when the day comes where we all have to come before God. She also said that I was not humble enough to accept their religion. It saddens me to learn that this is the way she preaches her faith and I'm more certain now that they are misguided and deluded. How should I tell her nicely that this is not for me?
2007-07-14 19:27:58 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
She sounds strange and indeed she is not humble. She may not get it. Just be her friend if you are her friend.
2007-07-18 08:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dionysus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be humble. Tell her that you are too humble to accept her faith and it is not for you to decide. At least work something on her. You can always give her some space because that recruitment thing happens with most fanatics ( prostheletizers, et al.)
Also consider whether you want her as a friend. Seen from a third party perspective, her behavior is immature and self-centered. She is not respecting your intellectual capacity or belief system. If you want her as a friend then she needs to work it out not you.
If it were me I would ask her if your friendship was important and if she said it was then explain that you respect her and think everybody should be entitled to their own belief system. You have not made up your mind what to believe, but you do not like being pressured into anything and would rather spend time enjoying her company than worrying about being preached at or judged.
2007-07-14 19:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by jct101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the group and as long as your friend isnt going to excommunicate you nothing has changed. Look on the bright side... The Mormons inspire a good healthy diet and orientate their social order around family values, so your friend not only gets to live longer, and find security in a family structured community, but she might even be really happy. But she can always walk away, and a friend will always be there
2016-05-18 00:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by cara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad, yes. There are a lot of cultural aspects of Mormonism that don't actually gel so well with the doctrines (such as the doctrine that LDS should preach the Gospel in a spirit of love and tolerance).
Your friend is obviously young.... There is a common culturalism amongst LDS that states that when we get to heaven, if we haven't warned all of our friends, then that friend will blame us for not sharing the Gospel with them. She has shared the Gospel with you out of fear or guilt, rather than because the Spirit prompted her to do it. That is sad....
As we mature, most Mormons come to realise that we aren't responsible for everybody's eternal welfare.... only for those whom the Lord directs us, through the Holy Spirit, to help. And even then, it's not the baptism that counts... it's just the help that counts.
I hope that helped. :-)
2007-07-14 19:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by MumOf5 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
People of ALL religions need to step back & take a good look at the world at large before they start condeming their fellow man for not believing exactly as they do. Most people picture the world around them in black, white & shades of gray but see themselves in the picture as in color and larger than life. Unless someone is able to see themselves on the same level as they all others their view will always be biased toward what they have been conditioned to believe throughout their lives.
I personally believe that ANYONE who is good at heart, treats his fellow man & woman with kindness and respect, leads a good life and resists worldly temptations will see the gates of heaven REGARDLESS of their religious beliefs.
2007-07-14 20:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be too concerned about being polite in this situation because her attitude is offensive. She said she will be happy to rub your face in it, and I presume see you burn in hell on judgment day, right?
Your a much nicer person than me love, I'd tell her to take a hike.
I am not religious and I have good friendships with those who are, you can have Mormon friends without converting and if they have any respect for you, a free-thinking individual, then they will not insist on shoving their religion down your throat.
Good Luck
2007-07-15 13:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should say:
"Thank you very much for revealing how you really feel about me. It is very hard for me to reconcile the attitude that you have shown me and the behavior of a true friend. If you think that our friendship is as important as I do, I would ask you to reconsider the approach you are taking in preaching your religion to me. I find it hard to think that a true friend could stoop so low and not respect me."
"Perhaps I feel that this is not a real friendship at all. How do you feel about it?"
2007-07-14 19:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by CC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the way Mormons use to justify why people reject teachings that they've accepted and hold dear. God reveals himself in the Bible. When you're ready, get a copy that reads easily for you and let God reveal himself to you.
2007-07-14 20:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that your friend cares about your soul but has a poor way of expressing herself. Please don't fall into that spiteful attitude of dismissing something just because one person is a poor representation. I converted nine years ago and we aren't all that way. I would say that now is not the time for you to hear the gospel. Your spirit must be ready so that you can make a decision based on your own feelings, not what someone else has to say. When the elders visited me at my request so I could ask questions, they were clear that I must pray for my answer, not listen to just their testimonies but truly pray for guidance from God. And folks, no one in the church prays to Joseph Smith...we pray to God thru his son Jesus Christ. I hope this helps and please get info from members not haters. Remember God and his son are perfect but we humans are not. Tell your friend the same. Good luck.
2007-07-14 19:37:45 · answer #9 · answered by rainbowmedicinewoman 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
what saddens me more is the fact that she was probably taught to be mormon by her parents. she never had a chance seek out her own spirituality. just tell her that she needs to calm down on the preaching and that she and you can be friends just not friends who dicuss religion.
2007-07-14 19:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by AMYROACH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A bunch of bull my friend.
With so many different religions in the world we should ALL have FRIENDS of different religions. If we all JUDGED people by their religion humanity would be over. We'd be killing eachother left and right, and I'm not just talking war. Everywhere you walked, there would be a dead body. (Think about it and you'll realize I'm right.)
If your friend believes that you are going to hell, how could they possibly be your friend?
ESPECIALLY if they think that going to hell is what you deserve?
2007-07-14 19:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Kren777 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋