Am I being used?

Question

I am 23. I'm a wonderful, warm person and attractive. I'm just stating this so that it helps you to evaluate my situation. I want to know if I am being used or if this guy likes me...
I've been seeing a 31 y/o guy who is cheating on his girlfriend with me (I am not advocating it!). We've been hooking up about once or twice a month since the Spring. He has given me a lot of help/advice so far. I don't want to be naive. He keeps saying he's not happy with his girlfriend and makes reference to leaving her eventually. He's short on the phone when he calls me, but I think guys just dont' like talking on the phone. He calls to check in on me and is really affectionate when we hang out. Very thoughtful, but sometimes a week or two go by where I haven't heard from him. I feel like I'm a booty call and he's giving me lines and mush to keep getting this out of me. Is this true? I'm not looking for a relationship with him, but I just want to know if I'm getting used or could he genuinely like me

Answer 1

You say you don't want a relationship with him, then why do you care if he uses you? Anyway, I am sure he was all "sweet" to his girlfriend too, and now look how he treats her. If he is a cheater, he is likely to cheat on you too. And why the hell are you going out with a 31 year old guy, aren't there enough guys your age?

pshhhhhhh...golddiger, anyone?

Answer 2

You are being so used by this guy !! You mean very little to him,your just another stop on his route.. How many other women do you think that he's stringing along using the same line on you as he does them? You say there is a week or two that goes by before he sees you again? I would say he is juggling you with about 3-5 other women, Which is probably why he is short with you on the phone.. It's is probably because he is with one of them at the time of your call, and he doesn't want to tip his hand to any of his ladies !! Get out of this relationship with this guy , He is no good for you and will continue to use you as long as you let him. You deserve to be with someone who will be there for you and isn't already involved with someone else. If that was indeed your picture in your avatar space, Then you are a rather attractive young woman and shouldn't have any trouble finding someone else to be with.. You just need a man who will be there for you and show you the honesty, love and tenderness that you need . I hope this has helped you and i wish you well in the future !!

Answer 3

It sounds like you are for sure getting used. I mean come one he HAS A GIRLFRIEND. of course you are just a booty call. Wake up and smell the roses. Why would you even be with him if he has a girlfriend??? How would you feel if that was your bf and he was doing this to you? But then again you said you dont want a relationship with him so you are using him as well. You would be the perfect couple. Girls like you should start a club. And then when it ends you are going to want people to feel sorry for you. But I think you asked for it. and all guys say they are going to leave there gf. But he has not yet so why would he now? He gets the best of both worlds. And you well you will get what you have comming. sleeping with a guy whom has a gf. SICK

Answer 4

First off if he is so unhappy with his girlfriend he would just leave her they are not married so nothing to keep him there with her other then he really does love her. It's just ashamed you had to get hooked up with a jerk like this guy.I'm guessing this will be your first heart brake. You will learn the hard way like the rest of us just how f u c k e d up all guys are when it comes to sex.It's terrible what some guys will do to get something different from what they are getting from home. Sorry to be the one that tells you this but you are what we wives and girlfriends call the other woman or to be more precise a home wrecker. You say you are a nice person if that is so then why are you with someone you no has a girlfriend at home and if she fines out about you she will be devastated.

Answer 5

If your story is true then you're nothing but a "pump" every once in a while. Kind of a harsh word huh "pump" but that is how he treats you. You're right you're a booty call. Just a whore to him. You allow him to have a win-win deal. He gets a little tired of his wife yea he dosesnt have a girlfriend I bet he has a wife and two or three kids.but when he is feeling just like he needs a little "pump" he calls you. Alot of women out there that are treated like this.And you have only yourself to blame. and I feel for you there was a time I loved women like you EASY,Pretty,and bellieve anything I would say.So now you know the truth you always have those nights you waited at home for his call while he was home with his kids and wife. all alone in your apt just waiting and waiting and waiting eating Hagen daz ice cream by the buckets. just waiting did I mention waiting? So now what are you going to do about it.You could find out where he lives and show up on his door step or call him if you have his number. But what are you going to do to help yourself out of this perpetual m;isery you're in??? Call a friend and go out tonight to a movie get coffe or go dancing just stay away from guys like that. you're better than that. and deserve better. there now that I chewed on your *** a little get mad and kick some *** yourself. good luck duchess

Answer 6

heh well i think its true. i mean number 1, if he really didn't care about his gf and he was with you, he'd realize that cheating was bad and how great of a person you are and leave her for you. like obviously he's getting something from that girl that hes enjoying and thats why hes with her. ask yourself, who would be with someone when they're is someone else who is 10x better in every aspect? i think it might be a booty call but i think you should see what happens if he calls and comes over and you don't give him anything. just tell him you wanna sit and talk to him. you said you've been seing him for a few months i think so ask him if he wants to go out to dinner, like do more couple like and friendly things than just having sex and you'll be able to see if he likes you. if he's up for the new idea of fun and he starts calling you and asking to hang out w/o just having sex then im sure he wants more than just a booty call, if he starts using stupid reasons to get out of it, then hes probably b.sing and using mush lines to get into your pants. hey im only 16 but i've had enough practice with girls and judging from what i can see in your icon ( if thats you) idk what the hell is wrong with the guy. hope i helped babe, remember theres more fish in the seaa

Answer 7

he is using you....if he wasnt happy w/ his gf then he needs to break up with her...that simple. But....he hasnt...so thats say something. You did set urself up because u knew he had a gf...and that messed up of both of you. But......forget him hunny....it sounds like u r just a booty call. u r beautiful....u dont deserve that....so just forget him. Trust me! If you keep going on like things r now...u will get hurt worse in the long run so just do ur self a favor and tell him to go f*** himself.

Answer 8

I think he is using you. Of course he's nice when your together, he wants sex. He also has a girlfriend.....don't settle for her sloppy seconds. Respect yourself and find a man that is unattached and actually wants more from you than sex. And if your not looking for a relationship.....why do you feel used?? It seems you've found what your looking for. BTW...the fact that your attractive is irrelevant.....I'd give you the same advice if you were homely.

Answer 9

If he really wanted to be with you, he would have left his other girl for you. Sorry, but sounds like your fella is playing you both. Your better than that. I'm sure he's totally attracted to you and you have a great time together, but he's not that into you. I've been there.

Answer 10

Sounds Like A "BOOTY" Call To Me