Do you think this is right?

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I'm atheist, and when i told me mom she started saying stuff like, I should have never stopped bringing you to church, [haven't been there in 7 years], and a bunch of stuff like that. But I don't get it, My parents said that I can believe in what I want, and have any religion. But when I realize what I am, I get bitched at. My mom thinks she can Just put me in a religion of her choice, make me believe all the bullshit she comes up with.

sometimes I feel like going up to her and scream in her face and say "If god ****** exisisted, why wasnt he with your brother when he got shot by that bastard in front of hid house? Why wasnt he there when your dad was in the hospital, and had cancer? Why wasnt he with pap pap, when he had a heart attack in front of gandma? why wasnt he there when I sat in my room at night crying cause I get teased, and picked on at school? Why would someone with so much power let a small helpless girl go through All the crap that I did? Why isnt he putting an end to the war, all it does it hurt many people..including people who have to suffer the lost of their family? How come I prayed for everthing to get better, but it just got worse? Why the **** that! Why is he never there for me, mom? why? mmhm cause he dosn't ******* exisist. that right. comeone with so much ******* power wouldent let a little girl go the the ****

If he is not going to be there for me I'm not going to ******* back him up! I'm not going to live my ******* life thinking That someone is gonna make My like wonderful, when he has not done **** so far.

If you actually read it all, thanks. <3

oh, and the first three people i mentioned died. someone with that much power wouldn't let a little girl suffer all that. and that isnt even half the reasons i don' believe in god. there is pleanty more. but i'm tired of typing :D

Answer 1

I feel your pain. My brother drowned when he was eight. My aunt was killed by her husband who then committed suicide all in front of their four year old daughter. I was teased and ostracized all throughout school. I've cut myself and wanted so bad not to hurt anymore. I still believe in God though.
I think your mom is just afraid. She truly believes that God loves you and that God loves her too. You should ask her why God wasn't there for her and give her a chance to answer. My parents don't know why their little boy was taken from them, and when I have asked they say it that they don't know now, but they hope they will someday.
I think the reason terrible stuff happens to good people is because without bad we would never know good. I think that our prayers are always answered, but not in the way we expect them to. I also wish that the war could end and that people didn't have to suffer. Perhaps another reason why bad happens is that people have the power to choose, and the rest of the world has to deal with their choices.
Good luck to you in your life. :) You shouldn't just believe what your parents tell you, you should figure it out yourself. :)

Answer 2

You are the only one that can determine what you honestly believe. No matter where your mother puts you or how much she wants you to share her faith she has no real say so in the matter in the long run.

She may feel that you "need" some sort of spiritual influence because you seem (at least from what you've written...and yes I read it all) very angry and very sad. Perhaps she's a little lost as to how to help you and hopes that what has helped her cope will also help you. Its understandable, but it doesn't always work that way and sometimes can make things worse.

Tell your mother exactly what you wrote (but try not to yell it at her since she's probably just worried and scared for you). These are legitimate reasons to be angry. But don't confuse anger at God, for non-belief, they are obviously not the same. And its worth noting that often its the people who were most angry at God that wind up being the most devout followers later on. NOT saying that this will be you, just a thought. Either way Christian, Atheist or Pagan, etc. going through life being angry is no way to live, believe me I know. Either way you're going to have to deal with it and get past it with help from whatever deity or on your own.

Answer 3

It's not 'FAITH' that you lack. It's a religion.
I'm an Indian, you know SOME of the things my people went through. But when I look at my mountains, or go to the sea.. . I'm humbled, because I KNOW , NO HUMAN could create such things.

You just don't follow HER idea of GOD.

I know it sounds cruel, but the truth is hard as steel. As it goes "what doesn't kill us, makes us stronger".

The pains, joys of life are what shapes you. Makes you WHO you are.

I read your story, it's full of frustration. It's good to question. I believe in FATE, there are NO accidents, and ALWAYS something to learn from it. Even if it's not apparent at that time.

You can live without an organized religion. But like it or not you DO have faith.
Good example, Vehicles : thousands of moving parts filled with flammable liquids, YET you trust it's not going to explode when you turn on the ignition. FAITH is what lets you ride across bridges over rivers and oceans. Stone made by humans that make mistakes, freeway over passes. You don't KNOW if it'll fall under you or ON you. But you have FAITH that it won't.

Hope this helps.

Answer 4

All I can say is when you finally meet God everything will make sense. There is no point explaining something to someone who hasn't had that happen yet. I know he is real, and many, many bad things have happened to me and my family, too. Believe me. Please read the book; A Purpose Driven Life. This book has helped many, many people; including me. The part about your parents, is no, they can't force you to believe anything, no matter how hard they try. Religion and a true relationship with God are totally different.

Answer 5

1) God does not owe anyone to baby sit/micro-manage your life.
2) You mother believes what she believes and sees your lack of faith as greatly dangerous to you. If you cannot understand her point of view (and still disagree), you have no right to expect her to understand yours.
3) You would hurt her for caring about you. That's a cruel trade. She may be misguided, but your actions, if you followed through with them, would demonstrate very poor character.
4) If you are underage then your mother is still legally responsible for you.
5) The degree of respect she will have for your choices will be built on what happens now. If you are insecure in your choice of atheism, falter, feel bad, then blame her, you will lose her respect for your choices.
6) If you stay cool, make clear that you understand your mom's concerns for your soul, but that you have to explore and find your own faith if you are ever to take it to heart.
7) If she starts taking you to church (and you are underage), then go. Respect her wishes until you are eighteen (no longer a minor). It will be an investment. How can she NOT respect your views if you make a good "faith" effort to respect her wishes as a child? As an adult, it will pay off big. Or rebel and expect to hear about it for years to come.

Good luck to you. Remember, some of it may not be untrue. there is great wisdom in the Bible (I'm not religious and I've read it four times, but I like wisdom). We have no proof God doesn't exist, either.

That's why it is called an act of faith. Understanding religion or atheism cannot hurt you. Hating either of them can.

Answer 6

I think most people have felt the way you do right now. And that's perfectly all right. If you don't question, you won't find answers. The important thing is to remember that things are not always going to be the way they are right now. Your mom is probably scared that she hasn't raised you properly (believe me, as a mom that is a constant concern). Follow what you truly believe. It will be hard at times. But only by following your heart can you be content. Life really isn't as hard as people make it seem. I wish you well.

Answer 7

WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR GOD! no, not I prayed for this or i prayed for that. Have you done his will! God can care less about the things that have happen, because you do not do sh it for him.

I agree with you about religion it is organized and it is the traditions of man and not of God. We see many things happen in our nondenominational church, when you follow his word. If you do not do the things below, God will not manifest himself to you.

DO THE WILL OF GOD

You need to find a home church, be obedient, follow his word, be baptized with the holy spirit, show your self approved and do the will of God (Mark 16: 15 - 18)

Answer 8

That's the problem with free will. It's all well and good until you actually start exercising it. They everyone in any kind of position of authority wants you to stop using it.

As an atheist myself, I want to make sure you are an atheist for the right reasons, not out of anger and rebellion. It's too easy to get caught up in anger towards bad circumstances and to let that poison your reason.

As for explaining why bad things happen, chalk it up to dumb luck, not to a divine plan.

Answer 9

He has never left your side nor, your families sides either. No one likes death and yet for life to continue onward there has to be room for the living. God was there to greet them when they left this world.

They are now in his hands. It's time to stop being so selfish and let them go.

There are time when humans should reevaluate what it is that they truly believe in.

Follow by example. Volunteer your time to those in need; if you want to find out where God is now.

He is everywhere.

Answer 10

I read it and i understand how you feel. We have bad times and God is there. He helps us through them if we ask him. When we are so weak and feel as if we cant go on he gives us the strength for another day. Things happen for a reason and you could help others that have been through the same things. I will remember you in my prayers! God Bless!