 “For they will turn your sons away from following Me to serve other gods," (Deut. 7:1-4). The reason not to marry an unbeliever is that he/she can influence you away from the Lord. Don't be so naive to think that "you" will never fall. It happens all the time. Children If you marry an unbeliever and have children, how will it effect their spirituality to have the parents divided over spiritual things? Is it a help or a hindrance to their spiritual health? Obviously, it is a hindrance. Unfortunately, too many people do not take into account the extremely serious situation of children and their eternal destiny. Yet, because of "love" and because they listen to the hearts over the word of God, many people marry unbelievers anyway...and often suffer dire consequences. What if you are already married to an unbeliever? If you are already married to an unbeliever then you need to love him/her as best you can, set a good example of being a Christian as you can, and pray for your spouse's salvation. You cannot leave your spouse (unless there is physical abuse, adultery, or if you are abandoned). You need to stick it out. Seek the Lord.
2016-05-18 00:36:28 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear first off in Islam it is haraam(forbidden) for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man. The children won't be raised Muslim and she could be prevented from practicing Islam. She knows that she will sin if she marries a non Muslim and she knows she will also be sinning if she has sex before marriage. In fact she can be whipped according to Shariah Law if she has sex before marriage as that is against ALLAH(GOD) and she knows this in Islam. Her dad is doing the smart thing by telling her this but I doubt she will be killed for it.
2007-07-14 21:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her Dad is saying this (probably does not mean it) because in Islam his daughter is not allowed to marry a non-Mulsim and also sex before marriage is a very serious sin. In my opinion, now that she is a Muslim, she should listen to him & also should realize that her Dad is saying this because he love her (not like some of the answers that say the opposite).
2007-07-14 21:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by Red Dragon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the purpose of dating in a secular country like us? It is to know the opposite sex and if given a chance be laid upon. Sex is addictive and there is no way that you will do it once because once you are into it there is no stopping. From one man to another then another until it engulfs your whole being. There is always this guilt feeling while involve in premarital sex : the feeling of being wanted or desired, the fear of being left after the acts, the fear of being getting pregnant and the feeling of doing something wrong even if you convince yourself its right. Please do not wreck the life of your friend. I bet you know the feeling, if you are into premarital sex, of being rejected once the sexual act was done. Sex outside marriage will always be detrimental to the total concept of female liberation. Our body is sacred and we should leave it that way. What is the use of a 20-minute fun when your whole future will be at risk? Remember teen pregnancy is on the rise, single mom household also and much worse suicide rates among young women is in an alarming rate. If you really are her friend, wish her goodluck and support her. Look at yourself on the mirror tonight and ask yourself, am i happy? am i satisfied with myself? am i full of potential of being at peace with myself? or do i feel better as a human being every after sexual acts with different men? And only then, after asking yourself honestly and asnwering your questions from your heart, do you find the true YOU. Love your friend and please don't make her life like yours...
I am not judging you but should I sound like i am, my apology and forgive me...
2007-07-14 21:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by space lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who tells their dad when that have sex?
advice on this can be all over the place. listen to dad, no guy is worthy dying over just in case dad is that psycho. or contact the police or a social worker, as a death threat is a death threat. Or maybe he's just saying that. and don't mean it. I'm black and I married a white man and my dad made a few threats... He's come around, and now they are fishing buds. I'm babbling. sorry
2007-07-14 20:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Kizzie S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a really sad state of affairs when family honor means more to a parent than the life of their child. But that's what Fundamentalism does to people, it makes their beliefs and philosiphies become more important than a human life.
I feel sorry for your friend, I really do. But she must understand where her father's beliefs come from, being that she was raised in that cultural environment, so I am sure it isn't as shocking to her as it is to you.
2007-07-14 20:55:54 · answer #7 · answered by anonevyl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would suggest that you tell her it is a good idea to obey her parents, because you don't want her to die.
There's nothing else that you can do about it, except perhaps support her in the values which her parents are willing to enforce to the nth degree.
She can still be happy married to a Muslim. So let her live and be happy.
2007-07-14 20:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better to avoid. Parents are experienced and surely they will say good for their children.
2007-07-14 21:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love how threats keep ppl in line ! that HONORABLE dad would not be my dad much longer - I would strap a permanent restraining order and move on with life!
2007-07-14 20:51:23 · answer #10 · answered by slaveof12gods 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋