Hi, I am now engaged to the man of my dreams. I asked him to marry me about 4days ago (he was working up to ask me :P I beat him to the punch), We met online and have been together 6 months or so, he just moved him from the West coast to the east. so...his family is still over there and it would be a huge expence for them to come here and it is the same for my family to go there...so I am wondering what to do...help???
2007-07-14 14:40:09 · 11 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Would it work for you to pick one place and have a small wedding there (only asking the immediate family to come) then flying to the other coast soon after for a second reception?
2007-07-14 14:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by Adlai44 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well in that case there's only 2 solutions..either go to Las Vegas just the 2 of you...but most likely family is important so the best thing is wait a little save money..and start finding out what would be cheaper a wedding at your hometown or his..
From there then start finding a date, and start making the list...let his friends that may be in the west coast who can afford to come to the wedding and you can help a little by finding a hotel near you (ie: holiday inn, Marriott etc) and let them know that you guys will cover for a certain percentage....all they have to do is the rest and the tickets..
get the tickets for his IMMEDIATE family and the rooms...
Since it prob would be better where you guys live since you have the comfort of finding caters, church, location and the rest it would make more sense then to do it over the phone the entire planning...
And the rest is to make sure you stay in budget a good way is to try to cut the cost of most things you can include your wedding party to help you out...
HOPE it works..and GOOD LUCK
2007-07-18 12:27:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the wedding is traditionally held in the BRIDE'S hometown but that doesn't mean you HAVE to go with tradition. Look, either way SOMEONE is going to have to be inconvenienced. You could have a destination wedding - meaning a wedding in like the Bahamas or on a cruise ship. That way, BOTH families have to travel. :) These days, flights from the coast to coast are pretty cheap. I just moved out to Arizona and looked into visiting my family in N.C. - the flights were just around $250 or so. It's not THAT big of a deal.
2007-07-14 16:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about doing a destination wedding? That way both families could join you for the wedding, and at the same time they could consider it part of a summer vacation. This would make it fair for both families, and it would mean you guys would have the world at your doorsteps as far as places to get married. At least, that's probably what I would have done had my fiance and I been from different states. You also might consider whose family is more affluent, as one side might be more likely to be able to afford flying to a wedding than the other - in that case you could hold it in the poorer family's homestate. And then, personal preference really makes the call. You guys should hold your wedding in a place that is special to you both.
2007-07-14 14:54:00 · answer #4 · answered by jillagig 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We had the same issue. We left it up to numbers. The person with the least amount of family who would need to travel lost. People will gripe either way but they can't say we weren't being fair.
Wedding in his hometown with reception, casual get together back at mine for anyone who didn't travel.
2007-07-14 14:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
since neither ones family can attend elope and save the money and put it down on a house . No reason for having a big costly wedding when no ones family can attend . good luck .
2007-07-14 14:44:11 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She's already married,she will't have a marriage (till she has divorced).optimistically,your loved ones will see this and refuse factor clean to furnish any contribution.that's the form you will get out of it - she isn't a bride and that's not a marriage
2016-12-14 09:04:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, congratulations on your engagement. You could consider having the ceremony/reception in your hometown, then having a small reception in his hometown later.
2007-07-14 14:53:59 · answer #8 · answered by SuperVixn1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't burden either family. Skip the wedding, have a nice honeymoon and go visit both families afterwards.
2007-07-14 14:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by Lioness 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
start saving up and hold off on the wedding because his family has to come to the wedding where you are at, that simple.
2007-07-14 14:43:23 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Mandy Marie ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋