Too many problems?

Question

I don’t have any really friends (no I could talk on the phone to, not alone tell any serious too) I live a long ways away for any thing , and in a place I don’t like. I don’t feel smart and I freaking out about going to college this fall (even though it’s a small 2 year school close to home) I have a job I hate, I can’t find 30$ I lost (it’s not my money) as well as spending two much of my parents money, I can’t seem to lose weight and I feel so fat and ugly. My dad and I don’t like each other to much) and I miss my mom (she started working and now we don’t see each other very much) I can never do anything right, or well enough, or even get everything I need to done. People don’t like me and wont talk to me even though I’m a very caring person. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m taking 400 grams o 5-htp because Prozac didn’t work well and I couldn’t seem to take it evey day. You don't have to feel sorry for my or make me feel better, but if you have any ideas? Thanks.

Thank you all so much! It means a lot that you cared.

Answer 1

Sweetheart, take control. All of this negativity is weighing you down like baggage that it is. Most of this is stuff that's easy to handle: Spending too much of your parent's money? STOP IT. Not feeling smart? Guess what, that's why we go to college, so we can get smart. It'll come in time, just do your best. Losing weight? Quit stressing about it so much. If you get active and go meet some people, you won't eat as much and you'll have friends. If you start being positive, smiling and pretending to be happier, you will be more approachable. Plus, the "fake it till ya make it" may take over - you could find that you're actually a lot happier just because you decided to try acting that way. Lighten up - life is short.

Answer 2

hi there. you know somethin? i actually have a pretty good idea of how you feel. i sometimes feel like i have way too many problems or that i am too far gone in life to ever be happy. what you have to do is step back and take a look at your problems. first......the real small problems you just have to forget about. like losing 30 bucks you gotta just forget about silly things like that. next....you must look for a job that you wont hate. maybe you wont love it but you at least wont hate it. work on that. if you are overweight then you have to really want to lose the weight. actually just wanting to lose the weight is not enough. you have to get out there and get active. plus did you know that aerobic exercise increases your mood? im serious, give it a try. good luck. and dont worry, it could be a lot worse.

Answer 3

First, find a professional to talk to even if its a school counselor. United Way has a 2-1-1 number where they can help you find resources, too.

Next get involved in things to make friends.

You need to dig deep to find some self esteem. If people sense that you are down on yourself or lack confidence, chances are they will feel the same way about you. Maybe get involved in an acting class to work on portraying confidence.

Answer 4

Ok u say u have alot oof problems so why don't u tackle one at a time in college you'll meet new people. so just now try to tackle another one like weight lose or your dad with your mom well once u get some of these other problems taken care of.. we all have problems with our moms not being there for us Sometimes...

Answer 5

I have a feeling either one or both parents have been critical of you. You probably have perfectionist traits. You are probably hypersensitive to rejection. My advice is to allow yourself to fail. Just be yourself and don't worry what others think.

Answer 6

it sounds to me like u are your biggest critic....why dont you try things to bring your self esteem up a bit....try joining a book club or a softball team..a trip to your doctor may be needed and he/she could maybe suggest better referrals.... good luck to you.....and try to keep your head up