Why is this?

Question

Why do some girls basically bow down to a guy who treats them like trash? I don't get that.

Answer 1

sometimes negative attention is better than no attention at all.
self esteem problems
watching their fathers behavior can have a negative impact as well.

Answer 2

In all cultures you see this happening to women ...all over the world women are pressed down and taken advantage of...they are hard working women who are doing the best they can at being a wife and mother. No matter what they do they can't please their men because the men are "power hungry" they are not making it good in their workspace...so when they come home they feel free to rough up their wives...and treat them like dirt....they place her lower than the house pet...
No women deserves this treatment....it's power that they enjoy over the women and it's now always physical power it's mental especially ....if a women is told she is nothing...and looks terrible and cannot leave the house that she is unable to hold a job..then after a while she is going to believe his repeated abuse.....
In most countries women can get help and leave that situation if they get some counseling...but that is the hardest thing for them to realize they can get help....
some might feel there is no way out.....
When we read the newspaper we see that many women and children suffer from the hands of men they either are married to or live with....
It's such a crime to witness these things going on in the year 2007 you would think...by now....people would grow up to respect everyone especially their family members....
Enough from this Mama who is very thankful...who has a wonderful husband...
Mama Jazzy Geri

Answer 3

What you see and how a relationship is between two people are two different things.

Imagine that she treats him terribly in private and he does slightly less in public. What if he is merely protecting his stance from being henpecked or worse?

Most of the time this kind of thing happens because there are reasons for a girl to like this guy a lot that just are not visible in public.

Do some women fall into a cycle of abuse? Yes, but treating somebody like trash is your perception. If the negative treatment increases towards physical threat or harm (even increasing mental torture) that's a classic abuse cycle starting and it always ends badly then looks ok.

Want some reality? People fight. They don't get along like peas in a pod. Relationships are hard. Many men do not know how to say no to women anymore and think the advice given to men two generations ago applies to them. "Just say yes to whatever she wants" makes sense when she cooks all day, prepares the kids nicely for you, listens without speaking, and reads the 'how to be a good wife' insert of the 50's. When women have as much equality as their husbands, fiances, boyfriends, etc. can give them, it's a different game. Yes, you do argue. You are supposed to have your own opinions. If a woman is accustomed to getting her way and likes a man do you think that man should lay down and take whatever control or verbal abuse is hurled at him?

I've never hit a woman in my life. I never even yell at women. I actually think up things to do for special occasions and treat every normal day like it is special, but I don't roll over and beg for scooby snacks and without a doubt it irritates women accustomed to being 'treated like a lady' in the 'what I say goes' way, may lead to some apparently cold treatment on my behalf (I'll ignore you, I won't call you back, I'll walk away and I won't answer, I'll act like I don't care because I don't care to be walked all over) and sooner or later reality sets in.

Real men are few and far between and more often than not they are perceived as treating women like trash when they are treating them as equals. Would you respect somebody who did everything you told them to do? Arguments happen.

The problems you are faced with are threefold, 1) if it's abuse then that guy's not a real man and she's basically with him because she actually cannot break out of it, 2) if he's just being mean without this being a response to her actions then he simply is just mean and is as fake as they come and 3) some men and women think they can swap people out of their lives like cars when in reality you get an entirely different person. You can't transfer behaviors or emotions from person a to person b, but people try to because they want to have relationships and be able to leave them at a moments notice. If you see a woman that ALWAYS dates men who treat her badly then she needs to stop being a victim because real men only appear to treat a women badly every once in a while.

Sorry if it sounds like a bunch of macho junk to you, but that's the truth as I see it.

Answer 4

I know how that goes. A few of my friends have been in that situation. And I always think...If I were in there shoes, I would have dumped him a long time ago....

Something about the guy keeps them hanging...I think its the way they treat them nice one minute, and then the next, its bad, and its like a fluctuation thing, so the girl THINKS, oh he will treat me nice again...Idk, I always wondered the same thing...Never really fully understood it though. The few ive talked to just say "they love them"

Answer 5

guys who are all goody-goody and are always nice isnt very appealing to girls. when he says "oh baby i love you so much" over and over all the time. it gets old and sickning. 98% of girls are attracted to a**holes. girls are most likely attracted to a guy that is nice at first and then starts treating her badly but he keeps her hooked by saying "i just had a bad day" or some lame excuse like that. when guys treat girls like s*** they want more from that certain guy so therefore they stay with him bc they think he will change OR the other popular choice, he is cute, nice body, and very known.

Answer 6

Usually the girl has some kind of problem. Low self esteem, or having came from a family where this kind of thing goes on. It is usually destructive, so stay clear of those types.

Answer 7

It could possibly be due to the fact that they feel that they can't find anyone better and they are afraid to get away because, without the companionship, they would be alone. So, they prefer to tolerate it rather than feeling alone. But that's just my guess. I personally wouldn't tolerate that.

Answer 8

They like to get down and dirty?? I don't know. . .it's weird
My opinion is is that the guy is probably hot so they'll put extra effort just so she can brag about how hot he is despite his personality

Answer 9

Because women are stupid. I just learned from that and stopped giving them any respect. Since then, I've never been lonely.

Answer 10

low self esteem