We own our home, 2 cars, blah blah blah. I don't have an answer as to why we waited forever, but we wanted to get married and he wanted a wedding, so we are having one. Our invitations, in order to include our children, read: Nicholas, Austin and Kyle Request the honor of your presence as their mother Mary Michelle marries their father Kevin Lyle etc, etc, etc. I thought it was a nice way to incorporate our whole family, but we have been getting a ton of flack. Do I blow them off or redo my invites? BTW, we are totally footing the bill.
2007-07-14 13:08:36 · 17 answers · asked by Missouri Gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The whole thing sounds kind of creepy to have a wedding when you finally decide to do the right thing. I suppose you also put "cash gifts only" right there on the invite.
2007-07-15 07:30:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about the flack. This is YOUR wedding. Do what feels right to you.
When I got married my now 22 year old son was 10. We announced our own wedding, as it wasn't a first and we were paying for it. What we did do was talk to the Justice of the Peace who officiated. After some time together, the only time the word "Step-Dad" was used, was on paper. As far as they were concerned, that was his son, and that was his Dad. These feelings were in place BEFORE the wedding. My husband, and I, wanted my son to feel he was truly part of OUR lives, in particular, my husband's life. The JP came through with flying colors incorporating the vows to include my son. Also, my husband gave him a band during the ceremony, to make it "Official". That was in 1995. My husband passed in 2004. My son wore that band until it no longer fit. He still has it and can't decide, whenever it is he gets married, if he'll wear his band or his Dad's.
2007-07-18 07:08:54 · answer #2 · answered by elewishs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Do YOU like the way that the wedding invitations read?
- I think it is a fantastic way to include your children because they are obviously very important parts of your life.
2) Who is giving you flack and does it bother you, your husband, or your sons?
- If it is family that is giving you flack, approach them and discuss it with them, try to understand why they feel the way they do and try to get them to understand why you feel the way you do. If it is friends ... shouldn't they be supporting what you want on this happy day?
3) Remember that it is your happy day, that it is your moment, and that you are paying for it all. Just do what makes you happy and makes you feel right.
2007-07-14 13:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by jane9715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already bought the invites then use them since its not a HUGE breach of ettiquete.
If you havn't I would change the wording a bit.
Something Like:
Ms. Susan Margaret Jones
and
Mr. John Michael Kent
along with their children
Nicholas, Austin, and Kyle
request the pleasure of your company
as their family becomes one on (or as they celebrate and cement their family bond on)....
Some people will give you flack and say it's tacky because you are mentioning children out of wedlock. I don't agree because they ARE part of the family, but your names should go first since the children aren't paying for it.
The way you have it now is a teensy bit out of order but there really isn't a ton of ettiqute on if bride/groom's kids go on invites yet because its a modern development....just lots of opinions. :)
2007-07-14 13:13:03 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding! Do what you want, I think its a great way to make your kids feel like they are a part. One thing I've learned in planning my wedding is that what most people consider "rules" are really just guidelines. Its your day & you may regret not doing it a certain way just to please others. Plus, they are just invitations- definately not the most important part of the wedding & not something that you should get too stressed about.
2007-07-15 06:15:45 · answer #5 · answered by sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it sounds like a great invite. People may feel that since you have three kids, a home ect. that you shouldn't be having a wedding. If you want you could add something to the effect that you have everything you need, just come and celebrate with us no gift necessary.
2007-07-14 13:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them gab, it's your wedding and the most important thing I think is that you are bringing the children into it...you go MOM! I wouldn't redo the invites at all, they sound adorable and now a days anything goes! Congrats on your long awaited wedding, you deserve it!
2007-07-14 16:02:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is giving you a hard time about this? That's ridiculous, you're paying for the whole thing you get to do what you want. She who wields the checkbook, etc. I think it's beautiful that your children on your invitation and I'm seriously old fashioned. Are you supposed to pretend that you don't have kids or something? Tell people you paid for it, and you're doing it your way.
2007-07-14 15:16:01 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the invitation sounds sweet. The problem is that people are very traditional and freak out at the slighest difference. The thing is, in this day and age, nothing is traditional anymore. Especially since you are paying for everything, ignore everybody and do what you want.
2007-07-14 13:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the invitations sound fantastic. For some reason, lots of people freak out if wedding stuff isn't 100% traditional. When my husband and I got married last year, we had our invitations read, "The bride and groom request your presence..." instead of our parents' names. If it's what y'all want, you should leave it. And congratulations!
2007-07-14 13:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by ocs19 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋