I am in an abusive marriage and tonite he told me he wants to separate I'm crying so much can someone hug me

Answer 1

HOW about a (((((big hug)))))
I was in a abusive marriage once...you don't deserve this, NO ONE DOES...don't let him do that to
you...call the police and put him in jail...even verbal abuse hurts...email me if you want.
don't be afraid...there are alot of people here that can help you..

Answer 2

Dear new friend,

I wish I could give you a hug in person, and I do want to help you. I know you don't know me, so I respect that you don't know if you can trust me or not. But I want you to know that I am concerned about you and want to see you happy and to be comforted right now.

God says that you have worth far more than any ruby or diamond. But you're like a jewel in the rough right now. When jewels are dug out of the dirt, they look horrible. But it takes some polishing, which can hurt, but then after polishing, they become a thing of beauty.

Well, honey, you just got dug up out of the dirt and it's time to shine and you don't need to go back to that dirt, because you do have a lot more worth than being trapped in a relationship that has hurt you.

There are resources that can help you financially, to help with housing, and for any children that you may have. They may not be exactly what you want, but they are at least a start.

Let me know if there is something or some way that I can help you.

I want to see you succeed, and there are a lot of others out there who want to see you succeed as well.

Blessings to you and a huge HUG!!!

Searcher

P.S. The best thing about a hug is that it benefits both the hugger and the huggee and I can always use a hug as well!! So would you join me in the hug. That way both of us get the benefits!!

Take care and if you want to talk further, feel free to click the link on my avatar and send me an e-mail.

Answer 3

The first thing you need to do is contact a trusted family member and let them know about what is happening. The second thing is take what you need and leave. Go to your family........ Don't worry about the assets, because 1/2 of everything is yours, and he will have to pay support. File a restraining order on him once you are away. And above all else, do not even give him a hint of what you are doing. Take what money you think is half, if need be, but do it before leaving,,,,,like an hour before. Yes he does need help, but I'm not sure if just counseling will do it. Watch your back and pray you are away,,,,,on the road to safety before he finds out.

Answer 4

I am an ex–battered woman. That’s very unusual. Most stay until their partner kills them. Run, do not walk, do not think, to the nearest battered women’s shelter. You can get tons of safe hugs there. I know, I know, you love him, and I am very, very sorry you are hurting. I know how that feels.
Unfortunately love is not enough to keep a relationship together. It sure isn't enough reasonto stay and be his punching bag. It WILL not get better. It will get worse. Please, get out before he comes home. You can easily die in this situation. If not physically, then emotionally and spiritually. He is a selfish, hateful, insecure man. I'm sorry, just calling it as I see it. I'm grateful you have the opportunity to get away from him. Get some professional help to find out why you chose him, and why you have chosen to stay after the very first painful thing he did to you. Also why it hurts so bad to leave someone who is hurting you so bad.
(((((((((hugs)))))))))))and may Peace be with you. Please listen to a voice who has been abused, and reluctantly left. Don't be there when he gets home, please!

Answer 5

(((((((((HUGS))))))))) & LOTS of Prayers for you. May u find the strength you need to get out. I understand what ur going thru sweety, been there myself but, dont let no one ever hurt u again or make u feel so low. Pick your head up, smile, and declare, I am worthy, I am good, and i am better than this. I deserve so much more out of life and u walk right out that door and dont look back. I wish u all the luck sweety and am praying for u. God is with u always, All u need to do is reach out for him and he will take hold of you and the situation at hand. God bless u . You are in my prayers.

Answer 6

Honey ,I give hugs and prayers.God send the Comforter to give you peace and a new joy.
The best weight loss is , getting rid of a bad man. Open the door and shout praise God it's about time.
No person has the right to abuse another.Love doesn't hurt,nor leave scares.
You will be in my many prayers .Thank God you are free of that pain .
love Nana<><

Answer 7

Nothing anyone says will make the hurt disappear, but this is the time to reach out, as you have done here, to people that will help you realize that no one deserves to be abused.
(((((Hugs from a sister))))))) Your email is not open, but if you want, open it and email a sister on here that you relate to, and get some support. Make yourself answer some questions for points so we don't lose you! Know that God is near to the broken hearted, and let Him comfort you.

Answer 8

If you're in an abusive situation you should be glad you're separating. It may hurt now, but down the road you'll realize how good it was to separate now and not end up beaten or even worse, dead. Take time for yourself. Get a job, go back to school, and spend time with your family and friends and move on with your life.

Answer 9

Coming from an abusive relationship myself, you are lucky to get out this easy. Pick yourself up by the booth straps and get things in order, and get out. Many people, like me, will be waiting to hug and embrace you. Don't be shy to ask for help from those around you. Abusive men have the tendency to alienate us from family, friends and those that love us. Don't be shy to go to them even if you feel you can not. They are waiting with open arms. I wish you the best of luck, and will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 10

So very hard. You hate the abuse yet fear being left. Your are likely torn in half about not knowing where to turn or what to do. I pray that the Lord will look down on you and grant you that peace that passes understanding and that He will hear your cries. Look at how many of His loved ones He put through the fire in the Bible. Joseph forgotten in prison, Elijah fleeing for his life from Jezebel, David fleeing from Saul exiled out of the promised land, and of course our Lord Himself, the suffering servant. May He sustain you in this time with His love.

Answer 11

((HUGS))

Sorry to hear about your situation, but, when you heal from the experience and start looking at things differently (vs. as an abuse victim) I think you'll be actually greatful someday for the end of abuse. An a**hole who is an abuser deserves no tears, just a good smack in the head from behind with anything one can find :)