please help me, please?

Question

My boyfriend and I broke up about 4 monthes ago, we were never super close but we had been dating for quite some time -we just had complicated schedules.
He was very honest with me and I really appreciated it, but sometimes he would talk about how hot he thought other girls were, etc - but he would always make sure I knew that it was me he wanted to be with. two weeks before we broke up we had sex, then he went to mexico for two weeks and he broke up with me the day he got back.I later found out it was for a girl he met and liked in mexico (I'm unsure if he cheated or not). A few weeks after we broke up he called and asked me if I wanted to get back together (he told me about the girl and said "It turns out she didn't like me that much, and I realized how stupid i was to break up with you. im orry i was such an ***) I turned him down even though I still liked him
I still like him, I don't want to though
I want it to work out but I don't want to be the desperate one
any suggestions?

Answer 1

He sounds like a scum bag, and you sound naive to fall for his honest crap. I think you need to wake up and smell the burritos. Your not going to work out. Your keeping yourself available to him and you have no backbone to say, hey I deserve better. He sees your that your naive and willing to put up with the crap, thats why he keeps coming back. WAKE UP. And how the heck in your last sentence you type that you don't want to be the desperate one???? YOU ARE THE DESPERATE ONE. Reread your question and ask yourself if this is right? No girl in their right mind would put up with that crap. Have some fricking respect for youself. You obviously lack it, to let someone treat you this way.

Answer 2

Based on what you wrote I would say you made the right decision. If you look at the facts he is always looking at other woman which is a bad sign. He then leaves you after going to Mexico for another woman and then insanely tells you that the girl didn't like him that much!!. By him saying that it is kind of a slap in your face. He is saying well she didn't like me so I will have to settle for you. That statement clinched it for me as it shows the kind of unreliable person he may be. Sometimes it is difficult to walk away from a situation like this but I think you will only be hurt more if you take him back as he will repeat his actions again trust me. You sound like a good person and there are plenty of honest, good hearted reliable guys out there which is what you should be looking for in a partner. GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 3

thats not making you desperate ! but you made the right choice and if he would do it to you once he will do it again he just found out the grass isnt greener on the other side ! thats an old saying and he knows you still care about him so naturally he is gonna call and ask you back out but dont be a matt for him where he can walk all over you be strong and tell him you would like to be just friends and you move on you sound like a very intelligent person so dont let him back into youre heart again

Answer 4

If you're still very young, it doesn't actually matter whether you go out a bit longer with this guy or not: he's very unlikely to be 'the one'.

What does matter is that you don't let anyone, including him, hurt you physically or emotionally, and that if you do have sex, you use condoms to ensure they don't infect you with STDs and you don't get pregnant. And that you don't let any jerks distract you from getting a good education and forming solid, lifelong friendships with worthwhile people. Those are the things that will matter in the long run.

Answer 5

maybe u should see someone else to see where it goes. Maybe it will help put the old relationship u guys had in perspective, and maybe it will give you a new start and something u hadnt expected, like love. I think he needs to be honest with you, especiallly if he cheated, as they say once a cheater always a ........ So keep that in mind, sure everything will work out as it should, things have a way of doing that. C ya

Answer 6

here is my opinion, i don't think it's right that you're boyfriend broke up with you because he hooked up with another then try and get back with you because he realized the other girl didn't like him that much. it's plain crap. stand your ground. no girl deserves him. you do not deserve him. do you like him enough to get back with him just so he'll just ditch you again? like you've said you don't want to be the desperate one. the truth? he's the one acting desperate now. you'll get over him, just like i've told the others who were in the same situation. that's a fact.

Answer 7

He was willing to toss you aside while he acted out his little fantasy, and when it didn't work out he expects you to be waiting for him. Is that it? Not a good prospect, no matter how much you care for him. Next week, next month, next year, he will pull the same crap again. You're too good for this cretin. Save yourself for someone who has earned the right to call you his "lady". Not all guys will give you heartache. This guy will...

Answer 8

yea DON'T date him again! There's a saying once a cheater always a cheater...of course that isn't true with all guys but most of them it is! You don't want to be the Back-up girl...When he's done "screwing around" and finished with everyone else he says he's sorry and comes back to you...Trust me guys can be VERY convincing when they want something.
But save yourself alot of heart ache and turn him down. Find someone else!
`good luck!

Answer 9

I can see how he would be special because of what you guys did together but because of your not so close relationship and his ability to break up with you for another girl he met on v.k i suggest you protect yourself from this player sounds to me all he wants is action. Hope it works out!

Answer 10

Just tell him that in order to fix things you two need to sit down and talk about some things.