age differences?

Question

im 16 and this guy who is 20 likes me, is that in your opinion a too big of an age difference??

i have no questioning about if i want to date him, im going to do what i want no matter what any one says.
im just wondering what your opinion is.

Answer 1

huh, when I was 19, I was dating a man who was 36!!
im not 24, and my boyfriend is 28. age does not matter....

So long as your happy and feel safe (and your parents dont have to much of a hissy fit when you tell them he's 20) then go for it..

Your parents might have a problem with it, because your only 16, but they care for you and your dad knows what 20 yr oild boys are like!! so listen to them, and let them meet him, them they'll grow to trust him.

Be safe!

Answer 2

I think if you were 18 that it wouldn't be that big of a difference, because people date and even get married who are 4 years apart and it happens a lot. I would go with someone 18 at the most and then when you hit the age of 18 the field is open and you can date 90 year olds if you want to...but hold off on the 20 year old for now.

Answer 3

Age differences mean less and less the older you get. If you were 6 and he was 10, it would be inconcievable. If you were 50 and he was 54, it would be negligible.

Where you're at right now, to be honest, I think this guy has issues. Any 20-year-old who has a crush on a 16-year-old obviously has some sort of self-esteem issues, probably stemming from feelings of inadequacy about his own place in life. A desire to recapture his youth because he's afraid to be an adult, or some such jazz.

Besides age, there's also the issue of legality here. This guy can go to jail if he dates you--you realize that, right?

Answer 4

It's not the age difference it's the timing of the difference. If you were 21 and he was 25 no big deal, but 16 and 20, that could be a problem for him.

Answer 5

4 years isn't that much of a difference. When you're 60, he'll be 64! However, most people do most of their maturing around 18-20, and he'll be more mature at 20 than you are at 16. Having said that, (fact) guys mature slower than girls, so there might not be too much of a maturity gap.
At the end of the day you're going to go out with him if you want to, age difference or not. Are you canvassing opinions to make you feel better about it? Relax, there ARE a lot worse things to worry about so you may as well go ahead and enjoy yourself. Save your worrying for something really serious.

Answer 6

four yrs is not a very large age difference in the aspect of numbers. however, in maturity it is greatly large. he is much more advanced than u in many ways and to b with him might not be the best option at this time. If he really likes you perhaps the two of u could try being friends for a yr or 2. It would give u an oppurtunity to grow and be more on his maturity level. Plus ull no each other quite well by that time and will hopefully be able to have a real mature adult relationship. Good luck!

Answer 7

YES. The reason is because you are still a minor and when you are young, one year makes a whole lot of difference because of the maturity levels each age has. If you were 21 and the guy who likes you is 25, then the age difference is ok, but you are a minor and you can't date him. Its not right and he should know that.

Answer 8

Check your local laws before engaging in any activity that could get the guy arrested. Personally, I don't think this is a very wide gap. I dated a 24 year old at 15, and that was fine. Just be careful, as always.

Answer 9

What everybody else said -- it's wrong because he is 20 and you aren't 18 yet.

If he was 24 and you were 20, it would be perfectly okay. However, as it stands, you should avoid this guy. At least for a couple of years.

Answer 10

Yes because you are only 16. Wait a few years til you get older and if you still like each other then go out. He is 20 and could mess with you and hurt you.