My friend gets hit with a horse whip..?

Question

One of my friends gets hit with a horse whip. I was at her place for a sleep over and she went to ask her mum something when she was watching TV and her mum said "go away" and pulled out a horse whip and wacked her around the back of the thighs with it.

It left a huge purple bruise about 2cm wide and it didnt go away for about 2 weeks

almost every week she comes to school with a new bruise

What do i do.

She told me not to say anything to the schoiol councellor or Teacher.

i also know that her 13 and 11 year old brother and 6 year old sister get hit with it to

Answer 1

That is abuse!

There is nothing wrong with spanking, as punishment, if that is what is deserved. What you described is neither a spanking or a deserved punishment.

You need to talk to your friend, at minimum. It would be best if you could report the situation to your local child protection hotline. You could remain anonymous. Even better, get your friend to call herself. Be there for your friend. Help her protect herself, her brothers, and her little sister.

Answer 2

That is soo wrong, a horse whip, so that lazy biyahh tch can watch some tv? sounds like she needs her a$$ whipped and if I knew who you kids were and where she lived I would knock on her door with some brass knuckles but I cant because you are there and I am here so what you need to do is talk to someone like the school counselor and show them the bruises and if there is a camera get it on tape and have the counselor call a family member that the kids can trust to see the tape and take them if need be and hopefully there is an additional family member that will stand up and fight for them or someone who will take them in who has patience enough to deal with kids, I have heard of fly swatters and wooden spoons even padles but a horse whip, and 1 more thing if it is a horsewhip you need proof and then with the proof and those kids coming forward something constructive may be done and you are trying to help them and thats good but you should also ask them if they have any family that will back them up if they try to get out of this situation, take care and good luck

Answer 3

Yes, please contact Child Protective Services (or if you live outside the U.S. the equivalent of CPS). If you explain to them situation, the fact your friend does not want anyone to know and how you do not want betray her trust, they should handle the case with due care and consideration.

For example, CPS could contact your school nurse, asking her to examine your friend under the pretense of doing a "routine" check. The nurse will then "find" bruises and contact the authorities. As for you, you can rest easy because your friend will never know about your involvement. I know this is difficult for you, but you must notify CPS as soon as possible.

Your friend and her siblings are being hurt both mentally and physically, and each day this goes on will only cause further damage. If you are too scared to do this on your own, thats okay, just ask for help. Approach your mom and dad or maybe a church pastor, I'm sure they can help you with this senstitive matter.

Your a brave young person for taking on this responsibility. But I know you can handle it. Just remember, your doing your friend and her brother and sister the greatest favor, your giving them a new life, a life free of abuse which every child deserves.

Take Care and Good Luck!
Christopher

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Answer 4

Lots of kids that are abused say "Don't tell any one!". You would be surprised, how often victims don't want it to be known that they are victims. You should tell some one, or some day you will regret not doing it.

My cousins were abused alot when I was little. They were hit, beat (I do NOT mean spankings), and even sexually assaulted. My uncle once threw a trophy at my cousin and hit him in the head, he still has the scars. To this day I wish I had said something, but when my cousin told me "Promise you wont tell any one!" I did, and I regret it. And I think I will always regret it.

I see nothing wrong with a spanking here and there, but to use a crop? (which is the name of a horse whip) That's just outrageous. Please tell some one, her and her siblings need you.

Answer 5

If this is true (I'm not saying it isn't, but you just never know), you need to tell a trusted adult immediately. I know your friend told you not to, but IF she is being abused, that is quite common. If she is regularly coming to school with bruises, this is not normal discipline, there is a problem. I would suggest talking to the school counsellor (that's what they're there for), and also the school nurse. Try and encourage your friend to go to them (she won't get in trouble), but if she won't you need to tell somebody. There isn't anything anybody on here can do or say to help you, pleas DON'T listen to anybody's interpretations of whether or not this is abuse, just tell someone who can check into it. Good luck.

Answer 6

THIS is BIG-TIME child abuse!

Your friend needs to be protected, and her parents need counselling on how to deal with children. This is NOT one of those secrets that should be kept. Tell your minister and let him help you think of what you can do to help your friend. Maybe HE can alert the teacher to watch for bruises, then YOU won't be involved. If the teacher is paying attention, SHE should already have noticed the bruises. SHE should be getting in touch with child authorities to protect your friend.

Next time, ask her over to sleep at YOUR house. But most important of all, stay her friend... she needs you to talk to.

Answer 7

Talk to your guidance counsellor at school or phone the kids help line or social services this must be reported right away. I have never heard of such abuse but she is getting beaten physically and emotionally. Get help for your friend right away tell your parents or any adult ASAP. Your friend will thank you for it after, your friend doesn't need to know you are telling someone just do it, you might even save her life. Tell someone now as you read this-please....And good luck.

Answer 8

She is your friend but you have to think about what's best for her and her siblings. She may be too scared to tell anyone. Let her know that she deserves better and that it''s not her fault or her siblings' faults. Let her know that you are going to tell an adult. Make sure that it's someone you trust, maybe one of your parents or a teacher. Once a teacher is informed, it is their duty by law to contact the proper authorities. Just get help. I'll pray for you and your friend.

Answer 9

Assuming that you are a child...tell your parents so it can be reported to the police. What your poor friend is going through is child abuse, and it can affect her for the rest of her life. Assuming you are a child, you may not understand how severe this is for your friend, but clearly you understand that this is bad, or you wouldnt have posted it. If you wouldnt be comfortable telling your parents, tell your favorite teacher or school counselor...whoever you are most comfortable with talking to. Your friend does not deserve this.

Answer 10

You need to report it immediately! That is considered child abuse and it shouldn't be tolerated. Ask yourself this.. If your mom or dad did that to you but you were too scared to turn your parent in and one of your friends knew. Wouldn't you want them to help you without you getting in trouble? You need to tell your parents and have your parents contact the school. This is a serious thing and I'm so glad you asked this question cause I'm sure everyone will tell you the same as me. Please! Immediately report it. You might be saving their lives. Good luck!