if not why not?
2007-07-14 13:46:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Oh yes. I'm glad that I had that chance, by the way. Dad in 1993. Mom in 1996. Our slates were clean, thanks be to God.
2007-07-14 13:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't done anything to apologise for.
Forgive? I would thank them for showing me what true evil really is, because it is by their evil that I learned a lot about how strong I am (even as a very small child), what truth and lies are, and what the depth of evil can be. Without turning evil myself. I broke the cycle.
I would also thank them for bringing me into the world.
Beyond that, no, nothing. I do feel sorry for what they will have to face concerning their own karma; nobody should have to face such evil, ever.
Since I had to face it myself in this lifetime, obviously I created this karma at some past lifetime, and hopefully now my own karma has been cleansed.
2007-07-14 20:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have already forgiven my parents for raising me in an an emotionally and physically abusive household, in a cult (Jehovah's Witnesses) that advocates both. I am saddened that they have not yet excaped this cult, although I escaped more than 20 years ago.
I am sure they would like to think that, at some point, I will apologize for apostasizing from what they believe is the "truth", but I've chosen to obey God rather than man and I will never apologize for that.
2007-07-14 20:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by Simon Peter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do both to the best of my ability. There is no point in holding on to negative emotions - especially when they are simply going to be directed at a memory. I believe it is always best to forgive to the best of your ability whether it is last time you will see someone or not - not for their sake, but for your own. Forgiveness is freedom. Apologize for anything you wish you could have done differently, especially if its the last time you would see someone.
2007-07-14 20:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply enjoy my time with them.. My parents and I apologize and forgive each other as we go along...
We are not a family that lets things bottle up over time.. So there will be no last minute cleaning of the slate... we clean it regularly..
2007-07-14 20:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I wish I had been given that opportunity. With my mother, there was good communication, and we had our chance to both apologize and accept apologies. We were both very glad of that, especially since she was getting very little open and honest communication with anyone else.
With my father, he had been in a mental hospital for some 35 years before he died, and there was no opportunity to communicate with him. Indeed, I didn't even know he was failing; I was only informed when he died. I would have liked to clear the air with him, especially because when I notified him when Mom died, he didn't say anything other than "I never loved your mother anyway." I was hurt and shocked, even though I knew he could scarcely be held responsible for his words. It was the last I spoke to him.
2007-07-14 20:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel no anger or animosity towards anything my parents have done to me in the past. It has made me the person I am today. I think anger harms the person who feels it more than the person it is directed to. My parents know my views on this as my father has been very ill and I did not want him to worry about my feelings for him. If I did something to harm my parents, I would apologize immediately so that they would not be harmed by their own anger or doubt my love for them.
2007-07-14 20:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Pangloss (Ancora Imparo) AFA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgiving is a personal act on your part. It is simply letting go of the attachment to anger, fear and hatred. However forgiveness is not forgetting what happened and it is certainly not about allowing it to happen again.
2007-07-14 20:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! How could a person not--I wouldn't want that on my conscience. I think I'd always regret it. Parents are just people too--I think sometimes children forget that, even adult children.
Besides, unforgiveness is much harder on the person holding on to an offense than it is on the person from whom it is being withheld.
2007-07-14 20:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by beano™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is when I did forgive ... even though they didnt know I did
I couldnt let them die without letting everything from the past remain in the past
it helped me comfort them more without the hate or hurt being an obstacle at the end
it felt good
2007-07-14 20:51:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive.
My father always taught us the 'never wear the scars of guilt'.
By forgiving someone, both of you get a release from those scars.
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2007-07-15 11:56:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋