I am a woman who has been dating another woman who just told me recently that she has a solid relationship with a man who she calls her husband since they have been in a relationship for more than 10 years. She never told me this because she was afraid I would runaway from her. I tried to break it up three times but she would not let me and now her man/husband called me and thanked me for making her happy. I am absolutely stunned by all this because I do not date married men or women or date anyone in a committed relationship. I like her alot and she likes me a lot saying she loves me and misses me when I try to distance myself. Her man never asks to join or anything because we are both not into that but he made it a point to call me and ask me to take care of her and make her happy. This is not my usual dating pattern but I have found myself in it by her not telling me at the beginning that she was already in a committed relationship. What should I do. Please help!
2007-07-14 11:43:16 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OOH THE DRAMA: YOU HAVE OPENED UP A WHOLE NEW BAG OF CRAP FOR YOURSELF. YOU ARE HER PLAY THING. SHE HAS BEEN WITH HIM FOR 10 YEARS SO FAR. WHO KNOWS WHAT'S IN HER HEART: BUT I DONT THINK ITS LOVE. YOUR HEART MATTERS TO YOU? IF IT DOES THEN GO AND BE WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN LOVE YOU FOR REAL. PLAY THING: SHE IS A LIAR, DIDNT GIVE YOU A CHANCE TO SAY IF YOU WANT HER AND THE DRAMA SHE COMES WITH. YOU CAN LEAVE ANY TIME YOU WANT : THE KEY IS IF YOU WANT TOO RIGHT. AND NOW HE GIVING YOU POINTERS. HAHA NEXT HE WANT TO VIDEO YOU BOTH. A BAD SITUATION JUST WAITING TO GET OUT OF HAND. YOU START LOOKING FOR A NEW PLACE TO BE.
2007-07-14 11:53:54 · answer #1 · answered by roughdelicate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are adamant in your view that you are not to be involved with anyone who is in a committed relationship, you should not allow this woman to tie you down. Ok so her guy is saying you should make her happy, does that mean he's going to break up with her? If he's staying with her, then you are sharing your girl, unless you are willing to do that, then walk away it's not worth the trouble. Find someone that will be devoted to you and you only.
2007-07-14 11:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She lied to you. It was obviously easy for her to do, since she did it and you had no idea. You have to wonder what else she is lying to you about. There is also the point that she cheated on her husband with you. If she broke it off with him to be with you, would you worry that she would cheat on you with someone else? It is odd that her husband called and thanked you for making her happy. Have to wonder if it is a loveless marriage of convenience.
2007-07-14 11:48:44 · answer #3 · answered by harleychic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't feel comfortable dating her if she has a boyfriend already. Or tell the man and if he is uncomfortable with you dating her then STOP!
2007-07-14 11:46:39 · answer #4 · answered by Annie B. 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow what are you thinking do really think you will ever be truly happy with this situation?
2007-07-14 11:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a threesome, that way, EVERYONE will be happy! :-)
2007-07-14 11:49:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋