Today I gave away my 4 year old cat to a very nice family. I did it because I feel I have too many other animals [2 other cats and a dog] This cat has been with me and my family since she was born and she had her 1st and only litter at my house. There's a part of me that's really heartbroken because I did love her and always will. However, I also feel I need to live a decent life and it's not easy to keep a house if you have too many animals. It's also not easy to take care of them. I took a cat to the vet yesterday and had a 400 dollar bill. I was going to charge a fee but when I visited their home it was beautiful they have no other animals. And the little girls were so excited they had been wanting a cat forever. I am still torn though, I am afraid she won't adjust and will be sad and lost that she's not with us anymore,there's a big part of me that wants to try and get her back and get a kitten for them. Does anyone have any suggestions? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2007-07-14 17:11:50 · 17 answers · asked by ann h 3 in Pets ➔ Cats
Please don't feel bad. You did the right thing for the cat. She will get tons of attention and affection there and probably be spoiled rotten.
When you have too many animals, none of them can get enough attention.
Maybe you could visit her, but I truly believe that she will adjust just fine to the new situation and that if she has a problem. the new family will let you know.
When you get sad about this, just remember the joy on the little girls faces and imagine the cat getting all of that love and attention and not having to share it with all the other animals in the house!
2007-07-14 17:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person who really knows your limits. If you believe it is time for you to get some help in caring for your companion animals, then it is time to do so. You found a loving home for this one that you have chosen to let go: That's the right way to handle the situation. There are so many people who just abandon their pets, not even taking them to a shelter. You did just the opposite - you took the responsibility for not only finding a new home for this cat, but also you did so without adding to the burdon of a crowded shelter.
And here is another way to think of it. You gave this cat the precious gift of a safe and loving home for four years, and then you gave her the gift of sharing her love with this other family. This is love multiplied, not divided.
I'm sorry you have found yourself in the situation where you could not keep up with the demands of caring for all the pets you had, but you have acted responsibly.
2007-07-14 17:27:15 · answer #2 · answered by Windi Lea 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You already know that you did the right thing-if you had to many pets to comfortably care for, then what you did for her was an act of love- sounds to me like she got a good home, do a follow up visit in a week to make sure everyone is getting along well with each other-only if there is a problem should you concider taking the cat back home
2007-07-14 17:19:03 · answer #3 · answered by Dotis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its really feels us sad when our pet goes away from us. To speak frankly what you did is wrong you should have not given the matured cat instead you had the opsion to give a kitten Iam saying this because the cat had spend so many days with you and both of you are attached to each other now it will take time for the cat to adjust with the new owner. In my openion you take your cat back and give your neighbour a kitten.
2007-07-14 17:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cecil R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the decision is really up to you whatever your heart is telling you need to do.A animal is to me a part of my family so me myself could never just give my cats away.I am a little worried cause like you said the cat has been with you for four years and cats don't like change,but they also can adjust well.One good thing i can suggest is keep in contact with the family and you can tell them how you feel and ask them how is she adjusting so you know.I think if you know that she is happy and adjusting well with her new family then this will ease your mind.
2007-07-14 18:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by kittens 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a 4yr old cat might not like to be given away. Just b/c these people have a nice home won't make them be nice parents...did you check to see if they had a vet already, what about supplies , what would they do w/ the cat if it scratch one of the kids...If you want the cat..get it back...they can adopt one from a shelter and give it a good home...having animals is a big responsibilty and I don't think it is fair to pick one to dump and keep the others..get your family back together
2007-07-14 18:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by morgan x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are several studies that prove cats are more attached to their surroundings than to their human companions. sad but true. i love all three of my cats like human babies but i have come to except they would be just as happy with anyone else and would forget about me within a day. there are also studies that say a cats memory lasts no more than 24 hours. it may take some time for her to adjust to her new habitat because she is not used to her surroundings but as sad as it is she probly doesnt even care that you are not there. you did the right thing. you knew you couldnt take care of her properly and you were unselfish in your actions. to try and get her back now would be more stress for her. she wouldnt know what was going on. cheer up and just be happy you know that she has a good home and will be well taken care of!
2007-07-14 18:04:41 · answer #7 · answered by melz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it were me i would try to get the cat back. if you love her then try to get her back. it might not be easy, but you probably could get her back, if you sit down and tell the person you gave her to, how much this cat means to you and how much you miss her, and that you'd even be willing to get them a kitten. if they don't listen to that, then they are crazy, but if you truely want her back, go to them and just be honest. tell them you weren't really sure you wanted to give her away in the first place, and that you should have waited on it a bit longer. if the cat enjoyed living with you and you thought that she was very happy, then i would say to get her back. i've heard stories about cats not adjusting, and it is sad, but if you are in doubt you could also go and check up on her, and make sure she is doing okay, or even maybe ask if you can sometimes visit her. best of luck. :)
2007-07-14 17:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you got your cat a wonderful home. I am sorry your circumstances led you to have to do so, but it sounds like you put your cat first and did well by her. Keep in touch with them to make sure that she is adjusting, but it would be cruel to the kids and ultimately to her to bounce her around by taking her back. I am sure she will adjust fine. I know you will miss her but it sounds like she is in a wonderful home where they can provide for her perhaps a bit better than you can at this time. It was very mature and kindhearted of you to put her first and make this decision on her behalf.
2007-07-14 17:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by desertjewelcats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
^^Ignore the answer about the lethal injection thing.
Yes, you did the right thing by finding your kitty a home. It makes me SICK how people just throw them away or take them to the pound. About being sad, if you really want her back, go for it. You only live once and you want to be happy. [: She would probably like to come back also, a lot of adult cats do not adjust well.
2007-07-14 17:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋