I am scared to death! I hate being in the spotlight, and just the thought of having a hundred plus pairs of eyes on me all at the same time makes physically ill. Any advice?
2007-07-14 10:37:23 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't you think that if I'm walking right next to her and all eyes are on her, they'll all be on me, too?
2007-07-14 10:44:42 · update #1
Like Nike says - just do it. This is your a special day for your daughter and you pretty much gave up the right to wig out like this when you had a kid.
2007-07-14 11:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eyes will be on BOTH of you, especially the bride. Think of it this way. the eyes on you, are of admiration. That you are "Giving" your daughter to another man, something that is not easy for father's to do.
As far as the spotlight, focus on your daughter and your future son-in-law, and while walking down that aisle, of her happiness.
It's kind of like people nervous about giving a speech. If they have a focal point while speaking, it makes it easier to deliver the speech.
You have been given a great honor, giving your daughter's hand in marriage. That itself is something fathers struggle with and sounds like your past that part.
Again, just focus on the joy of the occasion.
If all else fails, tie a string, tightly around your finger. Some of the fathers I've dealt with, this has worked. It keeps them focused on what they need to do and not on who's watching them.
2007-07-19 04:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by elewishs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Troy...first things first...this is your daughter and her future husband's day...yes, you will be in the spotlight momentarily, but the FOCUS will be on your daughter walking down that aisle...that might help you in being a little less nervous. Plus, if you are having a reception, there might be a father-daughter dance, where, again, momentarily, the spotlight will be on you. But, remember, although the spotlight might be on you for a few moments, it's worth being nervous and flustered because your daughter has found the man of her dreams...and you're there to share that. Enjoy this time while you have it!
2007-07-14 11:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by bitadkins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lock eyes with either the groom, the minister, the maid of honor...anybody at the front. (don't pick the cieling, random wall, or someone in the side pews because in pics you will look googly eyed and unatural) Attention will be 80% her, 20% you so don't worry. Practice until you get comfortable or until you can fake being comfortalbe so you don't look too nervous in the pics. If you really can't handle it just be honest with your daughter and ask if someone else can escort her.
Put one foot in front of the other and breathe honey. I hate being in the spotlight so I understand where you are coming from. As the bride though I really can't get away from it....
You can also cut your spotlight time in half. Halfway down the aisle have the groom come meet you and escort the bride to the alter. You will be in your seat before anyone notices you too much. Let your daughter in on your stage fright and you can have it symbolize that they will complete their journey in life together.
2007-07-14 12:40:12 · answer #4 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should handle it with pride, it is such a blessing to be able to walk your little girl down the aisle, yes you will be nervous, but once you get a look at her in her gown, you will probably cry like most fathers and you will remember all the times when she was little, and how she is now grown up. It is her day and yes people will stare, so you look as handsome as you can be in your tux, and you stick your chest out with pride, the opportunity to walk your daughter down the aisle is honor and a blessing, and once you see the photos you will be glad that you did. How would you have felt if she wanted someone else to walk her down the aisle. As the one who took care of her, nurtured her, counseled her, and dried her tears, this is you job and duty as a father :) be proud that she asked you and look your best, good luck and congratulations :)
2007-07-21 06:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have this much anxiety & you don't think you can just focus on being there for your daughter, I would talk to your family doctor about possibly getting a 1 time dose of Xanax or a mild sedative to help calm your nerves and get you through the ceremony. Whatever you have to do, do it! This walk may seem overwhelming but, it will mean the world to your daughter. If you focus on the altar & don't look at the guests that may help too. Good luck!
2007-07-20 22:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by ` 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pick either a person closer to the altar or a spot on the wall and look at that. Don't look around at anyone else. Think of a good joke to tell your daughter right as they open the doors and you'll both have a smile on your face. For fun trade silly knock knock jokes under your breath as you walk.
Get any tears out of the way the night before at rehearsal. She'll thank you for it and you'll be glad about it too.
Good Luck!
2007-07-14 10:49:08 · answer #7 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ever since I was a little girl I dreamed of my dad walking me down the aisle. I always thought it would be a big deal for me and that my dad, my hero, will be there to support me. That is what you are there for to support her! Your daughter is getting married and it just might break your heart but focus on her it is her big day a day she has dreamed of all her life. Like they say one step at a time.
2007-07-20 17:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Different Beauty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will handle it with grace and maturity! Your daughter wants you to be at her side as she leaves her single life and joins with her husband to start a beautiful union.
Focus on her, think about how beautiful she looks, memories of her childhood, anything it takes to get down that aisle. Practice walking the aisle and count the steps it takes to get to the end. You can count them in your mind as you walk with her. Remember, this is her special day and she wants you to be a part of it.
2007-07-14 13:42:15 · answer #9 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about your daughter and the love you feel for her as you walk her down the aisle. Yes, you're right, everyone will be looking at you...but if you can focus on her and her happiness it might ease your anxiety.
2007-07-21 06:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Pineapple Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋