well me and my girl have been goin out for about 4years and she started school and works, I as well go to school and work on average we see eachother once every 2 weeks and spend at the most 2 hours on the phone. When we first started going out she complained i never gave her attention now when i try to talk to her we always fight over nothing. stupid little arguments over nothing at all. Im sick of this I really love her and see her as my future wife but im sick of this shitty relationship. She's always mad now and has a really shitty attitude torwards me as if i dont matter but when i mention breaking up she cries. what can i do girls?
2007-07-14 20:09:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you're both stuck in a rut and need to make that break from one another. Yes sure she'll cry - four years is a long time and you've both become used to the routine. Personally I feel that you need to split - and if she really is your future then destiny will bring you back together when you both have more time for one another.
In the meantime you need to get out there and live your life - you only get one and you don't want to get another 4 years down the line and suddenly realise you've wasted 8 years and resent one another!
Good luck.
2007-07-14 20:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by LilyB7 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay with her and try to work it out. Ask her what more attention means to her. Maybe when she said this, she wasn't working or going to school as much, so she created other diversions in order to take up the time that she wanted you to pay attention to her. Now that you're paying attention, she's probably thinking, "Oh, so NOW you want to pay attention to me, huh?" Could be that or the fact that you're not giving her the sort of attention that she needs. Relationships are whacky. You need to find out what attention looks like to her, not give it to her the way that you think she wants it.
Also, maybe you're both just stressed out with everything you're going through ith work and school. Make a pact to not argue over anything for one day, and purposely not bring up subjects that annoy each other.
2007-07-14 20:13:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
MMMM... don't listen to Mr. Money talks. If so only rich people would marry.
Look, girls have this problem. (Some men do too.) They take ALL of the frustrations they've had at work or school or whatever, and let it ALL loose once they get to talk to their man.
AND IT DRIVE US UP THE WALL.
But we have to listen.
My advice... if you don't live too far away, MOVE IN TOGETHER. I say that because you say you want to marry her. If so you have to KNOW how to live with one another EVERY DAY.
2007-07-14 20:15:47 · answer #3 · answered by Kren777 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her about it, nothing will get better if you don't tell her how you feel.
Don't come on too strong just let her know how the relationship is kind of getting you down at the moment.
Both of you just get together and express yourselves, that's the only way anything is going to get resolved.
2007-07-14 20:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by Ned P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes ppl get in a rut. She might feel neglected, even though it's not your fault. She might be taking it out on you and doesn't even realize it. I would try to plan some time together and really talk about this with her...she might feel the same way.
2007-07-14 20:13:28 · answer #5 · answered by cdavis337 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dont get it eathier.
Its very cliche to say this but talk to her and try to figure out whats on her mind. Maybe she can come up with a solution or both together. I hope it gets better.
2007-07-14 20:14:17 · answer #6 · answered by Virginnniiiaa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well she ether having mood swings or maybe she trying to tell u something maybe something is ging on in her life that u dont know about u know the best thing to do is talk to her ovisly she loves u tho so just hang in there and try
2007-07-14 20:17:33 · answer #7 · answered by Alia M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she loves you it just that she doesnt like not having your undivided attention.
maybe she feels as though you guys are growing apart and have different lives and it scares her. so the only way she can express her self if by having an attitude.
she may be stressed out also
try doing something out of the ordinary when you see her. something special. she'll love it.
2007-07-14 20:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude....her head isnt in it-same thing happened w/ me once.....they cry when you mention breaking up...its almost like you feel bad b/c it feels like a threat
try to spend a lil more time together....just sit and have a mature conversation.....tell her you see her as your future wife (its not clingy) and that you want to have a future w/ her yet you dont think it can hapen w/ all this arguing-tell her you dont get whats going on
ask if anything is wrong (i.e. death in family) and if you can do anything to help her
good luck buddy
2007-07-14 20:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by Nik 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's playing hard to get, you should set your views highter, maybe sight your sight on a suger mama
2007-07-14 20:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋