My fiancee and I have been together for about 2 years. She moved in with me from another state about 9 months ago. We were attached to the hip and we did everything together. We started out as long distance and we were on the phone all the time, talking/texting each other. We saw each other 1-2 times a month, we would meet halfway (4 hr drive) or I would fly her here or I would fly to her. I found out I had to deploy 3 months ago and she moved back home to her parents' house. When I was going through training she would call me all the time, telling me she misses me, crying, talking, texting, etc. Midway through my training I've noticed phone calls and texts were less and we were drifting apart. I figured she just started her new job and she was busy. Then a few weeks later, she said she wasn't sure if she loved me anymore. I saw her on a 4 day pass and she was reassured she still loved me. So I deployed to the mid east three weeks ago. I called her 1.5 wks ago, she tells me she met someone 2 weeks ago, they connected, couldn't stop thinking about him, etc. and she said she doesn’t love me anymore. She said she loved me, but not in-love with me anymore. So what happened?
2007-07-14 20:44:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so she emailed me, apologizing for what she said and did. She said she's sorry that she's not in love with me anymore. She also said she's not seeing this new guy or anything. She wants to be single and live by herself for a while. Any insight on what's going on in her head?
2007-07-15 07:08:12 · update #1
Ok so she emailed me, apologizing for what she said and did. She said she's sorry that she's not in love with me anymore. She also said she's not seeing this new guy or anything. She wants to be single and live by herself for a while. Any insight on what's going on in her head?
2007-07-15 07:12:53 · update #2
women have issues ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
2007-07-22 03:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by I AM BACK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was scared of the emotional factors with you being deployed and didn't know how to handle them. Or maybe she just fell out of love with you. It happens all the time, I'm sorry but she doesn't sound like a winner if she left you right after you were deployed. Who would leave someone for that? Does not give her the excuse to go off and see someone else. It will be hard for you, but remember that your not the only one and someday you'll find someone new.
2007-07-14 20:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by countrydreamerrm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe its the long distance relationship thats gotten to her. Without u being there, she has all the freedom in the world. she can do whatever without any consequences, im not saying shes going to or shes a bad person, but theres no structure in the relationship. communication is the most imprtant factor ina relationship. i feel that if two people are unable to communicate then they will end up going no where. i mean dont get me wrong, u two stayed in touch, but its not just verbal communication. u need physical and emotional communiaction on more than one level. i think that may have had a big effect on the relationship.
2007-07-22 20:48:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so wrong!! I feel so sorry for ya. Anyway, u should just be a man about it. Just say Okay and get on with your life. Their could be somonelse out there that will really love and care for u. And not saying im in love with somebody else. So take that ring back to the store to get your money back!!! No wait excuse me, save it in a safe place. So when u find somonelse you really love. Propose........!! I don't know what is wrong with her or why she did that.
2007-07-22 19:44:59 · answer #4 · answered by Soulja Girl! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have basically met as quickly as, you talk a minimum of as quickly as a week, seems such as you deliver "love" or "romantic" playing cards. How do you be responsive to she loves you? How does she be responsive to you like her? Why do no longer you spot one yet another? while you're to be married in 10 months i could think of you may desire to spend extra time together to learn extra approximately one yet another in person. Then the words i admire you're pronounced without thinking it.
2016-11-09 09:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships man... I'm so ******* sorry. The same thing happened with me. Women are needy, they cannot handle the distance that sets them apart from you. They need that constant care and physical attention. Without you there, she was lost and lonely and sought out another mate to meet her needs. It has nothing to do with you, so please don't put yourself down. It hurts like a *****, but its not your fault. Women are too immature to understand the means and terms of what an actual relationship is. They're all just whores.
2007-07-14 20:51:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not that this is going to make it any better for you, but I think that she is having trouble coping with the long distance relationship as well as the stress of you being in the Middle East.
2007-07-22 15:07:51 · answer #7 · answered by amaya7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The other person she met - she was spending time sharing emotionally with that person, building a bond and falling in love. During the drifting apart time, she feel out of love.
People fall in love and stay in love, not because of what they feel for the other person, but because of what they feel about themselves while with the other person.
Sorry you have to go through this.
2007-07-14 20:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's the distance being from her... Even though you saw each other etc etc etc lots, it is still a matter of being with her, though it's not for you to feel guilty about, it's her, she couldn't remain faithful whilst you were deployed. Don't feel bad, it's not your fault.
2007-07-14 20:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by iCase 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you have to go thru this......its hard I know......but, be glad you weren't married. This wasn't really love, on her part......and who knows, she may not be capable of love, in the true sense of the word.......not all people are......
Get thru this, and know, that the right one will come along.....but don't be in a rush.......there is someone out there for you!
2007-07-22 15:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it was the long realationship. a women wants to feel loved and supported. she wants to feel worthy. u may of been a push over and if not then she just needed the attention. attention she could get from someone living closer to her. dont worry, its her loss, she'll regret it sooner or later
2007-07-14 20:49:19 · answer #11 · answered by im all out of love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋