ok im a cutter and my family thinks i do itto get my way help what shood i tell them ! they dont beleivve me?

Answer 1

explain to them that you are a IDIOT that is seeking attention

Answer 2

Well, you never told us why you do cut yourself. I am a self-injurer as well, and I know a lot of reasons why I do, and why many others do.

It's very important in some respects that you have a voice here, if for no other reason than to feel closer to your family. I also think that most people will not understand why you cut yourself, even if you throw a very informative book in their face. Because they wouldn't do it; they don't feel the same things you do...and I suppose that is just the way people are. I can't really understand why my father is an alcoholic; he doesn't understand why I self-injure. There is tolerance, but we still tip-toe around each other a lot because of our very different problems.

Are you seeing a counselor or psychiatrist? I think that one of the best ways to help them understand is ask someone knowledgable about this about how to approach the subject of why you do it. Maybe, even if they agreed, you could have a family session, where the counselor helps ;you to explain yourself. It's difficult for me to answer this question, because I have no idea how you normally get along with your family. Are you simply speaking of parents/siblings, or extended family and everyone you know?

I would tell you also, that it's far more important that YOU understand why you're cutting, and understand yourself. Seek validation and acceptance from yourself, because frankly some people just don't know how to listen.

Answer 3

Cutting is a serious symptom of an intense emotional / mental crisis. This is something that so many people simply can't grasp. Unfortunately, this is a cyclical state of mind where the intensity of emotion recurs.
It is very likely the desire to do harm to ones self comes out of a severe hatred, wanting to rid the body of a terrible evil, and a belief that some form of punishment will accomplish this. The focus on "attention getting" is likely minimal or non-existent at the moment of the overwhelming emotional intensity as the internal urge comes in such an overwhelming wave of self focus and emotional crisis ....... But the overall result of the cutting may well receive the attention of others.

So, what do you tell them?
1)Basically, you need help to even know why you do this, why you have such a strength of internal turmoil and rage against self.
2)And, you will need help to control your urges.
and to learn new patterns of thought and ways to deal with strong feelings
3) Ask them to take you to a Dr. where you can be treated for mental and emotional problems.
(They will want to check with your health insurance for where to go that is financially covered or that they will assist with payments. You can expect to likely be seen weekly for a number of months as you progress through a prescribed healing process that may or may not include the use of expensive medications, depending on your individual need.
note: you will be most successful if you find a therapist that is female if you are female/ male if you are male)

As a suggestion - when talking with your family, have a friend, or even better an adult at your side. This can help you to be brave enough to address this with them.

Right now times are tough for you...But, there is hope for your future!

Answer 4

You should tell your family that they're right, that you do cut yourself to "get your way." You simply haven't seen the light, yet. "Getting your way" can mean anything from getting an ice cream cone to keeping people at a safe distance away from you. Cutting oneself is a cheap albeit ineffective way to get people's attention and to make them do what you want.

Yours is a primitive defense mechanism. Stop doing it the minute you read this post or face the consequences of being seen as "flaky" and therefore useless, once the scars on your arms can no longer be hidden.
*Addendum
Listen, I sense you didn't like my answer but the truth is all behavior has a purpose and the purpose of cutting is a) the physical sensation which gives the sensation of "release"
and b) the concern and fear the behavior elicits in those around you. The truth is, you are almost infantile in your need to be the center of attention and to receive pity. Pity. Until you figure this out and move on with your life, your life will suck.

Answer 5

ok, so what is there that is "Normal" about cutting? If you don't do it for attention...then why DO you do it? Ask yourself that Q.
If you are doing it because of some weird attraction to the pain, then maybe you need to find a cleaner way of experiencing the high of the pain without shedding blood.

Your family has reason to doubt you and to worry about you. YOU should be worried about you....

Answer 6

Don't try to talk with them. If they feel this way, then they probably won't accept the truth. Instead, talk to another adult that you trust preferably someone like a pastor. Let them know how your parents think and ask them to help you. Only tell them your first name and then be honest with them. You can change this and I know you aren't doing it to get your way.

Answer 7

okay first you need to take a look at yourself and make sure its not to get what you want. I mean really take a look at yourself, does it happen mopstly after they tell you no/ get mad at you?

Then make a list of why's stress (what kind of stress) depression, anger, is someone hurting you, ect.

talk about that liat with them, and tell them you want to get better. you want to stop (but you have to want to) and then follow through. If its just for getting your way/getting people to notice you STOP NOW!| your walking down a path you dont want to start. Its a hard path to leave buit its worth it.

and other help you get better but its really all up to you

Answer 8

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Answer 9

well you should tell them the truth why you do it, maybe your stressed or do it for attenion, i dont know and am not going to judge you if you wanna tell me then fine but the truth is the way to go.

Answer 10

i dont know what you are asking but you should stop cutting.....that is just stupid....you need to see a doctor and hope your family supports you

Answer 11

tell tehm yt u do do it and when u get older ull see that eduaction ids importand so dont be spoiled and everythhing go to colege please!