I have been alone for a long time. I am not close with my family because they are completely destructive and unloving. I am a natural loner so its very hard for me to make friends and keep them. The friends I do have are distant friends that I talk to every few months but no one close. I have been praying to God for a husband for almost 10 years and now that I am engaged it seems to be a trick to it because my fiance is in another country and I have no idea when we will be together again. People keep telling me I have to be a joyful christain even if God never sends me a husband but how can I find happiness in knowing the pain in my chest for companionship will never end, that I will not get a chance to have more kids or get a chance to see what it like to make love with a man who adores me? It seems that God does not really care about me being alone and that infact he may want me to be. Why does God not care and why do I have to accept being alone when I know I don't want to me be?
2007-07-14 17:49:51 · 47 answers · asked by exceptionallyexceptional 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I love you.
2007-07-14 17:51:28 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 47 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Please believe that God definitely does care about you and wants you to enjoy your life!! However, God also does allow us to go through trials in order to mold us into stronger, better people. His purposes behind this are always for the good. Just because you are going through pain in your life right now, it does not mean that God is punishing you for something. Recall how in the Bible -- Job was put through much suffering, yet God was very close to Job the whole time. It's the same thing. We all go through hard times and anguish at certain points in our life and God has a higher purpose than simply to make us suffer. It sounds like you're probably a shy person and that's perhaps why it's difficult for you to make friends. Shyness is an obstacle and sometimes can be a hindrance to our success. Perhaps God wants you to work on overcoming that. I'm not sure what the situation with your fiance is, but keep praying about it and ask God to guide you on what you should do.
I hope you are soon blessed with everything you're hoping for. :)
2007-07-14 19:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, theres some pretty negative answers here. BUt sweetheart, God doesn't nesisarily want you to be alone and suffer alone, but he has a plan for our lives, we don't know what it is. but there's a plan, and a reason. I have seen this for myself, and belive it 100%. God has obviously blessed you with the opportunity to love your fiance. Some people never get that chance. Be greatful you are here and live for him, not for some man that you may not be happy with in 25 years. God is there, and always will be. Turn to him for your support, and appreciate the things that you DO have. Like a fiane. You talk as though your a christian, so maybe you should just rely on God and trust him. He cares, more than anyone.
2007-07-14 18:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you must ask yourself...are you really ready to make such a large commitment as marraige is? if you have any doubts at all then God knows them.
But God does not want you to be lonely...I too am a loner by choice. So i know it is useless to pray to God for more friends knowing full well i do not want them. But you on the other hand..you sound like you actually need friends.
You just have to realize also...that what you think you should have now...is not actually what you need now. And God realizes this.
Be patient a while longer. You have endured for this long..You can endure longer. And when the time is right...God will send the right one along.
Just dont become jaded and give up completely like i have...
2007-07-14 20:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
OK look i undrstand how u think if im engaged than y is my fiance not like rite here with u and that the jokes on u rite?? But I believe that God has his own path 4 u and that once u follow it and keep following that path then its like in the end it will be 4 the better what happens 2 u and its not that he doesnt care. OK if the lord just gave us everything that we prayed for then there wouldnt b a life worth anything because everything would b given to us and its like I believe that God knows that we'll figure it out and through the obstacles in our lives our prayers will be answered.....
Good Luck
2007-07-14 17:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
**** happens.
Everyday people deal with their problems and think they're little corner of the earth truly sucks.
But a major part of enjoying life is attitude.
You're talking like this period of your life is all God's fault and he should personally reach down here and pick you up - hand your happiness to you on a silver platter.
Dude. It doesn't happen like that.
We all have to run our lives. Make decisions. Meet people. Make the effort.
I suggest you take on a different way of looking at the world.
Be positive - you can be in control if you just take the reins.
Get out, meet some people, be yourself and have a good time.
Or - stay in, and write down all your problems, and broadcast them to the world and see if they can tell you why everything sucks at the moment.
You won't be lonely for long if you make the effort to be friendly to others and just do stuff that makes you happy.
You have a fiance? Thats great - congratulations. This is a thing to be grateful for.
I know it seems like the **** never ends - but keep picking yourself up. Because trust me, when you do - you can completely turn things around. Stop playing the victim, and start playing the lead role.
2007-07-14 18:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Joanna d 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you said you are a loner by choice (Why do people blame God for their own behavior??) if you want to be around people then get a job or do some volunteer work, there are a lot of things you can do not to be alone. You can also advertise in the newspaper to get a roommate. Find a solution instead of crying, there are a lot of people that I am sure would love your company but you have to walk out your door to be around other people. You complain about never experiencing LOVE but you do have a fiance, you chose to get engaged to someone in another country. Then move to where he is and get married. There are a LOT of solutions to your problem but they all involve YOU doing something. When you do NOTHING then YES you will be ALONE.
2007-07-14 17:58:18 · answer #7 · answered by whattheheck 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I feel your pain at feeling like you will never really know love. It probably isn't the same seeing as I am only 21, but I have never been in love and I haven't even been on a date.
I know that God loves you. At least for me, when I am at my lonliest I can feel his presence. It scares me to think I may be alone all my life, but I try to believe (and sometimes I fail, but I pick myself back up) that there is a reason for this that I don't know yet. I just know that I have eternity after this life and I know there will be someone there for me then. I'm sorry if this doesn't help, I don't think it would help me if I was you because if anyone said what I just said I would look at them and say "sure whatever."
I hope your fiance comes home to you safe and you have a wonderful life full of love. :)
2007-07-14 17:56:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
God just wants you to be happy. He knows what is best for you, even if u dont think so. Hey, God may have sent you the perfect man standing right before you and for some odd reason, you dont realize it. Or, maybe this is Gods way of sending you ur vocation: to be a nun. lol. you have to think from all angles to understand what God is giving you. Keep on praying to God, and stay faithful. God knows that you love him and in the end, things will come out all right.
2007-07-14 17:55:34 · answer #9 · answered by x_LITTLE_RED_♥_MCR_x 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
whoever told you that God doesnt care should be shot...literally...God does care, even though you can't see it, your prayers have brought other things into your life...You said yourself that you are now engaged...so God has obviously blessed you with something wonderful. I assume that you work, and if you do you should try to make friends at work...or get to know those distant friends a little more. there is a woman that goes to my church who is the sweetest person on earth and shes very beautiful, and she has never been married and she doesnt have any kids...she is in her late 40's and she is perfectly happy. being married isnt everything, i know many people who have gone their whole entire lives without a husband or wife. in fact, those who were never married lived longer than the ones who were from a lack of worrying lol....but i assure you that God does care, and that He will always love you and He will always be there in your times of need....oh and if your fiancee never shows up...track him down and cut off his nads...what a cowardly thing to do...if he does it all....which im sure he wont....
Good luck and God Bless You
2007-07-14 17:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by jlcrit 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Dear heart, I am sorry you are in such internal pain. But I think the problem isn't with GOD abandoning you, it is you who abandoning him. You want him to do what you want, when you want it. GOD does not operate in our realm of reason and Thought. I think you would be able to handle whatever comes your way if you truly Love him and not your own will, ego etc. GOD does care and we all have to accept his will in our lives if we are being true Christians. Maybe this is a good opportunity to review your core belief system especially as it relates to your religion. May he continue to love and guide you in this world and the next
2007-07-22 12:06:22 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋