Where are the men with chivalry?

Question

And how did you learn how to act like a gentleman? Because most of the men I encounter do not hold doors, drop thier coats over puddles, pull out chairs etc....what has happened and since when did our men start acting like apes?

Answer 1

I have never dropped my coat in a puddle, but I do hold doors and pull out chaiirs.
Now here is something I've observed. When a man goes thru a door, he looks to see if anyone is close so he will hold it open
Women just walk thru the door, they never look

Answer 2

When women became more independent, and feminists.

Most women I've known, sadly, would get offended, and embarrassed if I acted in a chivalrous manner. Times have changed, and most women don't want to be treated that way anymore. It's the same reason most women always wear jeans or something, other then dresses. They are breaking away from the traditional feminine aspects of societies past, and basically want to be treated like a bunch of tom boys. Fortunately, I'm married to a more traditional woman, and she is comfortable, and even appreciates me acting in a gentlemanly manner, rather then be put off by it. Guys get mixed signals from women now, so there never really sure what women want.

Answer 3

I think Chivalry ended when we began to have the idea of men and women being equal began to take hold of society. We don't act like "apes" we just have the attitude of 'You can put your own damn coat over the puddle if you don't want to walk over it, or you can walk through it like I do.'

Essentially the main reason men acted like gentleman was because of the perception that they had over women. Now that that perception has changed, the attitude of society has changed. That's just the natural evolution of mankind.

Answer 4

I've found that re-enactors are keeping alive the etiquette that's sorely missing in society today. I'm with the Society for Creative Anachronism and a RevWar group, and both are great about teaching manners, as it goes with the personas each person develops. Even if the children of the members are not interested in re-enacting themselves, at least they get the benefit of learning good manners.

Answer 5

sadly chivalry of the new generation died along with 70s classic rock..

currently only a small percentage of the extreme upper class have chivalry..

this is due to the current popular trends and the ways kids act these days

Answer 6

The loss of "chivalry" was the price of equal rights for women in society. Sorry, but you don't get to have it both ways. You want to be treated like a treasured delicate flower? Quit your job and get back in the kitchen.

Answer 7

Dalijack made a point about us women. But Dalijack I am not like the majority you described-I plan on marrying a gentlemen and I plan on being a woman with class-I already am!

Answer 8

I am here in northwest Harris County Texas.

I have practiced chivalry for over a half-century.

When the recipient reviles me, I redouble my efforts just to jerk her chain!

Answer 9

It goes with women always being barefoot and pregnant.

Equal rights goes both ways, and men a free from those offensive stereotypes too.

Answer 10

i did not grow up around females (no mom, sisters) so there was a kind of mystique about females, and consequently, i try real hard to treat them gently and use some of that 'chivalry'.