Dating a guy I REALLY like who has no Job... NEED ADVICE?

Question

yes i kno what you all are gonna say.. why date him in the first place when he has no job. well trust me that not even the end of it.. he was locked up before being with the wrong ppl at the wrong time. hes tryna make a change but its like for some reason its kinda boring me a bit that i have to pay for mostly everything. maybe cuz im not use to dating a guy like this but he really makes me feel good. hes very understanding and we have so much in common its scary. but neway i gave him money this week so that he can travel because i guess he went to an employment agency and they gave him places to got thats hiring. i really hope he gets something because i dont want this to be the reason why we stop talking to each other. neway i need ya advice on what you think i should do and what ya would do if ya was in my shoe. i know they are gonna be alot of ya that say im stupid... BUT EVERYONE DESERVES A CHANCE. im also thinkin we should stay on the dating status til he get his self settled

Answer 1

i am with you...when i meet my husband he didnt have a job either but he found ways to make up for that. ex. watch my son while i worked. that saved me alot of money right there. but at the same time i gave him $20 or $30 a week so he could still feel like a man. So if you dont have kids then do other things to make him feel like a man still...dont put him down when he is down and out. cuz one of these days he will have a job and you wont. so you will lean on him to support you right? and what comes around goes around.....and i do believe that cuz my husband supported me when we moved and took care of the bills. so he was grateful for what i had did for him........he also was in prison.so if you really love him and care about him help him out.....but now there is a differnce between a moocher and someone who is really trying.....

Answer 2

Everyone does deserve a chance, but instead of giving him money, why not take him to the employment agencies, etc.? That way you can be sure he's really looking for the jobs and not just taking your money. There are ways you can support your guy without giving him money, and if he doesn't like it, then you know where his feelings really stand.

You deserve a guy who likes you because you're a great girl, not because you're a cash machine. You're smart to keep it very casual dating status until he gets a job and gets himself settled. If he's serious about the relationship and you, he'll be cool with that.

Answer 3

YES!EVERYONE DESERVES A CHANCE!You need to get 2 jobs so you can support him and any kids you make with him.You see all you have to go by is what he has done in the past up to th present.You cannot go by what you HOPE he will do in the future.Date him if you wish because you will anyway, but you need to make him have his own place get a job transportation and stand on his own 2 feet before you get emotionally involved and start doing something stupid like making out with leads to sex and we all know sex makes babies.THIS is how you give him a chance.No one MADE him be at the wrong place at the wrong time with the wrong people.He did that himself and chances are he is guilty and lying to you.Give him a chance, but not by dating him and making babies with a guy who has no job and is in jail for being stupid.

Answer 4

I've been there and done that. Promise I'll never go back.

You are starting off bad. The way you find a man is what you have to do to keep that man. Now see right now you are paying for everything and giving him money when he needs it. When he do get on his feet he is going to want you to do the same thing you are doing now, and when you refuse he is going to start saying you changed and all this crap. Trust me I've been there in my younger days. It wasn't that I change, it was just that I was tired of having you back all the time and when it was his turn to have my back it was always some ****.

Enjoy him for now......I was about to say if he wants to take you out, but you are the one taking him out.

Girlie just find you self a new man. He needs to get his self together before he get's invoved with a real women. That is if your a real women?

Answer 5

OK QUEEN SAVE A CON: NO REALLY YOU PUT IT OUT THERE LETS BE REAL: DESERVING A CHANCE TO BE AN ALL DAY SUCKER IS ON YOU. AND HOPING NEVER GOT ANYBODY NOTHING. HE NEEDS TO PUT HIS BACK TO THE GRINDSTONE LIKE YOU DO TO GET YOUR MONEY. THEY LAME LINE WRONG PLACE WRONG TIME: CRAP HE KNOW WHO HE WAS WITH JUST DIDNT THINK ABOUT GETTING CAUGHT UP. JUST DONT REACH IN YOUR POCKETS ALL THE TIME. FIND SOME PLACES TO GO WHERE YOU NOR HE HAS TO PAY. LIKE THE LIBRARY, EMPLOYMENT AGENCIES, PARKS, LONG WALKS. HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE HE GOT OUT? ONCE THE P-SPELL WEARS OFF YOU'LL SEE A BETTER LIGHT. WE GOT SOMETHING COMMON DIDNT WORK FOR TOO LONG FOR BOB&WHIT EITHER.

Answer 6

What he really needs is your support. By that I mean encouragement. If he really want-s a job he needs to prove it. McDonald's should hire him. It's not a glamorous job but al least its honest. If he hasn't finished high school he needs to get a GED. Take some college classes. Get his feet on the right path. Anyone can do it. It doesn't matter who he is or where he comes from. There are people in prison going to school today because they have people supporting them. Good luck to both of you.

Answer 7

It sounds like you've already made up your mind what you're going to do and you just want us to say it's okay. Well, if it's okay with you, it's okay with me. If he's REALLY trying to get a job, then he deserves a chance, but if he's being picky and choosey about the jobs, he's not really looking.If you're broke, you take what you can get. Personally I would not put up with it for too long, but I'm not you , you're gonna do what you're gonna do, but really think about how much further you are willing to go.

Answer 8

I think it's great you gave him a chance and if he's looking for a job that's great when he gets a job he should pay you back the money

Answer 9

there are many sugar daddys are out there and there should be as many sugar mommys.
why not keep dating and supporting your boy, as long as it makes you feel very good.

my only precaution is that dont let it carried away - i mean spend within your llimits and never dig into your savings!

hopefully he finds somethings so that this relationship gets on an equal level, it will last longer this way!

good luck!

Answer 10

give him a chance! I agree, we don't chose who we fall in love with. Just wait it out until he gets settled. If he turns out to be chronically unemployed and bumming money off you, then you know it's not real and move on!